Boyfriend has gotten ex girlfriend pregnant and wants me to keep things quiet about our relationship

[Chanjh25]

I’m posting this here to be told straight basically as I don’t really have any family and friends that know what’s going on in my life so please just tell me how it is Hi girls I really need some advice because I feel honestly crazy here
So me and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years we split up a few months back for 2-3 months but was in contact with eachother throughout and had slept together a few times still..
To then for us to decide to sort things out properly things was good for a few days until I found out he had slept with his ex.. didn’t mention anything to me but when I found out said he was ‘honestly going to tell me’ was acting off anyway before I found out accusing me of not being trust worthy and that I’m acting ‘shifty’ turned out to just be him.. to then a couple of weeks later he wants to tell me something SHES PREGNANT… she still loves him and is infatuated with him and I’ve told him he’s just relit an old flame in her and she just won’t leave him alone she’s become abusive to me too.. now I was willing to forgive him and try to get over everything that’s happened (the self esteem is clearly next level for me isn’t it😑)
So again we tried again but he’s telling her we aren’t together and wants me to stay quiet about us as he has kids with her and she’ll ‘ruin his life’ so I found out yday he’s been telling her we aren’t together so obvs I’ve hit the roof and now ‘I’m done your crazy’ bla bla bla AM I BEING MANIPULATED cuz I also feel like I’m the bad person right now 😭😭😭 he’s saying that the reason why he doesn’t want her to know just yet is because of the stuff she says and causes but also so that we can have time to ‘bond’ again just any advice 😭

Leave them both to it. Run for the hills!

Please don’t be naive enough to believe that you have to keep quiet about the relationship for your own benefit. It is 100% because he is still in a relationship with her.

The way he talks about her to you is also the way he talks about you to her.

She is the mother of his children. She is having another baby with him. This was clearly not a one night stand.

Leave them to it.

Please leave this man & walk away from his mess, you really don’t need to be part of it.

Leave him...you deserve better than this lying two timer. You need to get some std tests done asap too

Earlier this week, you posted the same thing but said you'd been in a relationship for 2-3 months ........

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100%. Some people feel like they can’t leave because they spend 3/5/7 years with someone but the reality is leaving at this time is better than 30 years with an abusive crappy partner

Oh no. This makes sense now

Oh for....

Grow some self respect. This man is a shit. They have kids together. She's trying to reel him back in. You will never be free of her or his financial responsibilities to them. They deserve each other.

Get out now. Walk away. Run. Delete. Block. Move on and up.

DUMP HIM! Do not settle for this.

I am genuinely concerned about the women on here.

Please raise your standards and get some help to work out what’s causing you to accept this behaviour from a man.

Oh another condom refuser, I have no time for them.
Whatever you do don't move in with him.

1. Leave him
2. Get some counselling to work on your self esteem so you don’t ever put up with crap like this again.

Has this guy got a golden cock or something? Two women in his life, one to be kept a secret, the other happy to be impregnated on a casual basis.
You say you love him - could you tell us what exactly it is about him you love?

Oh please.
None of this is love.

How has this man convinced you you’re worth so little!?

Give your head a wobble and think about what your 80yr old self might tell you to do. I guarantee it’ll be something to the effect of - you wasted far too much time on this man who didn’t care for you.

Jesus Christ stop setting the bar so low for yourself, get rid of him and find someone who deserves you and treats you properly.

You are the side bit now .

He is in a relationship with her

end it and get therapy.
You deserve better

@Chanjh25 please leave him. Run for the hills. And then never look back.

You don’t love the person he is. You just love the idea of who he could be.

He clearly doesn’t care about you, he only wants you in his life for convenience and sex on tap. (Since you slept together when you were broken up, you’ve allowed him to still have access to you).

Do you want the next 18 years of your life tied to this man, his child and the mother of the child? Tied to a man who’s manipulating you, lying to you and doesn’t respect you?

Please 👏🏻 raise 👏🏻 your 👏🏻 bar!

You are worth so much more than this. You need to end the “relationship”, block and delete him, forever. It will be hard. It will take time to get other, but it’s necessary if you truly want to be happy in life and have healthy relationships.

Sorry OP, but I really think you need to accept the fact that this guy isn't doing ANYONE any good. He is NOT a good man!!

He is trying to have his cake and eat it, and you're so wrapped up in the idea of being in love with him, that you can't see that you deserve more than the few crumbs he's prepared to drop your way, when it happens to suit him. From what you've said this relationship has never been THAT good, is that REALLY all you want from life? To be blunt, he's treating you like 'sloppy seconds'! For goodness sake, get some self respect and dump his cheating, lying arse!

You told us to tell you straight, well that's telling you, whether you want to hear it or not, remains to be seen!

Leave him to go back to his family and new baby. The fact he's not saying he's with you makes me wonder how much of your "relationship" you've actually just been the affair partner for too.

Very real chance that she thinks she is "the girlfriend" and that you are the "mad ex-girlfriend". Either way, if you run now you've had a lucky escape.

You’re not crazy. The situation is crazy thought. Walk away for your own sanity. He is not a good man.

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Your whatever wants to keep you on the downlow while he has a baby and relationship with his former "ex".

You have a relationshit.

Are you seriously considering letting this prince of bullshit sneak over when the mom of his new baby is busy taking care of their child to have sex with you? Are you really ok with crumbs off his full table with the mother of his kids?

*got pregnant