To think it isn't my responsibility to provide period products for adult dd.

[Mairzydotes]

I don't know if this my hormones talking, but I've just been in the bathroom and there are no pads left because my nearly 20 year old dd has used them all. I put those there for me.

My dd works , and I don't think it's my responsibility to provide them for her anymore.

I’d probably get my adult daughter products. Pick and choose your battles

My visitors are often teenagers (I have 3 teens) so I am happy to save them any embarrassment.

By doesn't DD pay board then that would cover all this sort of shared stuff including food.

When you've calmed down let her know that you had a tricky situation today when your period started and you didn't have any period products.

Suggest that from now on the pair of you either buy your own, or both commit to replenishing them when they are running low to avoid the same situation in the future.

It doesn't have to be a big thing, but now it's happened once put something in place so it doesn't happen to either of you again.

I don't ask my adult DCs to contribute to the household as they're both saving for their own places, but they buy all their own personal products. I buy enough food, but if they want something different that I didn't buy, they pay for that too. My DD has her own bathroom and she buys everything for that, including cleaning products. If they want to decorate their rooms, they fund that. I don't think it's unreasonable at all. If we shared products, I would expect them to contribute, and to maintain stock so that we didn't run out.

For goodness sake I seriously couldn't get upset about this
I have a couple of packs at home just in case

Multiple people have asked whether you have told her that you want her to buy her own period products. You haven't replied.

She isn't psychic. You could probably sort this very minor issue in one short, civil conversation.

@Mairzydotes

yep, disability aside, if one’s enough for period pants, they’re old enough to wash them themselves!

Do you restrict her use of toilet roll too?

You are both unreasonable at making assumptions and not communicating between you.

You’re both adults! Surely you talk about it reasonably?

I keep a supply for when my adult DD visits. I don't have periods. I can't imagine begrudging my child that, however old they are.

@WhimsicalGubbins76

”quite callous”?! lol. Surely it’s the daughter whose the callous one if anyone is, taking the last pad and leaving her mum to go to the bathroom and get caught short!

Me too! Surprised this isn't more common? I had everything I needed and I am so incredibly great full after reading some of these responses.

I’m internally chuckling about the time a few months ago when my 30 year old DD moaned at me when she went to the loo as she couldn't find any Tampax. Our children have not lived with us for 10 years and at 65 I’m pretty sure they know I'm well past the menopause 😂
When my youngest DD used to come home from Uni, I’d always stock up on all sorts of toiletries because I fully expected her to raid the airing cupboard!

My dd is 21, lives at home, works PT, does not contribute. I've no issue with her using them but definitely issues with her using the last of them. I have v heavy periods so I can't actually get out to get them if I have nothing on day 1. I keep my own extra absorbency stuff in my own room and a supply of pads etc in the bathroom for her, or anyone else to use. Similarly it annoys me if she uses all my cotton wool, conditioner or other toiletries (which she does).

I feel like this isn’t an issue, you are both adults. Just say “oh saw all the pads have ran out can you grab some please when you are in the shop”

Then your DD gets more pads

I've come back to this thread as it has really niggled at me for some reason!
I don't have periods (pill back to back) but my 14 year old daughter does and I assume some of the female guests I have will have them.
I just keep a box on the windowsill in the bathroom full of products for anyone to use. They cost a few quid here and there and I top up when I see them on offer (bodyform night, 10 pk for £1 in B&M this afternoon).
My point is, even though I don't have periods my daughter never has to ask for sanpro because I always make sure we have plenty in....I can imagine when she starts full time work it won't occur to her to buy them herself and that will be on me not her!
It seems very churlish to begrudge your own daughter the essentials you have always provided without having a conversation about her buying them.

Good point - to be honest, I’d check first anyway. And least she’d have some hidden away so can just go and get one.

Firstly have to say wtf is ' sanpro ' ?
obviously I know what it is but where did that term come from?
If you're buying own brand products ( which you said you buy ) you're talking £1 a month , that's 2 packets of sanitary towels, £2 max ,
I couldn't begrudge a stranger that , let alone my daughter .
I think that's the general vibe of this thread & op seems to have disappeared as is usual in these matters

Do adults have to bring along their own loo roll too when they visit? You're being ridiculous. That said you could just keep them in your room I guess.

What a strange thing to get annoyed by. I can’t say I’d ever feel irritated by DD using anything in my house, she’s welcome to it all.

Sanpro is such a horrible term!

Really? Did you have a job?

I get that, bugalugs but I think what irked the op on the particular occasion she is talking about is that when she wanted to get one, there were none left. A conversation needs to take place, to say something when supplies are running low and maybe the girl can buy her own is she is working. She has said she doesn't grudge the daughter a sanitary pad, it was just finding none that was somewhat annoying.

I didn't have a daughter so only had myself to think about. I usually stocked up but there were a couple of occasions when I had run out, or only had one. Going through handbags, you can often find a couple packed in the side pocket,. I generally carried some with me just in case as my periods were never regular, also had some, and tampons in a small vanity case in my desk drawer at work. Colleagues often asked for one. It would be a good idea for the op to suggest that to her girl so she is not caught short again.

I know it's going off subject a bit, but why is your DD not contributing to the home in general OP?

Also, why are you avoiding telling us whether you've actually discussed this with her? I'm afraid you sound VERY unreasonable!

Personally, I would expect any female using my bathroom, to feel free to use my products if they needed them. However, I do think that she should have told you she'd taken the last one. Maybe keep a pack elsewhere in the house, so that when the last one is used in the bathroom, you put the spare pack in, and add them to your shopping list. That way you'll never be in the position of running out.