Wwyd - unknown teen wearabouts

[BeShyPlumLeader]

Good morning all

I have a bit of a situation and everyone I know is asleep so not sure how to deal with it!

My 17 yr old went to a party last night, said she was staying at her friends house which is about a 10 minute walk from ours. All fine. I asked her to make sure her Life360 was on please, just in case of emergencies. Which she did. I've woken up at 5am and just thought I'd have a quick look to make sure she'd got back to her friends and I can she see is not at her friends, she's at some random address in a not particularly nice area about ten mins drive from our house. She's been there since about half midnight.

What do I do!? I've tried calling her 20 times now - no answer. Not reading my messages. She quite likely could be asleep but I'm worried sick she's got in a state and been taken somewhere. What would you do in this situation? If I have to tell my husband (he stepdad) that i need to go and find her all hell will break out because we're supposed to be taking our two smaller children to see santa with his family in about 3 hours (a very expensive outing paid for by his mum).

Shall I wait a couple of hours and try again?? Or go looking for her? I'm so angry with her! And bloody tired!

Of course they don’t but at least you know where are. If you have a roamer it’s logistically useful. Once glance at the phone i can see she’s all good she’s at x s house whose mum is all over it so it’s fine. Over 18s wouldn’t track but 14-17 is useful tool

I don’t think it’s an overreaction. I was allowed to do what I liked from 16 onwards - but if I was staying over night somewhere I always let my parents know. This was long before the days of mobiles.

I remember a friend of mine’s mum rang me early one morning as my friend had not come home - asking if I knew where she was.

If you didn’t come home one night DD would worry about you too.

Someone else paying for something is not a good reason to be allowed to control an adult. Would you be ok with it if it was a husband tracking his wife?

'Or boys'
So we shouldn't worry about sons? Why? I despair 😞

Of course we worry about sons.

But you'd have to be pretty thick to not realise that a hell of a lot more can happen to girls than to boys, especially when drink is involved.

I'd of been worried too. she is only 17 and unfortunately thats an age when they think they know everything and are invincible and nothing bad will ever happen to them.
We unfortunately live in a world where bad things do happen to drunk teenage girls. And far too frequently.

And whilst I do worry about my sons also when they go out drinking. I am far far more aware that my girls are much more vulnerable and can be much more easily overpowered in a situation if they find themselves in the company of someone with not so great intentions.

I'm glad she is safe and well OP. Enjoy Santa with the little ones!

So pleased she is ok. Teenage years are a worry.

Well sons are far more likely to be killed, so there's that.

Hmmmm it is true more males are murdered. But if they aren’t in a gang that risk is much lower. I think girls aren’t at less risk ‘randomly’.