To think it isn't my responsibility to provide period products for adult dd.

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I don't know if this my hormones talking, but I've just been in the bathroom and there are no pads left because my nearly 20 year old dd has used them all. I put those there for me.

My dd works , and I don't think it's my responsibility to provide them for her anymore.

I’m post menopausal but always keep sanitary products in the house for when DDILs or younger friends visit. There’s nothing worse than being caught short in the middle of the night.

My goodness, I'm a 34 year old married mother of two and I am definitely in kid mode when I go to my mum's house

"Muuuuum.. can I take this bottle of bleach/bottle of shampoo/toothpaste here and grab you another one next time I'm in Tesco?"

"Course.. I've plenty there, never worry about replacing"

Our household income is 6 figures. She's my mum

Don't be mean. My children/their spouse/their children will always be welcome to have whatever they want in my home, irrespective of their age

when my DDs lived at home we added whatever period products (etc) that we needed to the shopping list (different requirements/preferences)

It wouldn't have occurred to me not to buy them, and it wouldn't have crossed their minds (because not selfish little mares) to use the last one without telling someone. If i had gone to the toilet, realised i needed a pad and there had been none there, all hell would have broken loose. And they would have been ashamed of themselves.

PP seem to be missing the point (or maybe i misunderstood) that OP needed a pad and there were none there? you can't just breezily "ask DD to pick up a pack next time she's out" if you're flooding and need one now, can you?

I would be annoyed at not being told we we are running low. I'd absence have words with her over that. I use washable pads pants and period cup so running out won't be a problem but if I used disposable I'd provide for my dd

I'd have no issue with my 19 year old using our period products. They don't even live here anymore but I keep a stock of their preferred products.

This. When my DD lived at home we had a drawer in the bathroom and both used what we needed. I just picked up replacements with the food shop. I'm through menopause now, so thankfully I don't need these products but I still keep a supply in the bathroom drawer in case a visitor like my DD or DS's gf needs to use them.

Yes, and that lack of consideration is what is the actual issue.

I don't think it's necessarily wrong to have an understanding that everyone takes care of buying their own products for this sort of thing, it's just not how I do things. If I repeatedly found I had none when I needed them, then maybe it would be worth having a rule that everyone gets their own.

Same with shampoo, hair conditioner, hand cream and foot cream, plasters and anything in first aid box, sore throat sweets, cough medicine etc.

if she's working, tell her you don't mind her using yours in an emergency, but to please make sure to leave you enough for yourself, and to get her own.
it's nice to keep supplies available for anyone with an unexpected lack that lives or visits your home, but I don''t think it's unfair to make it clear, they should be providing the bulk of their own menstrual products.

I don't have a lot of visitors, but a friend of mine who stays over sometimes has stashed a few tampons and pads in my bathroom, after asking if it's okay, as she's not always that predictable. (I use a cup, so I don't get them in for myself)
she also uses a cup, but doesn't always have it with her if she comes on unexpectedly. and it's not like I can lend her mine.

should be before the last one. if it's whoever uses the last one. that could leave someone else using wadded toilet roll until that person does their shop

Yes to this.

This is extraordinarily mean.

I agree with you, I provide my children with sanitary products and will continue to (they are only 13 and 15).
I had an incredibly difficult mother and always had to buy my own products, I am assuming once out of 6th form they can get thier own or ask for help.

Sorry but your child is your child at what ever age,if you can't talk to your own daughter that your moaning about a couple of quid pads then you do have serious problems,to eve think this is a question that needs a debate is crazy,think you both need to grow up abit,sorry sounds harsh but come on read what you put and then think how old you are,if your daughter almost 20 your at least in mid 30s possibly older,she won't get there's a problem if you talk on here about the problem and not to her

At no point have I ever prevented her from having any . I do buy a supply of several packs in the grocery shop .

This time we have used these before the big shop to replace them.

I have spoken to her in person, and told her there weren't any left in the bathroom, and once the last pack is getting down for her to pick some up from the shops.

I have also suggested she sees if there is a brand she prefers , and she can get them for herself, as I just got cheapie in an emergency.

I think it’s a bit mean spirited of you to begrudge you DD sharing the san pro but she could have offered to pick some up as she’d just used the last one

Next time she's going out shopping ask 'can you pick up some san pro please? We're almost out'

She may just (lazily) have internalised it as a mum job not something she should be part of. At least start with a polite request.

Just ask her to keep an eye on supplies too (if she's used to things being there that's a shift for her) and pick up some when she's out.

those who go to their parents or grandparents or whoever and expect their to be sanitary products for you to use? Why don’t you just bring your own?? Genuinely don’t get it!

Have you never started your period way earlier than expected? Or been much heavier than you thought so gone through your supply quicker than normal?
I would never expect anyone to have sanpro for me but if they had some I would be very relieved and grateful.

My Mum drummed it into me from when I started to make sure I carried it with me so I wasn't caught out. Anyway surely most people only have the products they use. I use tampons so don't have a supply of pads so if anyone wanted pads they'd be stuck. Obviously if a friend wanted one they could have one but they'd have to ask as I keep them in my bedroom until I need them.

She still lives at home tho,if she went to visit then yh there's a little point but she's still living at home with her mum so if it's that much of a problem for the mum she could say just make sure you replace them please,simple,she just maybe hasn't realised with it always been mum has always provided them,she won't know her mum doesn't like it now if she doesn't tell her

@TheWholeMealBaby

wouldnt you always just carry a couple in your handbag though? Especially if you knew your cycle could be a bit unpredictable.