Husband calling me by name in front of kids

[Minniemousse8]

My husband has gradually started calling me by my name when talking to our kids. For example, ‘Can you tell Helen that dinner is ready’ instead of ‘Can you tell mum’. Not all the time, but much more frequently.

I feel quite an emotional reaction to this. Like it’s somehow a demotion of parental status - as if I’m their step-mum (I am a step-mum also), or some lady down the road.

I’ve asked him to please not do it and explained why, but it’s obvious he feels I am overreacting and it frustrates him that I care.

AIBU to want him to cut this out? Or am I over sensitive?

I always find this whole dripfeeding complaint a bit much. It didn’t occur to me that it was relevant and if it didn’t occur to me, then it’s not as if it’s deliberate. As I’ve said his mild cognitive impairment has never manifested in this way. It manifests in a very particular, different way. In all other ways, he is in very good form.

Thanks for all your messages. I’ve taken them on board. I’m glad a lot of you can understand my sensitivity around it.

I’m minded to probe a bit more about why he’s doing it (next time he does it) and try and explain how it feels to him. I sense he feels a bit got at, at the moment, so I’ll tread lightly.

And no, there’s definitely no affair!

I won’t be posting further. Thanks again. ❤️

Aye but did 'David' tell you several times that it hurts his feelings and to stop doing it? No because you likely would have. This guy didn't and that's the difference. Once is a mistake, repeatedly after being corrected and explained to, is a choice.

I'd have no probs, both my girls went through phases of calling by my name, just left them to it. What I really HATE is DH calling me mum 20 years after the girls left home.