My partner left my birthday

[NiftyRoseDreamer]

So it was my birthday yesterday. My partner and I live together an hour away from my family house. The plan was to go to my family house and go out to lunch, then at night time my partner and I were going to spend time together and stay over at the family house (he never agrees to stay over so i’ve been very excited about this). After lunch, I was in conversation with my family (some which he never met) and he went to call his parents. When he came back he said that he had to leave immediately due to a family emergency. He left very quickly without saying goodbye to my family and caught public transport even though i had a car and said that we’d leave together. When he got home he was messaging me saying that he felt left out and that my family were very rude for doing that. He also said that it wasn’t just because of the family emergency that he left. He didn’t write me a card, he sent me money a few weeks ago to buy my own gifts (he didn’t pick out any of them). I’m still grateful for the gifts but I told him that I appreciate the thought over the gift. He was really rude to me for the rest of the night over text trying to fight with me etc. I was crying the whole night of my birthday and felt very upset. Am i being unreasonable?

He needs dumping just for using the phrase "throwing shade"

OP anyone who tries to separate you from your family or who criticises them without good reason is not a decent partner. He sounds manipulative, joyless and socially inept. Find someone who makes you happy.

Is he usually such a selfish little child? Does he find social situations unusually hard?
The reason I fell for my DH is that he could drop into my (big) family and chat to anyone. He's not overly confident and quite shy but he knows family matters to me.

Unless it really was an emergency (in which case he should have returned after and said "sorry family emergency.Thank you for lunch" ) then I'm not surprised someone was throwing shade for being on his phone. It's a family lunch!

You don't sound long term compatible- assuming you're planning on keeping close to your family in future then he needs to learn to too.

Unless he suffers from deep insecurity issues or has anxiety or abandonment problems you need to look at what’s going on between you both and wether he’s that interested in you I’m afraid. Tolerance of other peoples family and feeling like an outsider is something you just have to put up with until time makes it less of an issue. If he needs additional support because he has particular problems- and you’re prepared to offer this then fair enough. You need a conversation about his needs. If it’s simply being bored or pissed off he’s not the centre of attention then this is a bad sign I’m afraid.

Either he is a pathetic prick or something happened that you weren't aware of which made him shoot off.

Please leave this man-child. He's selfish and only interested in himself, and doesn't care about your feelings in the slightest. Your life together will be miserable if you stay with him.....