Party, child with visible difference

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Was 8 year olds birthday party on Saturday,
Some school friends, some out of school friends and some family were invited. First time doing a mixed party like that and the different groups kind of kept together so Dd was a bit pulled around but otherwise everything went great .

One of DD’s cousins who was at the party has a significant facial difference, purely physical and had no effect of their behaviour or abilities. I’ve had a message from a school friends mother saying thank-you for the party, dc had a great time etc but that she would have appreciated a heads up about dd’s cousin. That her dc were scared and upset and she doesn’t know how to deal with it so could I give advice.

I’m not being being unreasonable to think that’s outrageous, am I?

I have no idea what to reply

Completely outrageous 😳

What a horrible person. Send her a link to a book about teaching children about inclusivity and diversity? I would be tempted to reply something nasty but probably best to ignore.

She’d get both barrels from me. Disgusting comment from her. God some people are vile. I can’t even think of a single politely worded thing to text! I’d probably fire back with something like what a pity you’re bringing your kids up to be as horribly closed minded as you. Not to worry, you won’t be invited again.

Repellant little woman.

WHOA - YANBU and I've even gotten riled up just reading it!

I thought she was gonna apologise if her kids were awkward or anything

Tell her to get fucked! Defend this child 😡 xx

Completely outrageous.
And I would say it's the mother that had the problem, and not her children.

Awful! My advice to her would be to be a better parent and a better human.

My god the poor "poppet" maybe the mother should be teaching her child about people with differences.! I'd probably leave it sitting for a day or so don't reply just yet, when you do ask her what she thinks she should say ?

I'd say this too, op x

What the F

This absolutely cannot be true! Shocking.

Scared and upset?

She need to start to educate and parent her children

How disgusting

Wtaf. Outrageous

Nah.

That is absolutely disgusting behaviour by the mother

What a horrible woman! I don't know how I'd react to that as it beggars belief. She sounds medieval

I'm not sure I could reply politely, to be honest.

Perhaps a link to a relevant charity or a book about visible differences and diversity? It's her own shitty parenting that means her children were upset and that she didn't deal with it at the time. She needs educating first.

Okay glad others are equally enraged.
I started typing a furious reply telling her exactly what I think but thought it's best I calmed down

Holy fuck. Just when you think you've read it all.

I'm sorry your DDs cousin has to live in a world where people expect warning before seeing them.

What a disgusting reaction.

I'm with another poster who assumed this was going to go the way of another mum apologising that perhaps her 8yo had said something insensitive but well meaning etc or maybe stared too much etc.

I doubt her children were upset, as you’d have noticed during the party

If I was going to say anything at all, it would be something like... "Sorry for the delay in replying. I'm so utterly speechless at your message that I had to take a moment to compose myself and come up with a polite response! Please don't message me about this again."

Send her a link to the book Wonder by RJ Palico.

Woman sounds like a vile twat

I wouldn't. She absolutely does not deserve your consideration making comments like that. Vile cow.