Pissed off at sister's snobby comment

[Ontherocksthisyear]

This happened a couple weeks ago, but it has really annoyed me the more I think about it. I haven't come out and said its annoyed me, but I wish I had at the time. It's also not the first comment like this she has made.

Anyway, I have just finished a masters. Not that it maybe matters but I did this while being a mum to my DD, being pregnant with my DS (I had terrible nausea all throughout my pregnancy). This master also included placements, so it wasn't just a case of sitting at home writing essays. So I was massively proud of myself and hugely relieved when I finally finished and got my degree.

Anyway, I was out for my birthday lunch with my family and told my sister that I had finished and passed my course, she congratulated me. We were then discussing which uni her son was thinking of going to, I mentioned the one I had just got my degree from (not the best uni in the world granted, but not bad either). Bare in mind my nephew wants to stay fairly local because of health issues, so it's either the one in his city, or the one I mentioned (neighbouring city), or another uni in a neighbouring city.

When i mentioned this my sister screwed up her face and said pretty bluntly 'it's not a very good uni is it', I then said 'well it depends on what you study, it is great for certain sciences and the programme i was on is one of the best in country' she then screwed up her face again as if she thought I was talking a load of shit and reiterated how it wasn't a good uni.

Anyway, I am quite annoyed. I understand she wants the best for her son... but she knows I have literally just got a degree from here. I mean, I literally just told her and she congratulated me. Is this rude of her?

Very rude.

YANBU

Sounds like green cheese.

It's insensitive but maybe she wants to be honest and not pacify you because you went there? I'm doing my masters at the local uni. My son is at the nearest Russell Group one. I'm super proud of him. I'm glad he aims as high as possible.

I mean yeah, it’s completely unnecessary of her. Do you know what he wants to study? Is it a similar thing to you?

How rude. Your achievement is absolutely fantastic. Take no notice of her, she sounds jealous.
Honestly, even if you did a degree in underwater macrame at the Toytown Polytechnic (I used to say that’s what mine was in/from!) and he was off to Oxford it makes no difference.
Your sister should be proud of you. End of.

She’s being very rude. There are unis here that may not be very high on the top Uni list overall, but have degree courses they particularly excel in. It really does depend on what he wants to study.

It can be a shit uni but someone still do really well there. Its like local shit schools with bad names for themselves, some kids still come out with good grades, like you did. She didn't say you were shit.

Russell Group is a meaningless marketing term, which tells you very little about the quality of teaching received. I went to one, my husband currently teaches in one, and he would agree. There are loads of really good, well taught courses at non-RG unis.

OP, your sister was very rude, take no notice and congratulations on your achievement.

Urgh my sister said exactly the same to me and I was studying in the same circumstances as you.

I actually think it is just jealousy.
Years later my sister went onto study and despite the temptation I did manage to not call her choice of university sub par. Proud of myself for that.

Don’t let it bother you, she’s just ignorant.

Her comment was rude. I suspect it’s jealousy pure and simple.
Of course not all unis are the same and it depends on the course as well. She could have said something like: we looked up and their Computer science department doesn’t rate very highly ( if say he wants to do computer science) or even better He is thinking about Xplace as their computer department rates very highly. And that will be the end of it.
Congratulations 🎉🎊🍾

That was nasty of her

She sounds jealous

Yawn. SO much hype about RG. Beware being taken in by the brand!

SIL was rude @Ontherocksthisyear - you've done a fab job. Congratulations!

If she's got a history of being a snide cow, then just grin and rise above it. Hooray for karma, which gets you in the end

Incredibly rude, and where was her masters from?

It was extremely rude of her to say the university you've just graduated from is not very good. Doesn't matter about rankings or anything. It added nothing to the conversation other than to detract from celebrating your achievements. It was rude. Well done on your degree

YANBU

Very insensitive. You're correct in that it depends on the course. For my first degrees, I went to a mediocre university with a brilliant department for my particular course.

Yes it was rude of her. Ignore it. Some people are cynical/perfectionists but you choose to be rude or not with it.

Rude - did she go to a fancy uni?

That's ridiculously rude. Did she get a first from Cambridge? I bet she hadn't even got a masters.

Just brush it off as her being a twat. Your success isn't diminished by her idiocy.

Maybe there's something in what you say about RG however, in my case my uni isn't a patch on my son's. Nowhere close. And I did get accepted there too but I couldn't be bothered with the commute. Now I am doing a masters with people who only needed a 2.2 to get on the course. I would prefer a higher standard tbh. I spend too much time helping people who are completely out of their depth.

She's rude - and jealous. Ignore her!

I worked at a RG university for many years. They are definitely not always the best places for the more vocational courses which OP has obviously done.

OP's sister was very rude. It was unnecessary for her to say that. It was particularly silly if her son's choices are constrained by wanting to stay local for health reasons as he may actually end up at the University that she has been slagging off.

@Ontherocksthisyear tell me again did she get a degree at all????