Hogging the hot tub

[Twobroschillininahottub]

I'm a member of a spa local to me and go regularly to swim. Always relax in the jacuzzi/hot tub for a bit afterwards. I've never seen the like today- 2 men were in the hot tub for, I shit you not, an hour and a half. They were in there while I swam lengths for over an hour. No sign of them getting out and I saw other swimmers looking, clearly waiting for them to shift so they could have a turn. After over an hour of swimming I'm not caring, I wanted a rest so I got in (room for 6 people).

They stayed in there for another half hour!

AIBU that this is just not on and you move on to let people have a shot of the hot tub? There are plenty of other facilities like sauna and so on that they could have moved on to.

as a pp said, don't sign up to a mixed sex facility then.

So what is the problem? I've got this far and still not seen what the issue is

You either wanted it to yourself - selfish
or... ? not sure what another option would be?

and confused again - there is no clock but you know they were there for 90 minutes?

Not to mention I've used a lot of gyms in my life and never, ever encountered one without a clock.

That people don’t park their arses in the hot tub for an hour and a half

I know how long it takes me to swim a certain distance. I do it every day.

There is no clock.

It’s not a gym.

I don't get the issue either, there was space for 4 others and nobody else got in during the 90 minute period apart from you.

If a hot tub is public then there is a high chance it won't be empty when you want to use it and you will have to share. You could get in and then 5 minutes later 2 men get in too.

I would rather not share a hot tub but I don't like sharing anything. Not a lot I can do about it unless I can one day afford a private hot tub, pool and a gym at my house.

I was sat in the hot tub alone at my gym for ages one day, probably not 90 minutes but I sat there for as long as I wanted. Nobody else joined me but maybe they were also fuming at me being entitled at me hogging it despite there being space for several other people.

Who is to say what is too long though? You said you sometimes stay in for half an hour others may argue that’s too long.

unless there is a sign to say “no more than 10 minutes” then people can surely make their own decisions?

If there are several men in the hot tub I feel a bit uncomfortable going in as well - I guess others could feel the same, including OP?

I think if there were only 2 of them in there then that's ok really. Other people can still get in. It would be unreasonable if the hot tub were actually full (6 people) and people were staying in for ages so no-one else could get in.

Then you need to join a single sex facility or one with the ability to book exclusive use. A shared, mixed sex facility isn't an appropriate choice for you. It's a you problem, not a them problem.

Meanwhile everyone else were waiting for you to get out of the bloody pool 😃😄

I didnt renew my Bannatynes membership because of the obnoxious men who over use the hot top, steam room and sauna, spreading out so you have to ask them to move over, and sometimes even then their legs still touch you, then talking really loud voices etc. Totally get it, its annoying.

Yes, I agree and I might do that if I knew of a female only gym/spa locally and felt very uncomfortable rather than just a bit. As it is I don't give into the discomfort unless it's half a dozen men, in which case I adjourn to the sauna. I might be a bit miffed if someone spent an hour in the hot tub, but the gym/spa I go to has notices up saying 20 minutes is recommended limit and most people keep to that.

I don’t feel uncomfortable about it

That wasn't a reply to you, as you know.

If you were happy to get in with them - then there's no problem as there was plenty of room.

Had you not have been happy to get in with them, it would have been a "you" problem not a "them" problem as they are just as entitled to be there as you are.

The post you replied to said guess others could feel the same, including OP?

As you know.

Love your commitment to the thread.

Why would you want to share a bath/petri dish with two hot sweaty men?🤮

This is also a different situation. There were two of them, not several of them. If it had been several of them - say 4-6 - then that’s a different situation entirely because it’s approaching or at capacity and arguably they’re dominating it. But not when it’s only 2 out of a possible 6 spots.

If they stay in a hot tub for an hour and a half they are taking 2 spaces from 2 people for an hour and a half. That's a wild amount of time

They weren't taking spaces from anyone else for an hour and a half because there were 4 spaces free.
If the hot tub was constantly full and those two people were sitting there for an hour and a half then that wouldn't be right because they were stopping new people from joining. However, that is not what happened and it would be very unfair of you to assume that if the hot tub was constantly full they would have behaved in the same way. If lots of people were using it then they might have decided to leave to let others have a turn. You do not know how they would have behaved.
If others feel uncomfortable getting into the hot tub which had free spaces because two men were already in there, that's their problem, not the men's problem.

But I as a man might. I belonged to gym about the year 2000. The steam room on a Saturday afternoon had a great conversation every week. So we'd sit there sweating like Rachel Reeves in a maths exam.

You don't personally own the hot tub...you don't get to dictate who uses it and for how long...get you're own spa bath..

But I as a man might

You as a man? What the bloody hell does that even mean? Me as a woman, starfish, or chicken nugget wouldn’t. It’s rude.

I’m not dictating what anyone does. I’m saying it’s rude behaviour.

Wow, OP you really are committed to an argument, aren't you. 24 hours from original post and you're still batting on

It’s a good laugh altogether.