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[Hertsgirl1234]

My husband was on a world do last night with about 8 men and his secretary who is an old acquaintance we have known for years.
my children who are 12 called him at 11.30pm to speak to him. He was so drunk that when he put the phone down he left it up by mistake.

They heard his secretary (friend) say “why don’t you tell them you are out on a work do and you won’t be home til the morning”

They came down to tell me. I am annoyed that she is suggesting he tells his own daughters that, what has it got to do with her what he says to our children? What woman makes snide comments like that?

i am annoyed she has overstepped the mark? Does she think she is some sort of lad? Your thoughts?

Hes probably not been able to hear them very well and she's picked up on the fact that why the hell are his kids ringing him at 11:30, so she's said something I think we would all be thinking.

why don’t you tell them you are out on a work do and you won’t be home til the morning

This grabbed my attention straight away - maybe I have a suspicious mind

I do not think you should have allowed your children to phone him when he was on a work do, Could you not allow him one night off. I wonder how you would have felt if you were contacted when out socialising. Was there a bit of engineering on your behalf to get them to phone or was it their own idea.

Why were the kids ringing him at 11:30pm when he’s out on a works doo?

Huh. said with a cynical sigh. Again...

Any answers to sensible and obvious questions OP? Must admit I too am curious why the kids are calling him. If there was a problem you could have sorted it out, why the need to interlope on their dad's night out unless you asked them to call check up on him?

This

Maybe she saw how drunk he was and thought it better he just see them in the morning, to spare them hearing their Dad drunk

I also think it is very odd that 12 yo children would be calling their DF at 11.30 pm when he was on a night out. Why were they doing that? I don't think what the woman said was odd at all.

I'd say, if she's known him for years, she knows what he's like on a night out and thinks he should manage yours and your kids expectations.

This is the sort of thing I would often say to an erstwhile colleague who could barely step away from her house without some member of her family phoning her.

There's a back story to this, it might probably explain OP's reaction, but then again maybe not.
I won't have been impressed if dh was calling me up on a night out with colleagues unless there was an emergency.

OP, it sounds as though you were suspicious and got your children to phone him as a sort of test to see if he answered and if he was up to anything. This whole scenario is ridiculous and it seems like you're goading for an argument. Surely you've seen him this morning?

And also, given it was 11.30, unless he was in a local bar he wouldn’t be getting home until the morning anyway!!!

Half 11 is too late for them to be up and calling him really
She was right, why interrupt his work night out?

This - sounds like just those 2 were out

Why were they calling him?

I do hope you’re not like my cousin who makes her kids ring her husband whenever he goes out for a drink? 🙄

I agree.

Would he really have answered the phone if it was just the two of them out?

She sounds very comfortable with telling him what to do, including how to run his private life.

regardless of anything else, you know now not to trust her as far as you can throw her.

Firstly I thought that he was on a date and his date (secretary) was suggesting that he should say he's on a work do and not on a date

But then why would he answer the phone if he's having an affair?

Why would you let the kids ring him at nearly midnight? Shouldn't they have been asleep?

Do you think he's having an affair, and that is why you got the kids to ring him?

I'm really confused

Why did you think it was appropriate for your kids to ring their dad while he was out with work like that?

This. I'd be thinking she wanted them to go and stay somewhere together,

You're not overreacting at all, I'd be very suspicious of that and would want some answers.

Whose idea was it to phone him? And why at 11.30?

If my work colleague's children rang at 11.30pm when we were on a work do, I'd probably make a similar suggestion.

Not unreasonable to expect that he wouldn't see his children until the morning.

If you're out at 11.30pm, also pretty likely you won't be home until the morning (i.e 30 minutes or more later).

I’m more amazed that two 12yo could hear a third party make such a statement over a phone that was (presumably) on the table in a busy bar.

lots of gullible Mumsnetters.