DD relationship with 50 yr old

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I have found out my DD is in sexual relationship with a man who turned 50 in August and she is not far off turning 25.. I think he is using her and how can I convince her to stop seeing him, she actually has admitted feelings for him, aibu to think this is so wrong? I can't stand this.

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It might not end well, as her mum support her and be there to comfort if it does. Don’t however sit there hoping for it to end, you will alienate her.

remember when we were young (assuming you had her over the age of 18) older men and women were depicted as elderly in their 50’s (just look at old YV programmes) whereas now most wouldn’t be considered in that way.

if his life trajectory has been what you would normally expect, he is probably financially stable, hopefully healthy and a bit more mature than others. I’m sure some or all of those attributes could be appealing.

Lots of people fancy older men. "Daddy" culture for example.

Pedro Pascal (49), David Harbour (49), Jeffrey Dean Morgan (58), Gerard Butler (55) are all considered sex symbols....

Where's the father?

It's likely the 25yr old guys she knows are interested in drinking, partying, and generally hanging out with their mates and being immature.

This guy is probably seems a million miles from that so it'll be exciting and interesting. Just leave it to run it's course. It's her life.

My DP is 50 he’s not crinkly or haggard. He doesn’t have a paunch or grey hair (still has it all too). He can run 5k in less than 20 mins. No botox. You might imagine you know what you’re talking about but perhaps you just know about the people you know?

OP, I can understand why you are dismayed but honestly, the only thing you can do that won’t risk jeopardising your relationship with your daughter is ignore it. Be there for her if she needs you, don’t bring it up unless she does.

Huge power imbalance.
Huge difference in life experience/stage
I would be very upset.

Agreed! David Beckham is 50 this year. His 2025 calendar is amazing 😍

They are genuinely NOT consideeed sex symbols!!!! 😂😂 maybe to a geriatric audience but otherwise nope!

Er…they really are

my assistant at work who is 23 has a poster of Pedro Pascal on her desk backboard

He still is wrinkly tho and it’s things like breath and old man habits that set in. The calendar will have been enhanced somewhat no doubt. He has sun damage in real life.

Never head of him!! Or the others!

Yes it is just wrong on so many levels.

Doesn't matter if David Beckham is sexy, would any 50yr old look sexy with a 25yr old bf or gf? Nope. They'd look creepy as fuck.

How out of touch are you?
They most definitely ARE considered sex symbols
And I'm pretty sure the younger audiences who look at them as such would be pretty offended to be called Geriatric

Even George clooney has gone to pot! There is no escaping the claws of old age, and men show it in ways they don’t realise.

So you don't know who they are but are confidently saying they aren't sex symbols?

OK

I'm sure if there was a man saying "at 50 women are old and wrinkly and smell and are unattractive" he'd be ripped to shreds

What are you on about? He looks fantastic.

I would not like it either. However she could go out with someone her own age still he taken advantage of. Just be there. Listen and take an interest, it’ll be worth it in the end. Making fuss never ends well.

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-7522937/George-Clooney-rocks-casual-look-returning-New-York-City-apartment.html

No he really doesn’t!

He looks like one sexy silver fox in that article...

You're off your rocker mate he's gorgeous.

But we are talking about menz. And your sex symbols are people no one has ever heard of. Your secretary using one as a pin up?! It’s not the 80s now old chap. Your secretary is prob doing it for a laugh - honestly! 🥱