To say that living alone is better than sharing a home with anyone?

[MintZebra]

Even the best relationships or friendships don’t compare to the peace of living by yourself. AIBU to think solo living is the ultimate goal?

Me too.x

I like living with DH. He does half the housework and gets the dcs ready in the mornings. And sex on tap.

I like having the house to myself when hes at work though.

I live just with my DC and the cats. I absolutely love not having another adult in my space and when the DC go to their dads for the night it's even better. I knew I'd be fine post-separation but I never knew I'd be this bloody content and happy on my own. Its been an absolute revelation. My kids will akways be welcome here but i'll never live with anyone else ever again.

I'd hate to live alone, I'm at home all day on my own (working), I love it when the others get home! I hate others being in my space, and count down the minutes until others leave, but actually really like my DH's company, I do need a break from the kids from time to time mind!

My flat is much tidier.
I have control to the TV remote.
All the wardrobe space is MINE!
The bathroom smells nice.
I do get lonely sometimes but I remember what I had before and this is do much better.

I have a husband. We kept our own houses due to having our own children when we met. 21 years on we still do.
It's not lonely because we " have " each other but it's really nice not arguing about mess or turning the heating on or any other stupid shit.

I hated it too. When I first moved out (19-ish) I moved in with 4 people into a big Victorian House, (9 months I stayed,) then I moved into a flat share with 2 other women. (Stayed 15 months.) 2 years with other people. Then I got my own place. Stuck it for a year. I was really bored and lonely on my own, and was always phoning my parents, my cousin, and one of my friends. Was harder financially too. I moved back to my parents at 22, then met my now DH shortly after that and moved in with him at 23 and a half. Lived with him ever since. (Over 30 years!)

I think women who are very happy alone are far more likely to be people aged 45-50+ who have been in rubbish relationships. (For many years.) Most people I know who are younger and never married, have no desire to be alone forever. Why on earth would anyone want THAT?!

As has been said, that myth that single women are the happiest is a load of shit. It was done via a survey YEARS ago, with about 1000 people participating. Single women have clung on for dear life to this load of bollocks for YEARS now, to try to convince themselves that they are happier than married women. Methinks the ladies doth protest too much! 😆

As a pp said on another thread almost identical to this! (bedeepkoala)

As far as I know, the entire myth is literally based on a single sentence that some random academic said at a low tier conference which the Guardian picked up on and endlessly repeated since it fits their agenda.

Hopefully that lockdown situation will never happen again - but yes, I couldn't have coped with that alone. And equally if DS and his partner had both been here in our small house without us being able to go anywhere it would have driven me (all of us) mad. I realise a lot of people had to cope in both situations though.

Just because people are single doesn't mean they're alone.

I have a neighbour who has lived on her own except for her pets for over 50 years, ever since she left uni. She says she has never wanted to get married, live with anyone or have children. Although she's always been very busy and sociable with work and hobbies, she likes her own space at home, is quite set in her ways and opinions and finds it hard to compromise. If visitors outstay their welcome, she's known to say that she lives alone for a reason!

That's not the same as having no-one, that's your choice.

I'd never live with anyone, again, ever.

Unless adult DC needed a home to come back to.

I love it. You don't have to put up with other people's moods, their smells, their likes and dislikes, their mess, their disapproval of YOUR mess. You don't have to consult them about what to eat, the thermostat temperature, who had x, y or z last, whose turn it is to do which job.

Well yes but the Op's statement was "To say that living alone is better than sharing a home with anyone?"

I'm agreeing. Even with a husband.

Not for me. I love living with my DH, and I think if anything happened to him I'd be eyeing up my friends and family for someone to share a home with.

I live alone and it's bliss.

I could never go back to having to think of someone else in the house.

I work from home alone apart from the dog but love it when my husband gets home , he was away with work yesterday and while I was fine I missed him

Well it seems that single women are happier and live longer so there is that….

I understand why people would think that but for me I was a bit lonely when I lived alone.

I moved from sharing a room with my sister in my 20s at my parents to living with a partner. Then when we split, I had my own place and it was amazing! A whole dwelling to myself. No sharing a room, not even sharing the bathroom.
Moved in with someone else. We had several bedrooms, so each had our own space. He is gone now, and I am on my own. It is lush being accountable to no one. I have a new DP but I can't see him living with me as we both really cherish our own spaces, plus it would affect my benefits anyway.

I honestly could not imagine house sharing with strangers or anything like that. I would not cope.

I love living with my husband. When I lived alone, I hated how everything was my responsibility - Leaking roof, giant hornet in the bathroom, mice in the shed - I had to sort everything with bo one to share the load.

I love sharing the house with my best friend. I love the shared bills shared responsibility, the companionship, shared interests, and also get to enjoy my own space and time when I want to, as I've my own bedroom and we have an art studio we share . Best of both worlds. I was quite lonely when I lived alone, despite being active and having lots of friends.

Sorry to burst your bubble but I am happily living alone, and have been since the age of 27, with no desire to ever share my space with another adult. I have one child at home so I am never lonely but I would hate to have another adult living in my home.
I agree with most others on here, If I had to be in a relationship, it would have to be in seperate homes, or a mansion!

Well you're a rarity then.

This. ^ It's OK to be alone short term, but shit long-term. I guess it's OK if you have had a shit relationship for some years, and a relief to be alone for a bit. But I don't believe the vast majority of people want to spend their entire life living alone. I find it rather odd actually. JMO.