Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

‘That really doesn’t sound appealing to me.’

Well no it isn’t, but surely theirs is a consideration somewhere. You can’t just stop when you’ve come and say well I’ve got what I wanted I don’t care about yours! Can you imagine if a man did that (although I know lots do!).

I have been there OP and it isn’t great just having someone thrust away into you for an hour. I made sure they came though. Not had sex with them again!

I think try it and see. If you don’t enjoy it, don’t carry on.

I hate sex that drags on, and I also hate it when a guy thinks he needs to prolong sex because he thinks women don't like quick, efficient sex. 10 minutes (excl. foreplay) is the optimum.

Slipping a condom on and sticking a finger up their backside usually cures that quite quickly.

Nowt worse than a humper.

needs about an hour of PIV sex to finish

Christ, I'd be asleep after an hour

Surely a condom would make it last even longer?

I think she means she put a condom on her finger and then the finger up his bum.

It's true though that a bit of prostate action works like a charm.

Over your finger. I personally don't bother but some people are squeemish.

This. I dont see the problem to be honest. I don't want no minute man.

What he means is that he broke his dick (and his brain) with porn. I'd get rid.

This would worry me tbh.

”He lasts notoriously long” - the fact he’s told you in advance makes me feel he’s wanting a guarantee that he won’t have to withdraw before he’s “finished” - and I don’t think I’d be comfortable giving that.

Its just too long for the PIV section.

If you do decide to have sex with him, I’d want a conversation about how you might not be ok with that, and to explore what fore and after play could mean that section of sex is foreshortened.

Yup. I’d have my shopping planned, my mental to do list rearranged, decisions made on what’s for tea…

So an hour of pure pumping? No ta.

Over an hour PIV suggests a porn addiction and/or death grip (he's used to wanking with a very firm grip, so an actual vagina doesn't give enough stimulation).

If it was my long term beloved DH that developed this issue, we'd work through it together, but I'd definitely bin off a man who was always like that in the early stages. If he takes that long while you're still in the desperately horny, fancy-the-pants-off-each-other new relationship stage, what the feck will he be like later on?!
Run away. Your vagina will thank you for it.

You could watch Corrie for the first half hour. Just join in after that.
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Oh god no. Bashing away for an hour! I'd be bored stupid and get cystitis as well. Is be thanking him for the warning and saying thanks but no thanks. If the foreplay is good and I'm properly warmed up, 5 mins will do very nicely.

I wouldn't be willing to stick a finger up his poo hole either, condom or not. Each to their own but not my idea of fun.

I dated one like thst. Ended up feeling like a sack of meat he was thrusting into

Also friction.

God I'd be asleep!

Pumping away for that long. Never.

I had a ex boyfriend, he said he was practicing some sort of tantric sex so liked to last longer. It was nice and interesting for a while but got boring after a while (along with his other issues). He was in his early 40s.

Only go for this if you want to.

I’d find an hour of PIV quite boring…and who has the time!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 nightmare

We’ll be has warned you!

An hour! Can you read your book?

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I once had a FWB (also a colleague funnily enough) who lasted an hour or so for PIV, didn't bother me as the sex was good and he could finish other ways which we often reverted to if neither of us wanted a late night.

I wouldn't personally write it off before actually doing the deed, but you're within your rights to call it off for whatever reason you like.

Him discussing sex only a few dates in, is a huge red flag