To think it isn't my responsibility to provide period products for adult dd.

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I don't know if this my hormones talking, but I've just been in the bathroom and there are no pads left because my nearly 20 year old dd has used them all. I put those there for me.

My dd works , and I don't think it's my responsibility to provide them for her anymore.

Eh, period products are a free for all in my family. If I get caught short at my mums, I’m free to use hers. If they get caught short at mine, I’ll offer whatever I’ve got in.

DD was U to use up the supplies and not replace them quickly, agree with PPs best have a conversation with her.

Are we hiding toilet paper now too? Hand soap? Hiding a basic need is ridiculous, especially when it’s your child.

Of course not but I'm surprised she's not using period pants

This thread has been a revelation. I’ve been buying my own sanpro since about 14, it would not occur to me to share except in an emergency. Toothpaste and deodorant are also personal items, as is luxury soap and shower gel.

Why? Not asking in a snarky way - just genuinely curious as to why this is surprising

Are we hiding toilet paper now too? Not unknown in shared student houses

Goodness a pack sanitary pads is hardly much to provide. I would always have sanitary products available for my DDs until they live on their own. I would even keep some spare incase they need one when they visit too.

If you don't want her to use them keep them in your bedroom.

Period knickers. Hide at back of Drawer of Dullness. Hide stash of tampons and knicker stickers in different Drawer of Dullness. Gods fortune in the wars to come.

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Like everything else in a home once the kids are adults they have to take some responsibility. If you have a common pool of period products she needs to contribute.

Equally, if you've let her use yours since she started periods then you've made a rod for your own back.

A conversation needs to be had, just like about bog roll in shared houses.

I think that’s mean, if it’s in the bathroom and you need a sanitary product you should be able to use them. She should be aware of using the last one though.

My adult kids live here and are older - I am transitioning them to buying their own stuff while still having a back up. Cupboard on the landing has cheap shower gel and shampoo/conditioner and generic paracetamol and plasters. I have a guest sanitary box which they can use if they run out.
I expect them to buy their own sanitary stuff, shampoo, conditioner (and not use my expensive stuff) which they do.
I'm now getting them to buy their own medical stuff after giving them three tubes of ulcer treatment in the space of a week.

I just lost my mum 2 months ago. She was a bloody diamond, she never begrudged me a single thing I lived with her til I was 30. We shared everything and never, ever did she accused me of taking her stuff. Just makes me realise just how much I’ve lost and how much I miss her.

Same here, I didn’t necessarily want to use the same stuff my mum was using!

Is she allowed to use the toilet paper at yours as well or are you expecting her to bring her own?

Well I would be annoyed if she used them all and didn't let me know, but I think you need to decide under what category they fall in.
Is it communal stuff that everyone uses like loo roll or soap? Or is it like her shampoo and deodorant which she buys herself?

Personally, I'd chuck a couple of packs of the ones she uses in the trolley when buy my own. Although they would probably be supermarket own brand or what's on offer. I wouldn't be routinely buying the finest ultra quilted, woven by angels, sanitary towels. Those she can pay for herself.

Do you want her to buy her own? Or would you rather she contributed by replacing them or giving you money?

Then just have a word with her about it, it really doesn't need to be this complicated.

Do you have your own personal stock of toilet paper as well that she isn't allowed to use?

Chuck a fiver at her and send her to the shops pronto. Tell her what sort you want.
It would be using the last one without saying that would annoy me.
Mention she should add it to the shopping list in future or buy her own.

Same although I was 16. At the very least, the daughter shouldn't have used the last items without replacing.

Then you need to tell her. And that's fine. You'd think from some of these responses you were talking about some mystical and sacred mother daughter legacy rather than something that costs hard cash. San pro should be free. Its unfair that any woman has to pay for it. However the answer isn't to shame women into feeling they should have to carry the costs of it for their working daughters.

I suspect you are passed off, OP, because you've had year upon year of anticipating other people's needs and then being expected to do that, and this a straw that's breaking the camel's back. You're itching to leave that behind you but the family keep putting you in that situation.

At least, that's how I felt.

Blimey. Sanitary products are for whoever needs them. I have a 16 and 18 year old DD and they know they can use them. It wouldn't even occur to me to say buy your own. They're not awfully expensive.
Also if your DD used the last one you must have been running low so lesson to learn.: don't let your supply run low.
I mean you can tell her not to use them but seems really petty.

Move to Scotland.