He wants to meet without children

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I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

Eh?

Also, you don't think that being invited to meet for adult time sounds weird?!

You are weird for thinking what you think

Two can play that game

Please explain this to me.... what's 50:50 but all the time?
What's the donor bit about? Is he a donor?

Not really, when you have young kids and her whole life is about children

Right, you are definitely either the woman who took her daughter to an adults only spa, or the other woman who was having a breakdown about sleeping arrangements on holiday when there were more than enough rooms for everyone. This doesn’t make sense in the slightest.

If this is genuine it sounds totally innocuous to me but if it’s giving you odd vibes, of course don’t go.

50:50 means he has them half the time.

Do you seriously not go anywhere without your child? What about your own social life and identity beyond being a parent?

Do you understand what 50:50 represents?

And who is "her"? Are you speaking about yourself in the third person?

No we are mostly donor single parent mum or the partner is AWOL.

So perhaps he didn't know that.

But if he was too meet it would be a mum and her children

You are weird

I never go anywhere without my kids because I have no support and can't afford baby sitters, I that why for you too?. Or you just can't bear to be away from them?

Righto.

Nobody make any sudden movements....

Is that your issue with it?
If so its you being weird not him

Hahaha. Definitely would be weird.

I wouldn't be spending my free time with a single mum and her kid.

I find that weird

I also take on board about other parents being free.

But I guess I have friends or chores I can do, when I'm baby free

Just sounds like he’s looking for friendship. Nothing weird about it and you wouldn’t question it if he were a she.

It would be fine to meet as long as you were to meet in a public place.

Single mums aren't tied to the children all of the time. There are plenty who have family who take the children to give them some free time.

How do you think any single mum finds a new partner?

If you don't want to meet this man,don't. He's not weird for wanting to socialise with other single parents for a child free break.

The more you post the more YOU are coming across as the weird one.

Emily??? Is that you?!?!

Lol, does that make you feel better writing that?

Do you also know you have lots of weird things that you do, that you think are normal.

Bullying isn't normal though

Why do so many people post to ask if they are being unreasonable and then get offended when people say that they are? What is the point. It’s just a waste of everyone’s time really, especially when people respond in good faith.

OP, you shouldn’t really post if you can’t handle being told the truth.

What's the point in joining a group for single parents, if it's considered weird to ask if anyone's free to meet at the weekend?

Not everyone will be welded to their kid and they might actually want to do something without them.

I assume that he has assumed that the group is a single parents group for child and adult child free meet ups to socialise? Not really that weird to be honest. It’s just friendships. Sometimes you meet your friends with kids and sometimes without? If you don’t want to meet him then don’t? Maybe another single parent will, or maybe they won’t. But its not weird for him to try and make connections.

I don't think it's weird that this guy would like to meet one or more of the group members for an adults only event. Sounds as if he has more free time than many of the group so it may be a surprising suggestion to the solo parents.

Do you seriously not go anywhere without your child?

Well exactly. I presume you don't work OP but also confusing when you haven't stated their age(s). Do you never pop to the shops when your child is at a play date or something?

No harm in a man asking if people want to socialise outside the parent/child group.

We solo parents need all the social life we can get! It's important to be able to interact with other adults.

Couldn't what you are doing to this man be seen as bullying? He's the only man so he's weird for asking to socialise when he doesn't have his children.