Wwyd - unknown teen wearabouts

[BeShyPlumLeader]

Good morning all

I have a bit of a situation and everyone I know is asleep so not sure how to deal with it!

My 17 yr old went to a party last night, said she was staying at her friends house which is about a 10 minute walk from ours. All fine. I asked her to make sure her Life360 was on please, just in case of emergencies. Which she did. I've woken up at 5am and just thought I'd have a quick look to make sure she'd got back to her friends and I can she see is not at her friends, she's at some random address in a not particularly nice area about ten mins drive from our house. She's been there since about half midnight.

What do I do!? I've tried calling her 20 times now - no answer. Not reading my messages. She quite likely could be asleep but I'm worried sick she's got in a state and been taken somewhere. What would you do in this situation? If I have to tell my husband (he stepdad) that i need to go and find her all hell will break out because we're supposed to be taking our two smaller children to see santa with his family in about 3 hours (a very expensive outing paid for by his mum).

Shall I wait a couple of hours and try again?? Or go looking for her? I'm so angry with her! And bloody tired!

I’d go on the Santa day out. She is most likely totally fine and asleep at someone else’s house. She won’t thank you for the 20 missed calls. Send her a ping or text and tell her to get in touch ASAP when she wakes up.

The missed calls are of her own doing though.

I feel sorry for kids nowadays with all this tracking. They probably are suffocated!

Relax, she'll be in touch. You can't think an entire area is full of dodgy people. She's probably gone to another mates.

The mum who cancelled her own night out just in case she needed to collect her daughter is mad. Put uber on her phone.

A similar thing happened to me last month. My dd gave my the address of the party she was staying over at but when I checked Google maps (we use Family Link) it gave a location about half a mile away which got me worried. Turned out she was at the address all along but her phone had lost gps signal and so the location was only approximate. Could this be the case here?

I'm sure she's safe
Hope you hear from her soon

Your husband sounds selfish.
If I was your neighbour and had just moved in, I would drop my plans immediately and start the knocking on random doors or calls friends of friends for peace of mind.
She may have just gone to another friends house but you just don't know anymore.
I would tell your husband that you are leaving to search and take a good friend with you.

Only because her mum is tracking her! She knew the DD was staying out all night but if she didn’t have the tracker she wouldn’t know whose house she was at.

Bloody hell, why not get Liam Neeson involved too 🤣

Sorry but this is insane. She’s crashed at another mate’s nearby, she’s not been sold into sex trafficking.

@Startinganew32 I think the tracking is a red herring. If she hadn't heard from her she'd also be calling her to check she's alive and ok.

Are you kidding? Oh my god. She went to a party. She was staying at a friend’s. She stayed at a different friend’s.

Try beeping the find my phone function if she has an I phone. It’s much louder than calling, particularly if her phone is on silent.

Errr why would she at this hour? If she was staying at a friend’s she’d leave it to a reasonable time to check in on her.

If she's gone somewhere else she should let her parents know.
Also, if a random person/child appeared at my house after a party I'd be telling them to send mum a quick text to let them know they're here.

OP kindly, don’t be worrying about no one answering - it’s early! Give it a bit more time. She’ll be okay x

Ummm are you completely discounting the number of young teens drugged, raped, sexually assaulted and murdered? Are you conveniently imagining that any loving parent would just shrug their shoulders and get on with their day?

On the off chance you are a parent with teens - and you are really this indifferent to their safety then god help them.

Maybe the army should be called in, she went to a party good grief calm down and stop hyperventilating

🤣 I do think some MNetters live in a a different universe sometimes.

Calling 20 times is a bit OTT.
The likelihood is she’s fine, sleeping off a hangover somewhere.
its not even 8 am!
when my kinds were teenagers they rarely woke before 11 at weekends.

Are you prone to overdramatics?

It’s very likely indeed she’s gone to stay at another friends house, maybe even a boys house, and is perfectly safe and fine, but I understand the worry of knowing she’s not where she said she would be! Gosh the things we got away with back in the day before tracking eh.

I would carry on with your day out, but I would be seriously looking at your husbands behaviour. This is pretty normal teenage stuff and I’d be very upset if he thought ‘all hell breaking loose’ was a normal response to that. She’s your daughter, he doesn’t need to be so unreasonable about her imo.

The Liam Neeson comment had me cackling, sorry 🙊

Without the tracking OP would have no idea. The tracking is intrusive and causing worry.

It is very unlikely that anything bad has happened to her child. The overwhelming likelihood is that she is safe, asleep at another friend's house.

"indifferent to their safety" aka not suffocating them.

That’s me 🤚

She has Uber on her phone. She just has a terrible habit of running her battery down. She also passed out drunk at a Halloween party recently and woke up in a bed with 2 boys sat there. They were just checking she was OK but it could clearly not have been innocent, so is adding fuel to my anxiety.

If she has a couple of non-disastrous nights out maybe I will chill TF out. That would be nice 🫠

@Startinganew32 maybe you would but if I hadn't heard from her in all that time, I'd be worrying! As my post says, I ask for a good night I'm going to sleep now message.

@Petrasings I think you're spot on!

I agree regarding the tracking.
I do think the line between suffocating them and not bothering at all is often a tricky one though. If in doubt I'd rather be too concerted than not enough concerned tbh.

Glad I’m not the only one who has this front and centre in her mind.

Some teenage girl was sexually assaulted in a car park last week by a 23 year old, near us. It does happen. I just don’t want it happening to my daughter.