It's too late, right?

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I'm 40. DH is 52. Happily married for 15 years, childfree.

Hormones have hit me like a freight train - I want a baby.

It's way, way too late, right? It's just hormones. It'll pass?

Of course it’s not. Women have babies in their early 40’s all the time. It’s not even particularly unusual. Why do you think it’s too late?

It's really not too late.

My friend conceived naturally at 40, had a slightly rough pregnancy & has a great child (who is an absolute delight!).
Massive life change though! ( Obviously)
Just adding this is her only child

No they don't. People should stop saying these things.

It may not be too late, though, OP. You may need help, you may get pregnant and miscarry. Worth a try if you BOTH want it though.

Does your husband want a baby?

Placemarking for the cute newborn photo update next year 😉

I don't think it's too late at all. Would your DH be on board?

My friend and her husband are the same age as you and yours and they just had a baby. He's bloody awesome and the pregnancy went really smoothly.

It may be too late, or it may not be. If you’re serious about wanting a baby get a fertility check done and see where you’re at.

40 whilst not ideal isn't entirely unusual for a first these days (so I hear at least) if nature allows, though you'll want to familiarise yourself with the risks for awareness, but your DH being 52 is too old IMO.

No, I don't think 40 is too late. What does your DH want?

It isn't always too late at that age. I had a baby at 40 but it wasn't my first

It’s not too late, if it’s what you both want.

I have two friends who conceived babies at 44, both with their first child. So no, not too late x

Not too late, no. I know lots of women who got pregnant in their forties

40 is fine - go for it

40 isn't massively late. 52 is a little more though.

A friend of mine had all three of her children in her 40s.

Not too late. I know someone who had all four (yes four!) children in her forties.

I think the more relevant question is what does your DH want?

Not too old. One way or another you can have a baby. The issue is does your husband feel the same way? It sounds like you decided to be childfree. So what has changed? Do your reasons for not wanting children still stand?

More DH's age than mine, high (?) risk of SEN, disability, rough pregnancy, sleep deprivation... also I have no family. So zero support apart from DH.

DH would be a wonderful hands-on devoted Dad.

But...it physically is such a 'need' - I never felt ready before but now I want at least three!

I'm financially very well off, live in a lovely village (rural). But I can't help thinking it's just too late?

There was a thread a couple of days ago about having a baby in your 40s lots of people were saying it isn't too late.
What does your DH think ?

If you've been CF all this time will your DH even consider this. If it was a mutual decision not to have DC I can't see him being thrilled at his age

Don't get pregnant if you want a baby. Get pregnant if you want a toddler, a school kid, a mardy teenager and to support a young adult through Uni when you could be retiring and your husband will have already retired.

It would be too late for me given he is 52 already but that’s just how I would feel.