Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

I had a casual fling with a guy about 30 years ago (so in my 20’s) and he used to take forever, he also used to sweat a lot (because he was taking forever) and despite him being absolutely gorgeous and good at ensuring I got pleasure too, I broke it off and that was the main reason. He also wanted to do this multiple times a day and honestly when you’ve got work at 7am and he wants round 2 at 5am it was all just too much 🙈

Comments only welcome to the thread if they agree with you?

Some people are different.
I don't judge, I'm just surprised it's so prevalent.

So he has DE and will expect you to spend an hour using every trick in the book to bring an end to it while he labours under the misapprehension its a good thing. How tedious.

Thanks for asking this question, I had been wondering if I often "rush" mine to complete😅

20mins is ideal and 30mins max for me. I actually get quite annoyed when it takes longer than that... I also sometimes wonder if he's holding it in too much at the start that he can't finish at the end; and because of that I have suggested he can come first and use his fingers on me later!

Is that normal / reasonable?

I feel like, why did he say it upfront 😄

It's good you know obviously, but it seems like a lot of women have told him they hate it

I'd question how hot he is and how good in bed he is 🤭

Someone experienced, I think, could amp up the foreplay and bring himself closer to orgasm. Also, I suspect they'd be making tou orgasm several times during the hour of penetration

It sounds like he's just going for an hour with no benefit to you. The way he's handled this would put me off more than anything.

Again though, I guess it is good to know upfront!

Several hours? Wtaf 😳 just why

Very nice if you really want him.

I would take that to mean you're not getting much - if any - foreplay.

No, I wouldn't want sex with a man who needs an hour. I'd think he'd been watching too much porn and had the death grip.

😂😂

Honestly, it sounds horrendous, OP, I'd have no patience or interest with that. Surely taking that long indicates a medical condition?

It would make me really sore, never mind the boredom factor.

How long is peoples sex normally...
Id say we're always an hour and I do get a bit done with it at the end but I always assumed it was me that was abnormal. I do enjoy sex but after 45mins i just want to finish already

good grief, the ignorant shit on this thread.

Delayed ejaculation can also be caused by medications, some painkillers like tramadol and a lot of antidepressants can cause it, AD's are notorious for it.

Not every bloke that needs a while to cum has ruined themselves from wanking/porn.

Is decluttering your undersink cupboard a euphemism? 🤣

True, but I think someone who's taking meds that cause a problem is more likely to say that's why they take so long.

I've been with someone like this. It was awful. No, thanks!

Yuk, that's the least appealing but. It's a no from me.

@MintyFreshest Exactly, it would be painful!

considering how men can tend to view mental health? i doubt it, most won't share something like that with a potential partner in case it puts them off.

Yeah but an hour every time, not including foreplay,* *you'd be happy with that would you? No quickies on offer by the sounds of it.

You'd have to plan a schedule if it is an hour minimum every time.

Christ the chaffing, day in day out. Yawn.

I suspect he is including the time of his break for a sandwich and a cup of tea in the total time.

ftr i've been with someone that had it because of prescription drugs.. difference with him though was he was about my pleasure, didn't care if he didn't finish.. but it did mean that fun could last a long time with a lot of breaks.. i certainly wasn't miserable or bored 😉

If hes on sertraline (an anti depressant), that has a massive impact. A couple of ex partners have experienced problems finishing when they were on sertraline (as did i actually too).

That is niche

My friend had a boyfriend like this and she said it was a nightmare.
She said it was painful and she was bored silly while he humped away trying to cum.
Also, I'd not be impressed with him mentioning it like that and bragging really.