To think it isn't my responsibility to provide period products for adult dd.

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I don't know if this my hormones talking, but I've just been in the bathroom and there are no pads left because my nearly 20 year old dd has used them all. I put those there for me.

My dd works , and I don't think it's my responsibility to provide them for her anymore.

I can’t imagine a time where I would begrudge my DD’s something like this.

If it’s in a shared place then expect them to be used. If you keep them in your room, then she will get the memo and buy her own.

Why isn't she paying any rent? She's an adult and she's working and I'm sure she's spending money on things that she wants for herself.

I think you have to make it clear to her what's yours in the bathroom and what she needs to supply. The easiest way to do it though is to charge her rent.

Blimey I'm well passed menopause and I keep a stock of sanitary products in my bathroom cabinet for any female who comes into our house whether it's my DDs, my son's GF, any of my friends or my God daughter. I also supply a variety of products as not all women like the same!

My middle child (eldest at home) is 21, I wouldn't dream of not providing them for her and her sister. I've never cooked up how many I get, I just pick them up as and when.
My daughter knows that when she leaves uni the back of mum and dad will end but for a £1 packet of pads, I'm not going to begrudge her those.

So, so sorry for your loss. Really puts things in perspective doesn't it. Life is too short to argue and be angry about such trivial matters really. Not worth it.

I think you need to have a chat with her about buying her own and only using the communal ones in an emergency. Also if she's 20 and working she should probably be paying some rent, even if you just save it to help with a deposit later.

I have two daughters and i will always make sure they have what they need. Weather they are living with me or not. A simple can you please tell me if we are running low on pads so I can grab some more. Whilst she’s under your roof protect her as much as you can

I have always provided and will always provide hygiene products for every female coming to my house. I'm 66 and in menopause, but I have a daughter ánd a daughter in law and as long as I live they will never have to worry about bringing their own pads or tampons. They know I always stock enough for at least a few days so even if and when they stay over they'll always be comfortable. Also, I have several much younger friends who often visit. They know there's always that little basket on the shelf in the bathroom. I think it's very easy to be nice to other women.

You sound really mean, no it’s not your responsibility but I don’t think any adult wants to intentionally steal period products. Period poverty

Surely this is easily solved by having a 2 minute conversation and asking her to buy her own going forwards.

Same here for both of us to use

I cannot imagine getting worked up over something like this. Just have a (friendly) conversation with her if it bothers you!

She was rude not letting you know the last one was used but I don’t see the big deal
my mum hasn’t had periods for over 30 years yet she still has a supply for us daughters ans granddaughter

My daughter does the same with everything, finishes the last loo roll, empties the milk and never says anything. It's irritating but thankfully no issue with period products, I stopped using those very early with prem menopause so she has to buy her own.

I like to keep the house stocked at all times, for any of the females in it

Weird!!! Surely you can use each others and just let each other know if something is getting low....?

I had DTs at 44 and never had a period again - so DD and I haven't ever shared anything. But she is 16 and uses a mooncup (not a thing when I was young) - so it's never been an issue. But she doesn't use pads or tampons or anything. So I suspect this whole discussion is going to to be obsolete very soon....

Unless money or general inconsiderate behaviour is an issue I'd be making them communal use. Even now at 50 my dear mum nearly 80, when I visit, is constantly offering me her supply tena pants for my heavy perimenopausal occasional periods (actually work better than any sanitary protection for periods) and she did and would have treated pads and tampons in the past in the same way, general bathroom supplies just as soap or toothpaste.

This is so odd why would you begrudge her using products if you're unhappy talk to her and move your sanitary products elsewhere

I have a drawer that my 20 year old daughter helps herself to. It's for both of us. I don't even think about it. I don't run out as I have to anticipate my need once a month, so know well what is in there and if it needs topping up.

I have a DD in her early 30s who shared some with me when I was at her home recently too. We wanted to go swimming and I didn't have a tampon, so she just handed me one of hers.

We're a bit share and share alike with this sort of thing.

how bloody mean spirited to share a house with someone else who clearly needs period products, and to use the last one without mentioning it?

Just tell her she's used all your products so she needs to replace them - then keep them in your room until you need them

I always keep period products in my bathroom so that whoever uses it can avail of them if they need to. Its not something I'd get worked up about but if she's used them all id just ask her to pick some up next time she's out to replace them.

That's a separate issue from providing them, but that should be addressed because that's not fair on the other person.

I mentioned I have a communal drawer, but my DD also pays some money towards her upkeep at home.

I’d be perfectly happy to keep a supply of pads in all bathrooms of my house for my daughter at any age as well as for any other girl or woman visiting who needs them. I consider it an essential thing to have in stock in a bathroom just like toilet paper or soap.

Your annoyance is probably just that she didn’t tell you she’d used the last pad but personally I wouldn’t make a big deal of it and would happily pay for my adult daughters sanitary products. Next time if she’s going to the chemist for something just ask her to pick up some more pads while there which she’s probably very willing and able to do.