Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

That's some claim to make if it isn't true!

I'm with you through OP, an hour is too much. Does he take that long when practicing 'self care'?

I wanted to ask that, but didn't end up doing so.

Honestly I couldn't be chewed with an hours PIV. Even mixing all the usual elements of a sexual encounter and taking an hour would be a push.

I'd be tempted to say something to him.

What would you be tempted to say?

No way, dump.

An hour is fine for me and sex from
start to finish is about an hour with my Dp, when you factor in foreplay ect. I love this about my partner and sometimes after an hours session we go for round 2 😅

Totally your call but I can't imagine dumping someone for sexual incompatibility before I'd had sex with them personally. What about chemistry? I wouldn't be keen for piv sex for an hour but surely there are other things you can do to mix it up over that time.

I don’t think I could mentally psych myself up for this OP 😂 I’d bring it up again and say are you joking? I think I’d have to break if off with him.

Provided you enjoy it and you stop when you're ready what's the problem?

Sex isn't just about their orgasms.

He may suffer from delayed ejaculation.

He said that doesn't include foreplay.

So needs about an hour of PIV sex to finish.

I know people always cite porn addiction/ over dependence on a particular masturbation style on MN, but in this case it really does sound like that! Wouldn't enjoy that meself.

If someone was banging away on top of me for an hour I'd die of boredom.

This!

You could read a book I suppose lol

It’d put me off, tbh. I had a partner who could last for ages but it sort of felt he was just banging away and I didn’t feel a connection. It’s interesting as there isn’t really a perfect duration of sex, essentially I want someone who comes 30 seconds after I do, regardless of how long that takes.

Seeing as you're colleagues maybe call it off prior rather than post. Gotta factor in awkwardness when you're shuffling around each other making coffee at work. Will be less awkward not having shagged him.

He's saying it like that to make it sound appealing. What he should be saying is he finds it really hard to cum. Probably from too much wanking as a teenager.

i would wonder if he needed viagra and that’s is why he lasts so long? Or he’s a porn addict and will need porn style acts and/or a firm grip (like his own hand) to finish 🙄

I want to live in a world where people think like this! It'd certainly be a motivation for him to sort his wanking issues out.

Get him to leave the high strength Viagra out of proceedings.

I'm so glad it's not just me!! Sometimes if dh has a drink it can take him around a hour and I give up inthe end. It literally burns by that point.

He may also be suffering from "jacked off 3 times today already"

Also, how do you all know? Are you looking at a clock while DTD?!

Is this an actual potential relationship or just (yet another) FWB or fuck buddies thing?

if an actual relationship, surely it’s better to see what actually happens and state your preferences before just finishing something?

Just tell him to finish himself off after you have had enough and keep him company (or not) for the rest of the hour.

i think pre discussion of sex is quite weird unless that is the only basis of the relationship.