He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

Just because he hasn't his child doesn't stop you taking yours.

😂I don't consider sausage dog owners niche.

I was asking if there are groups just for 'donor' children.

Has anyone actually met his children? If not, I wonder if he's joined the group to prey on single parents

Doner children??

Oh 🤦‍♀️!!

Read the OP' s posts.

No one is quite sure what she means.

Tinder etc is far easier than joining a group and pretending you have kids- surely.

Made me think of About a Boy.

Like Hugh Grant? They are grown women, I'm sure they can handle him. Not every man is a bad person.

I think the person you are quoting is saying it like that as a joke. Doner vs Donor. Doner kebab etc. I don’t think it’s because she doesn’t know what donor conceived children are.

More likely a typo?

We are mostly donor children.

She's been asked several times if she means she herself and the other parents were conceived by IVF/donor egg/sperm OR if their children were.

She refuses to answer.

It's nothing to do with kebabs- that's a first for this thread😂

Man in social group attempts to socialise. What a bastard!😁

And what if he didn't... Then he'd be a creepy lurker...

Then don’t go.
If he only has his 50:50, that’s a lot of time without his child(ren). Is he expected to stay at home for half of his time because he doesn’t have his kids with him?

Actually the Doner kebab children joke was made very early on by someone else. Whether that’s because of a typo or people who just can’t spell I have no idea. People on mn love to laugh about bad SPAG etc on here.

And as I pointed out much earlier. Despite the OP wording it very weirdly “we are donor children”, groups for parents who have used donors to conceive are very normal. She should have said we are all parents of donor conceived children. She didn’t. But it’s what you’ve fixated on for some reason.

I’m afraid I agree with you OP. Trust your gut instinct, and for whatever reason this guy is giving you the heebies, so steer clear. You definitely don’t need anyone’s permission to be wary of this or any man

Surely, someone having a child by donor sperm must know what they are signing up for?

Quite.

Depends how fit he is

A lot more competition on an app. I think it’s something like 20% of men on there getting all the attention and the other 80% barely any. There are plenty of men on forums (yes even on MN) who like to slide into peoples DMs. I guess they feel it’s easier than on a dating app where there’s little chance to stand out and so easy to be swiped past.
I get where they are coming from, it must feel very unfair and disheartening, I think women are used to being judged entirely on first appearance , men less so. But if your looks aren’t very appealing at least joining an online friendship group means you might get more of a chance to build rapport.
I personally don’t ever reply to pms on here from blokes, I’m not on here for that, and I do find it slightly intrusive (I’m used to it now, I just think of it as spam, and also I change name frequently anyway so hopefully they aren’t men I know in RL) but I can see for an average bloke with not much luck dating, then any group of predominantly women, whether it’s MN or single mums who used donors is worth a punt.

I have a feeling that he isn’t

So you plan to never have a life without your child until said child is old enough to survive without you for an evening here or there in their teens?

he wants to make friends and connect and socialise there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s something wrong with how you’re viewing the situation.

Jesus op if you DONT want to go - then DONT. There is no need to accuse anyone of being weird or untoward etc. Someone else will take him up on that offer - no one is making you go. It’s mean spirited this thread. He might be looking for a friend? Who knows.