To tell my SIL to bugger off with her comments?

[TitaniasAss]

My DB and SIL have been staying with us since Friday and are due to leave tomorrow. It's been nice and I get on well with SIL but if she comments one more time on what I eat I think I'll scream.

I eat pretty well a majority of the time (I'm kind of 80/20 in terms of healthier/treats that I like). I run 4 times a week, which I've still been doing over the festive period and I generally try to take a fairly balanced approach to food and drink. I like to feel healthy as much as possible most of the time and I'm not overweight.

But it's Christmas. I am over indulging and probably about 70% pate 30% Quality Street right now and I really don't give a shit because I know that by the end of the week I'll be back to normal.

SIL seems to comment on every bloody think I eat or drink. 'Oh another chocolate/more wine/not more cheese and crackers, surely?' or a little snigger and comment to my DH (who has inhaled everything in sight but not a word has been said to him) 'oh you'll have to roll her around the floor if she keeps eating like that'. DH didn't laugh and told her that he wouldn't notice what I ate and nor should she.

I've tried to laugh it off with a jolly 'you're not trying to make me feel bad are you?' and eventually 'oh my god stop watching what I eat!' but I'm sick of it. I adore my brother and would never want to upset him, especially as he's had a really tough few weeks. I've noticed that she never says anything in front of him, but I really don't know how to last another 24 Hours with her monitoring every bloody thing I eat.

How do I put a stop to it without causing an issue with my brother or do I just put up with it for another day?

YABU - keep your mouth shut
YANBU - speak to my brother and potentially upset him

I agree with this. Alternatively:

"Weight can be lost but cuntishness... That sticks like Brie on a cheese board."

If she only does it when your brother isn't about, then go right back at her.

Sandra, I am really fucking bored with you banging on about what I eat. It's really weird that you are so obsessed with it. Pack it in because it's bloody rude and it's actually making me look forward to you going home.

As you want to preserve the equilibrium with your brother, I wouldn’t broach it with her. Bullies like this get very sensitive when the tables are turned on them and then there’s hell to pay.

Or if you don't want to confront her, say "Interesting that you keep commenting on what I eat." and then stare at her as if she's some sort of fascinating puzzle. It will totally freak her out.

Eat her. It's the only way.

Is the thing that's stressed your brother out / been difficult also been stressful / difficult for her? Does she have issues with body image / disordered eating?

My mum does this to me "ooh Pitch you're having ANOTHER chocolate or ANOTHER beer? You naughty thing"......

I'm a marathon runner and train hard all year round, I'm extremely fit and don't indulge very often, so as you can imagine critiquing my food/drink intake is an extremely stupid thing to say to me!

It comes from a place of jealousy which is probably the situation with your SIL.

Next time she mentions it just say "YEP and I'm loving every moment of it thanks"

Then disinvite the stupid bint from any further christmases and have a quiet word with your brother in a couple of weeks and tell him why.

I think she must be doing it on purpose. Don’t give her the satisfaction of being annoyed and instead just smile 🙃 she’s being a twat

She has a touch of the big green eyed monster me thinks, I’d say try it it might work for you with a big grin

The best way to deal with it's is asked her to repeat what she just said, and they say to her did you intentionally say that to make me feel bad,

it works a treat every time, and I bed she will go a lovely shade of red.

I'd just go with a basic 'Give it a bloody rest for for god sake'

It's a shame your DH didn't say (when she was saying about having to roll you around) yeah, but she'd still be the sexiest woman in the room' Shut the bitch right down!!

Imagine how horrible she'd taste!!!

@SnoopySantaPaws you're right. Especially if she's been stressed too- she'll probably be all stringy!

Just say 'Oh im one of those lucky people who can eat and drink what i like'

This is an unpleasant comment. The whole thread is about NOT body shaming or judging what people eat.

Maintain eye contact with her, and in complete silence pop one Ferrero Rocher into your mouth after another, and another... until it becomes completely uncomfortable.

I've got this exact situation with my inlaw stopping at the moment. She has an eating disorder and hates people eating. Any chance of that here? I take it she is really slim

I’d just say something like “yeah, I’m a right greedy bugger, aren’t I” and leave it there. That’s what she’s implying so just agree with her - that’ll take the wind out her sails!

He doesn't know. I've said a couple of times that she never does it in front of him.

DH has just said that he thinks she's jealous because she constantly talks about starting running and never does anything about it and that 'you're nicer than her in every way'. But that's because he's lovely. 😊

Why even think about mentioning it to your brother? You are an adult so reply directly to her next time she says something.
“You seem pre-occupied with what I eat and drink. Are you struggling with something?”

Oh god! I accidentally hit YABU instead of YANBU.

It wont let me change it 😢