To say that living alone is better than sharing a home with anyone?

[MintZebra]

Even the best relationships or friendships don’t compare to the peace of living by yourself. AIBU to think solo living is the ultimate goal?

I think it depends on circumstances. I hated living with housemates in the past, enjoyed having my own apartment for a few years, but love my current life with my husband and children.

My DH used to work away from Monday to Friday. I worked 3 days a week. It was a lovely balance and I was very happy.
We've retired now and it's fucking horrible.
I don't want a job or anything to get me out of the house, I just want him to fuck off so I can be here by myself.

I completely agree
My flat is my sanctuary
Not quite alone I have a dog who is the best male I've ever lived with!

The two years I spent living alone in my own little flat were two of the happiest years of my life and I look back on them through sleep deprived eyes fondly and wistfully. However I wouldn't change my current set up (DH, babies, cat) for anything.

I live with my kids now but preferred living alone 🫢 loved it never felt lonely

Living with kids isn't living alone 🫤

I'm torn. Recently separated from DH and now have to spend half the week apart from my DC. The first week was really horrible, second week slightly better, this week (third) not actually too bad. I am hoping it will settle down into a 'glad to see you arrive, glad to see you leave' sort of balance.

Let the record show I haven't missed ex-DH at all 😂

I love living with my family but I wish I had my own bedroom to retreat to at night. Hate sharing a bedroom. I sometimes wonder how come the kids all get their own bedrooms but I have to share. It's not fair.

I think living alone, at least for a bit, is valuable life experience. It’s good for people to know they can do it if necessary.

I live with my young son but I am perfectly happy. Would never live with a man again that's for sure!

I live alone but see my family at least three times a week. I love it.
My cleaner carer comes every day.

In my dream scenario, I'd share my home but I'd like everyone (DH, DC) to have their own space. So bedroom each, chill space each, bathroom each definitely and maybe 2 kitchens.
I always like looking around palaces and seeing that kings and queens had separate rooms, dressing rooms, etc and feel that that would work well for me.
I live in a small house with big teens and there always seems to be someone in my way (I've been interrupted twice by DH while I am writing this), I dream of solitude .... but with a healthy dose of company too.

I don't understand the attraction.

People will say "I can do what I want, when I want"

Well, so can I. But I like having DH around to do nothing with.

I love it, it’s all my stuff where I want it, no sharing for me

No, I'd hate it, but then I'm in a happy relationship, if I wasn't I guess I may agree

I can definitely imagine a solo home being very peaceful and nice, but I think the benefits of living with dh and my dc outweigh it tbh. My dc are late teens, one is at uni anyway. Both are easy, good company. We laugh a lot and enjoy doing stuff together. As well as being good company, dh is handy at diy, tidier than I am and an excellent and enthusiastic cook. I do like the house to myself when I get it though!

Not for me, I much prefer the company of living with my husband, sharing a bed, sharing the responsibility of financial , cooking, cleaning, and diy/maintenance of the house and garden, doing things together, having someone to come home to, someone to share a meal with. Cooking for one I find miserable, we both travel for work, so have to do this a few times a month. The chatting, the sitting companionably together. I prefer this to being alone.

however it’s a big house so if we want our own space, we can go into different living rooms, but have the comfort of knowing someone else is there,

I like living with dh, but we get on well

35 years solo me! I have a partner of 30 years, he lives alone too. It is the best recipe for a lasting relationship for those who like their own company a lot, but love someone who is the same!

If it's good enough for Charles and Camilla it's good enough for us. 😉

I love the space in my house all to myself, the freedom to do nothing and leave the bed unmade and the dishes in the sink if I want to. Things like that.

As we two are getting older now, we have discussed sharing a home, but it will HAVE to have two sitting rooms, and separate bedrooms. Like the old days lol.

Ive lived on my own for years and love it nothing could change it for me.
I have everything where i want it things are left where i put them spotless 24/7.
And i get to do what i want when i want.

Honestly I love living with my DH. I've lived with housemates and alone. I don't mind living alone but I prefer sharing my life with someone, having someone to chat about our days with, eat with and watch shows together. Don't get me wrong I love an evening or two alone, but my whole life no.

Just shows how different we all are. Which is a good thing.

I loved living along until I started wfh full time as well (not through choice). Now I get very lonely.

I lived alone in my 20s by choice and it was miserable. I loved hosting but the rest of the time was miserable.

Then I moved abroad and moved in with DP, such a fun life! Then we repatriated, bought a house got married and had a nice life, then we had babies and everything became boring again and now I'm miserable again full circle, missing living alone (I think I'd like to live with DC but not DH) 😆.

I’d feel suffocated if someone else lived with me, whoever it was.

But my next-door-neighbour & I have each other’s spare keys, mainly for mutual pet sitting but it also means that if I tripped over the cat & broke my leg or something happened she’d hear me shouting & come in. I wouldn’t want to live somewhere isolated.