Should we accept it and move?

[Rosie1963]

Hi all.
DH (31) and I (29) have been together for 5 years now, married for 2. We're still saving for a house and would like to have children but don't want to until we have bought a house.
My parents have just downsized, moved to a cheaper area and are now mortgage free with quite a bit of money left over from the sale of the house. They have offered to give us a large sum of money to help us buy a house, on the condition that it is near to them. DH and I are just north of Cambridge, my parents have moved to north Norfolk.
Now I know this is unfair for my parents to only want to help on their terms. Their reasoning is that they would like to help us move closer because they would like to be close to their future grandchildren.
DH and I both think this is very unreasonable and if they want to help then we shouldn't have to uproot our lives for it.

But, part of me thinks it might be a good idea. It'd take a huge amount of pressure off money-wise and we could start trying for a baby a lot sooner. It'd also be helpful to have both my parents nearby as both his parents live abroad.

I'm not particularly attached to my job, I could quite easily find another one and settle in. My closest friends live in London and I don't see them very often but I'd be happy to make the extra journey to visit. DH also works a job that is very in demand and would be hired again quite easily, but he has lots of childhood friends in our town who he sees very regularly and I know a move would be incredibly hard on him.

Thoughts? What would you do?

I think you need to grow up and realize that their gift will go much further in a cheaper area. If your jobs aren’t linked to an expensive housing region, then the best choice you can make for starting a family is to move somewhere cheaper.

Given the vanishing act by the OP, I am wondering if the OP is the mother and wanted to sound out her idea before presenting it to her daughter.

If so, I believe she has been told.... Bad idea!

User name is a giveaway.....

Oh yes grow up and accept being controlled and ignore the fact that her dh would prefer not to move!
Norfolk can be lovely but it can also be isolating in areas, with very poor transport links (like many other areas of the country) it isn't about growing up, it's about living where they want, which can based on a multitude of reasons not just where they can get the most for their money.

I’ve seen it play out many times.

Hey. We are a family of 4. Two daughters age 4 and 7. We have been holidaying in north Norfolk (Wells) for 7 years and are seriously considering relocating there from Shropshire. Husband has n office in Therford so could easily commute. Has anyone relocated to N. Norfolk with young kids. What areas would you recommend? Would ideally like a 3 bed house in a village/ town location with pub and amenities. Nice vibe, other young families. Good schools etc. needle in a haystack?!