To say that living alone is better than sharing a home with anyone?

[MintZebra]

Even the best relationships or friendships don’t compare to the peace of living by yourself. AIBU to think solo living is the ultimate goal?

Are you taking the piss?! 😆 It's a well documented fact that this is a myth. 😆 It's a silly little bit of bullshit that has escalated - because some single women try and convince themselves that they're superior to married women and soooooo much better than them, so they keep repeating this bullshit.

It was a tiny survey done YEARS ago, with just a 1000 women, and it's a load of bollocks that is repeated constantly on this type of thread. As I said, methinks the ladies doth protest too much. There wouldn't be so many millions of women on online dating, if all women were happy single.

You don't get married women/women in long term relationships desperate to convince everyone how sooooooooo very happy they are! 😂

I have fantasies about living in an apartment in Chelsea and having white carpets. Also about a side of smoked salmon and bottle of champagne in bed on Christmas day.

I love my family very much and have been, happily, with DH for more than 35 years.

I've lived on my own a few times and did enjoy the last time (when I had friends nearby and liked where I lived), but I've been married with 2 DC for over 10 years and I'm not sure how I'd like it now.

Methinks the ladies doth protests too much

We could say the same about you 😂Do I detect a tiny bit of envy?

You can find it as odd as you like. I lived alone until I was 30, then my partner moved in and we married - and I never really got used to having someone else in the house. Of course there were good times, but we separated when I was 42 (23 years ago) and I have lived alone ever since. It's never been "shit" for even one day. I find people who can't imagine being alone rather odd actually.

not for me, no.

If you haven't go children, living alone is very easy. You just... do it. No one is forcing you to stay with someone else. No one bats an eyelid if you rent or buy when you are single. Or they are so rare, no one cares.

I find it much better to live with someone I care for, it makes life so much easier, and more pleasant.

If you don't like to share a home, then just don't, and live alone.

I was so sad when I moved into my place post divorce. I'd never lived on my own before and was so so lonely. Fast forward a few years and I bloody love it. I've been with my DP for years and he's bought up living together a few times but I just don't want to. This is my home, my nest, my comfort blanket.

I live alone with my cat (yes, a stereotype) and I do seriously worry whether I'd be able to live with a partner. I'm so used to living alone and I like my space and the peace. It's not for everyone of course but I love it.

I've never lived with anyone else
Moved to uni at 17 and never went home after that

Dh and I have been together for 8 years and married for 5 - second marriage for us both and we have chosen not to live together. We live approx 2 miles apart and see each other a few times a week. Both DD and DS are both Uni so it is just me and the cat and I blood love it. I love the peace and quiet, I love not having to cook, I love not having to talk. I think I am an introvert at heart. DH and I may cohabit in the future but it won't be until retirement age.

I love living with my DH and DS. wouldn't like to live alone, though most women do end up alone I think as they tend to live longer. I'm not looking forward to it.

I’ve never lived alone and would never want to. Each to their own I guess but it’s not for everyone.

The other week I was ill, the unwashed dishes were piling up, and the only way that I could heat the house properly was by going out to get wood in from the shed to build a fire. I sorely needed some support.

solo living is the ultimate goal? so this would include every individual so we would all have to stop having children?

I presume living alone works for some people not everyone?

This ,I daydream about living on my own with a spare bedroom for my children if and when. Small garden and my doggie.

I would live with someone again, though I do like living alone.
But I would never ever not have my own bedroom and bed. I don't care if people think its weird or 'not good for a relationship.' Sleep is sacred and I'm not giving that up for anything (and especially for a snorer!!).

Personally I love living in my full house. I love DH. I love sleeping next to him as he cuddles me when I can't sleep (like now but I am working away). I love having random chats with my teenage DC. I love having people to eat with and cook for. And to cook for me.
I don't mind the mess and chaos they can bring as I enjoy a bit of chaos.
If I loved alone who would wake me up singing, it brings me breakfast, or have a lovely shag with me? Who would laugh at my crap jokes or be interested in my slightly dull worries about one of the kids or listen to me talk through an not very significant issue at work that's playing on my mind. I have lots of friends but not convinced it would be the most interesting topic at the end of the day.

I do understand many people enjoy living alone. I wouldn't hate it just prefer being around people. DH on the other hand would 100% live alone if we split up or I die. He loves the solitude and I often take the kids away to friends etc so he can have his needed peace and quiet. He then wants us back again after he is recharged!

I would have agreed with you, up until I had my DS.

I hated sharing a flat, the petty squabbles and endless mess of my flat mates. I loved my single girl life in my own flat. The peace of a Sunday evening reading a book, listening to music, a glass of wine.

The two times I've lived with a man, I was stunned at how selfish and entitled they were. Maybe I chose very poor specimens . 🙄

But for the last 16 years I have lived with my DS. He has been a source of endless love, warmth, humour and interest. I've loved every minute of it. I've done my best to ensure he isn't selfish or entitled so he can have a happy future relationship. I will miss him hugely when he leaves.

I have no idea how I will fill that gap. My challenge for the next decade !

I love my SO but no desire to live together. My space is too important to me.

DH and I are living separate this year while working in different locations. It has its pros and cons I love the freedom, and I'm sleeping better too (he usually wakes up 1-2x during the night and will drink some water, go to the loo, etc). On the other hand, DH pulls his weight around the house and I resent now being the one who has to do all the household tasks whereas normally we'd split them.

And I don’t get why anyone would want to have someone else living in their home, all the time.

But that’s fine, I don’t need to get it.

I’ve never had a shit relationship, my ex DH did more than his fair share around the house, was a good cook and our finances were pooled. We’re still good friends 10 years after we separated.

If you’d have asked me a few years ago about living alone I would have said I can’t imagine it and I would hate it.

But 3 years ago my DS went to live with his dad aged 18 as it was closer to his college. To start with it was very difficult and I dreaded going to bed in an empty house.

But since I moved into my flat, i absolutely love the peace and quiet and having my own space. I enjoy having my son here for a night or 2 but Im always pleased when he’s gone and I can have my solitude back.

Im a very social able introvert so while I love getting out with friends, coming home to recharge in peace is priceless

I live alone with my dog. I do worry sometimes about illness - but then I remember how useless previous partners were when I was ill and how they would almost all have been liable to go off out and leave me at death's door and I realise that shouting to Alexa to call one of my adult kids in the case of severe illness or accident is probably better.

It is more expensive though having nobody to share the bills with. And then I remember previous partners and their dislike of paying any money....I actually think it's my shit choice in men that makes living alone so fabulous.

Love living with lots of buzz around me but also make sure we both schedule home alone time at least once a week, even if for an hour as that is also bliss. We're all different as you can see by the thread. No surprises really

Living alone with my dog I worry about what I'd do with him if I got ill. Being just me and him there is a strong bond. I know he'd fret without me.