to be a bit nervous about Dh coming home..

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... because he's always disappointed in what I've got done? I'm always mentally rehearsing how I can 'play up' what I've done.

He'll nod, and then a few minutes later he'll ask what else I've done. And he'll just make me feel that he's so disappointed. He's at work all day, I'm at home with the kids, blah de blah.

And to his credit, he does do stuff in the house, when he's got exasperated with the fact that I haven't done it.

Today, I've done a couple of washing and managed to get them on the line to dry. I've washed up, cleaned surfaces and cleaned the kitchen floor, and tidied the front room ready for him to vacuum (I can't push the vacuum round myself) Plus looked after four children under 7.

But I just know it's not going to be good enough, and I'm feeling really crappy about that today.

good news

Just to keep this vibe of love, peace and forgiveness going, may I humbly wonder if those whose language was perhaps a little intemperate about MrBaroo might consider their own apology ...?

Just a thought. We wouldn't want him to think that MN was judgemental or anything.

Mr.Baroo, I think that post was just the loveliest and biggest thing you did there.

Good for you, Mr Baroo! Hope to see Sue back here very soon.

Respect, MrB. Good for you.

Well done Mr Baroo - it takes a lot to apologise publicly. Holding you both in my prayers.

...there is a fathers forum on here too, Mr Baroo...just in case you ever feel the need for some support! (failing that, there is always us!)

I'd just like to apologise as well, for the less than pleasant language I used when talking about Mr.B

It was inappropriate and - although i felt justified at the time - i wasn't.

Sorry.

Thank you MrBaroo - you have given my beliief in human nature a little top-up!

Actually, I had a long thought about 'what if' my DP posted a load of stuff about us online - and I would feel betrayed to begin with, and jealous of the relationship he had with people who listened and understoood. But then, I hope I would be able to think 'but how did this happen - and how can I be the one to listen'

Much good luck to you both.

That's great MrBaroo, well done for coming on here and apologising. FWIW no-one really knows what goes on in someone else's relationship.

It was very good of you to come on here. MN has been a lifeline for me, and I expect it is for your DW. Remember, we are all anonymous, we don't know you. I hope you can see and be grateful that round here we desperately protect our own and want to make sure they are alright, we were just looking out for her

Good luck to you both. I expect we could all do with re-evaluating our communication with our loved ones.

I missed all this. Very, very pleased that I might have the honour of being on the same thread as the lovely Suebaroo in the near future. I've been wondering where you've been.

Sending love to you and your family.

That's a generous post from you there MrBaroo, so glad Sue will be back with us.
As others have said, there ARE plenty of dads posting on here too, so why not stick around

I'm happy for you both Mr Baroo. Communication in a partnership can easily go awry and it's forums like this than many of us turn to when we feel we can't commuinicate with our other halves.

It is a lesser evil than perhasp going and gossiping with people who know you and I'm glad you can see, a forgivable one too. We are all only human.

MrBaroo, that was a lovely post - and a wonderful and courageous thing to do. I'm impressed, and happy for you and the lovely Sue. I hope you both keep talking, to us and to each other.

Yay!
Who else am I meant to get spoilers for A2A from?

Well done MrB, I hope you and SueB are working together to sort things out.