He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

It's Hugh Grant, 3rd time round.

What does "donor child" mean? Does that mean it's a surrogate child, like it's a donor egg or something?

?? So how do you expect to go on dates? Restaurants, motel meetups, overnights away etc? Are you going to drag your child along? NO man would ever want that. He wants to date an adult, not have some kid dragged along which changes the atmosphere.

Yeah, cos I don't imagine Tinder or any other dating apps are available to him 🙄

when you are separated and/or divorced, you have to do things, go places, without your children because they are rightfully spending time with their other parent at least some of the time. Life doesn't stop because your child isn't with you.

yes I don't understand what "donor children" are?

She said it means single mums (but won't elaborate.)

I assume she meant the man offered his sperm maybe during a fling or a short hook up, or whatever , and disappeared for ever.

Who knows?

And also because a parent with separation anxiety is going to pass that onto their child, if they insist on being welded to them.

That is hilarious 🤣

That’s a bit weird.

Maybe I've banged my head too 😂

I'm starting to think maybe I'm the weird one, what with my identity outside of parenthood, DC who go to activities and pre-school without it being an issue, and willingness to get to know people with or without children. I assumed this was normal, but maybe not...

I'm fairly sure I'm in this same WhatsApp group (the mould advice is ringing massive bells!) and, if I'm right, the OP is accurate in her judgement - the man is a massive creep and has hit on a couple of different women in the group multiple times. It is exactly as @thislifer imagines!

Is your first name Emily by any chance😬

Do you not have anyone else to look after you child? Family for example? Just because you have chosen to have a child through a donor doesn't mean you have no family at all (or friends who like to babysit).

You said the group was for single parents. Maybe you need to change the group name if you want it be only 'single females who have a child using donor sperm only'.

Nah, can't be.

This guy has only asked if anyone's free to meet twice.

Well, he will eventually twig that Tinder and other websites are easier if all he wants is a leg over.

No need to try to infiltrate a group of single women with children, who have no one to look after them.

I don't see the problem. If no one responds, he'll get the message.

However, there may be others in the group who would like his leg over them, or some DIY doing as he's offered, or even a spot of Carry on Camping.

He's only asked to meet twice in the group, yes. He private messaged the women he hit on!

Aha!

A couple of questions:

How many are in the group?
What does OP mean by donor mums?
Why is there a bloke in the group?

OMG, is your name Emily and your child is Milly? Why on earth couldn’t you go somewhere without your child? How would you do an adult outing?!

Good luck getting the answers from someone else.

I seriously don't think I've understood any of your posts.

I can answer your questions!
There are maybe 50 in the group, 2 are men as far as I can see from profile pics
A large number of the mums are single parents by choice using donor sperm
The group is open to all single parents

Honestly, the OP is not wrong in her perception of the situation!!

Well, thank you for translating 😀

How do you know all that?