To say that living alone is better than sharing a home with anyone?

[MintZebra]

Even the best relationships or friendships don’t compare to the peace of living by yourself. AIBU to think solo living is the ultimate goal?

What’s your cat’s name, @Retirementsoon?

I lived alone for about 8 years and while it was fab - I enjoy DH's companionship even more. I'm fortunate he does shift work which means I get the occasional weekend day to myself and see him in the evening so best of both worlds. Sharing a bottle of wine, watching our shows together, enjoying meals together, cuddles, someone to fuss over me when I'm having a bad day, make me cups of tea and someone to do the chores I hate (laundry, bins, washing up) is priceless! I wouldn't have married him if i didn't enjoy living with him though.

Agreed! I've lived on my own twice in my life and it was amazing. My now DH moved in with me when I was 29 and that was 14 years ago... I would appreciate it even more now than I did then. I was a bit lazy as a 20-something. My place would be beautifully decorated and permanently spotless if I was a single person now.

That is true. I had forgotten that I occasionally worried I would die in my sleep and nobody would notice

I loved living alone in a tiny studio appartment. The best time. Never lovely, but often alone.

I like living with others, I was sort of on my own after exh left (kids at university but one was local) and I hated it, cooking for one is miserable though I did loose 2 stone due to not bothering to cook

This is the second thread in 2 days about how 'amazing' it is to be single and alone.... 🤔And how much 'stronger' and 'better' single people are than married people/people in long term relationships... 🤔

I don't see people blathering on about how great it is to be married, how much they wubz their hubby, and how they are 'stronger' and more 'successful' than SINGLE people.

Batshit! 😆Methinks the ladies doth protests too much! Who you tryna convince @MintZebra

My mum felt the same when my dad retired

He is a wee honey!

DH and I get on so well, I hate the thought of him going first. We don't have kids, so I get plenty of quiet time on my own to recharge.

I always prefer living on my own, every time I’ve moved a guy in things slip. Jobs that used to get turn into “don’t get someone in to fix that, I’ll do it”… and it never happens. Starting jobs and not finishing them.

I definitely preferred living alone, my house was mine and it was tidy and neat. I’m talking about living with guy partners here. Maybe if I had a shed and could have damage limitation to one area…

I wouldn't like to live alone. I like to know someone is there. Even when they aren't in the same room as me I know they are there.
I hate locking up the house alone!

I like living with the kids & my cat & would love more pets in the future but never want to live with another human except for the kids 😂

No I hate silence, love having people around. It's each to their own. I lived alone (with my toddler son so not totally alone ) for 4 years. I hated night time. I co slept with him untill he was 4 because I hated being alone. Which I know is not healthy but he's grown now haha

I can't imagine ever sharing my bed with anyone ever again. I love living (and sleeping) alone.

DS is about to move out so it's just DD and me. Two years on from the end of a crappy relationship and I still feel blissful relief to be on my own ☺️

For me definitely not. My DH has been away for the last week and honestly it hasn’t felt like home, I suppose I’m happy with him and enjoy his company and having him around and this far outweighs any benefits living alone would give me. That’s just me, though

I get spooked home alone at night. I've started worrying about what I'll do when my kids leave home.

I quite liked living alone when I was younger - but given I worked full time, went to college, the gym and went out drinking most nights I was hardly at home .

I like to have space in a house so you can be alone if you want to be but on balance I do like to have someone else here. There's just me and DH now and we are both retired, I really wouldn't want to be by myself in this situation. I would never tell DS he couldn't come home if he needed to but not having a spare bedroom or dining room, it's nice to have the extra space of his old room.

I hated living alone when I tried it, I left once my tenancy was up. I always chose to live in flat shares after that until I moved in with DH.

What's wrong with saying you don't want a man in your space? Married people can do whatever they want with their lives. It doesn't affect me. Some of us are happy on our own, but we're lying?

Take a look at the relationship boards. Or at the divorce statistics. Marriage is not the way to happiness for a shitload of women.

Sadly a lot of women were brought up and socially conditioned to think it was the only way. Luckily that's slowly changing.

OP I tend to agree with you. I lived on my own for 20 years before moving in with DH and having our child and it really was the best time, to be able to shut the door on the world at the end of my working day and then peace reigned supreme. But I’m not sure how I would have made it through the lockdowns completely on my own. I think I would have driven myself insane in a way that living with my family doesn’t quite approach.

I loved living alone and living with just my DD. I now live with my partner and DD and I love my partner but I crave living alone and I fantasise about alone time all the time.

My ideal scenario would be to live next door to my OH and pop over but retreat to our own separate houses.

I find living with men in general very difficult. Even the nicest, most chilled and most housetrained of them (and my OH fits all those categories) manage to impose and imprint themselves on life in various irritating ways.

I loved living alone before I met DW. I now enjoy the very rare times I’m at home alone after being together for 10 years. But I would hate to live alone again now. I was young before and had a great social life. Now I work from home and all my friends have their own lives. I’d be very lonely without my DW

Some people love it. Some are so lonely they want to die.

I’m finding it quite hard. I miss “oh what was that noise” or “ oh my god look what’s on the news” or do you want anything while I’m up or thanks for locking the door. It’s lonely. It’s quite sad for me tbh. I’m an introvert so I can do days on end alone. But it’s all a bit much now.