suggestions on how to say "please leave now".

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It's a MIL one I'm afraid.
She has form for outstaying her welcome and not realising it.

Please suggest some gentle but not too subtle phrases please!
This thread is light hearted really. (ish!)

The beaters?!

You win. 🥇. ALL of these are excellent and shall be used from here on out!

That would be lovely, but I'm not sure that's going to work for us this time. We've promised dc we'll be doing a few days out. We must come to you next time!

Tell her it's been lovely but you have plans for new year as you didn't expect her to be staying so long. If you have work say you need to get the house organised before you go back. Ask if she needs a lift to the station and say you could take her tomorrow but your busy after then.

You know, like on a shoot. It's more interesting than sandwiches for the WI anyway.

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This is too long, if she goes over to Mary's make sure you're "away" when she gets back, it's imposing and there's only one way to deal with people like that and it's the bluntness. Tell her Christmas is over and you've a lot to be getting on with and it's time she bogged off home!

I learned the hard way never to have visitors staying for an unspecified period of time. I'm sorry you're learning that same lesson.
'Well Sandra, we hope you've had a lovely Christmas. How about we have a nice breakfast/lunch together tomorrow before you go back home? Derek will take you to the station for the 14:00 train'
And just rubber ear any talk of coming back after new year 'OK Sandra, let's see what happens' (rinse and repeat until next Christmas)

I think she's staying put until after NY now..

Do you give her a time to leave? Or is it an open ended invite? I always give my in-laws a set time “come round 2pm-4pm”

When my mother used to stay I always gave her a start and end time of the visit. She doesn’t stay anymore. The only guests I have for more than 3 days are the grandchildren.

I'm sure you are absolutely welcome, don't take this post to heart! Some people are just full on as guests. I don't think this is anything to do with being a MIL, just the general lack of any plan of action. There are some people you can potter about getting on with stuff eventually, and some you need to actually host until they leave and I think this is what this post it about. I'm delighted any time my Mum stays with me and am sad to see her leave, same with my siblings who have kids.
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Hope you had a nice Christmas and don't overthink it. I live alone and spent Christmas alone because I had nobody to mind the cat and my family are all over the place at the moment! I'm actually enjoying seeing everyone either side of Christmas where everyone is less stressed.

As a side note, highly recommend a cat for some company if you live alone. I used to be upset coming home from holidays with people and now I cannot wait to get in the door!

I had a friend who wouldn't go home. We tried the " oh the baby had us up 5 times last night" and the " I've got an early start in the morning " and the very theatrical yawn .
She lived about 30 minutes away and took none of the hints at all .
Eventually my husband went upstairs, I assumed to go to the toilet but to my surprise he came downstairs wearing pjs. I don't even know where he found them as his Nan had bought for him about 10 years before and they'd never come out of the packet. As he came into the lounge wearing them, the only thing he said was " I've put the electronic blanket on".
She got the hint and left.

I just said "I'm so tired, I'm going to go to bed soon. Would you like a lift home?"

Fuck off.

Or, more tactful, "It's been a joy having you. Now, fuck off."

No open-ended invitations.

"MIL, could you visit 23 Dec to the morning of the 27th?? We'd love to see you! Here are the trains I suggest!"

If she protest say "unfortunately we have visitors booked from the 28th; so glad you can make it for Christmas, though."

Be gentle but direct. “I’m really sorry but I need to go to xx. It has been so lovely to see you and I wish we had longer but unfortunately I can’t miss xx. Thank you so much for coming, let’s speak soon.”

But why hint? She’s a friend. Just tell her “sorry lovely I think I’m going to have to call it a night as the baby had me up all last night and I am exhausted. I’ll call you tomorrow…..”

Well, I must let you get off

yup 👍🏼

Haha luv this 😂

Well simply say, "Sorry, that doesn't work for us.we need to get back into our normal schedule after new year. so you'll have to go home."

Jane Austen had a good one “you have delighted us long enough”

lets get your train ticket seat orebooked - as no one likes standing…,