Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

Christmas you'll be red raw love

just thinking similar and from experience when its kissing, then forplay then piv. it soon as to a baseline of 40 mins then any extras or positions etc soon adds more time if you want a good session.

seems some people do prefer fast as possible then the oh whats for dinner etc

Did he say he had to cum?
I used to have a FWB situation who could not cum no matter what. He was incredible and would happily stop once I’d had enough. I always felt bad he hadn’t finished but he seemed happy he was making me happy so I never complained 😂

Current partner I could easily shag for an hour. He’s awesome too. Not every time, but we do love a good long session, often followed by round 2.

That's what I was thinking. Don't women need all that time for foreplay? An hour goes very quickly - if you're having fun.

not if lubbed correctly , speaking from experience

You lucky cow!

(I'm passed it anyway).

There's an obvious answer here. If you fancy him - fuck him and see. Since you're both obviously happy being open about sex tell him that you're probably not up for the full hour (and you could finish him off another way if you want to). If he's happy with this, have sex. If you're completely incompatible then finish the relationship.

at least its not unusual to have a partner that has difficulty with cumming .

Oh stop it. You've already gone with the "this is how you need to keep your man ladies" angle, which is straight out of the 1950s. Now you're trying to frame women who know what THEY like and don't like sexually who don't feel the need to turn themselves into performers to please men (true modern emancipation!) as out of date, prudish and repressed. That's such an outdated take. We went from the 'nice ladies don't like sex' era through to liberated women have sex anyway they're asked to, and have now entered the era of women being able to set the agenda. All this talk of needing imagination or your DP will run off means you're very much stuck in the middle one.

And we've ended up with "feminist ladies don't like sex", at least on this site.

Me and my husband easily go at it for over an hour at a time,
By the end of it I'm red raw and sore ( so is he)
But I'm not "lay there bored out my mind writing a shopping list" because we change positions, foreplay in-between etc
Plus we are not at it everyday.
I suppose if I was just lay on my back for a full hour whilst I was letting my husband just do all the work I could get bored 😐
We do also have quickies which I enjoy equally

is it nuts that as a woman, I actually like what I'm doing, that I'm assertive enough to get what I want, and I don't feel the need to talk about mental shopping lists or faking? Is that also ok on here?

No, what's nuts is that you judge other women for having different turn-ons to yours.

Nobody here is saying they don't like sex. They're saying they have different preferences to yours. Saying 'No thanks' to an hour of penetration IS being assertive enough to get what you want.

It's like a public competition on here for women to disassociate themselves from being emotionally involved in the act of sex

Again, maybe it's perfectly OK for women to like sex for its own sake? If the emotional connection is what does it for you, great! Enjoy. But not all women are the same, and it's not wrong that they enjoy something different from you.

I love my partner very much, as much after over 20 years together as when we first met. But I don't need that sort of love to enjoy sex. Before I met him, I also greatly enjoyed sex with a number of people I didn't love at all. If I found myself single again, I would do so again.

It's ironic that you're talking about other people not having any imagination when you seem incapable of imagining that there is more than one way to 'be a sexual being without apology'. In fact, what you seem to want is for everyone else to apologise for getting off on a different kind of fuck from the sort you're into.

Get rid, he’s either lying or an hour isn’t something you fancy so why bother find out which one is true?

If you read the OP's follow up, it's an hour of non-stop penetrative sex that he needs to come, in addition to the foreplay.

Have we? I thought this was a thread where women were largely talking about how tedious and unappealing they would find a man with DE. I haven't seen anyone on the thread, feminist or otherwise saying they didn't like sex at all. Just not certain types of sex.

Thing is, when you've had a LOT of sex in your youth and had a bloody wide variety then there comes a point where you know what certain things normally mean.

And "I thrust for an hour before I come" or words to that effect normally, ime, mean boring as hell.

There's good all nighters and there's bad all nighters and in my youth I never had a good all nighter that began with a warning that I was to look forward to an hour of solid thrusting.

It's not about not liking sex. It's about having got to a ripe old age, and speaking from experience.

Have you asked him if he's ever met a woman who is actually happy to do that? I feel like there would be very few.

That's a no from me
Good job he warned you in advance

I mean the site in general. See the response to threads on teh sex forum when posters ask for advice on certain subjects.

Nope. Bin !!

Can you imagine the tension if they took ages making the coffee too 😬

I think he's bullshitting. Unless he's some kind of endurance athlete, there's no way on earth he's pumping away for an hour without giving himself a coronary. And what happens after an hour that doesn't happen in the preceding 59 minutes? I think he sounds like he's trying to sound appealing and getting things a bit wrong. A bit Jay from the Inbetweeners.

Of course there's no obligation - but I personally find sex less enjoyable if the man doesn't/can't come, or if he isn't bothered either way. It's basically my second-favourite part of sex, my favourite part being the part where I come.

I don't know. I've never been on that board. I've heard its inundated with pervy men pretending to be women and that would be annoying.

I'd rather have a cup of tea and a biscuit.

Bit of foreplay, quick piv, few toys, clean up anf put the telly back on, I'm missing Dinnerladies. 🤪

Men that brag about lasting ages have watched way too much porn and think it's a sign of something positive. No thank you.