To say no to dog on holiday

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We live abroad. We are going to the UK to see our families next spring when our baby will be 8 months old. My in laws have downsized so we can't all stay with them comfortably (DH is one of 4 and everyone is coupled up). So DH and I are booking a large villa for everyone for a long weekend. Everyone is contributing a bit but we are paying the majority of the cost. BIL wants to bring his new dog and I've said no. Dog is a blue (?) pitbull and will be around 1. They don't actually have the dog yet, they're in the process of bringing it home (I don't know the details).

1. I am terrified of dogs. I was attacked by one when I was 7. I have worked on.my.phobia to the extent I can now be around dogs for a few hours, I can go for a walk in the park etc (things I couldn't do 10 years ago). But being in the same house as a young pitbull for 5 days will send me over the edge.
2. baby will likely be crawling. I don't want to spend my holiday making sure baby is kept away from the puppy.

BIL has kicked off. Everyone is sort of on.my side in a "she's unreasonable but we want to see the baby so suck it up" kind.of way. It's making me feel horrible. I've been asked nicely to reconsider but if I say no everyone else is still coming. BIL is not clear on whether this is a deal breaker for him.

I’m a dog person but all the same, I say stick to your guns.

They haven't got the dog yet, so have no idea of temperament/behaviour! That's crazy, not worth the risk, stick to your guns op!

I got pinned against a wall in my own home (I was about 4) by a neighbours alsatian.

No chance would I holiday with a dog.

They can book their own place if they want to bring a dog.

I thought pit bulls were a banned breed in the UK

Pit bulls are banned in the UK. Of course you are not being unreasonable to not want a dangerous dog around your child.

I love dogs but this would be a firm NO for me! Make sure your husband is on your side too and is vocal of your joint decision for the dog not to be there.

Yanbu op that would be a huge no way from me! And I've got my own dog and kids so the fact I'm still saying no speaks volumes!

Just tell him to put the dog in a kennel with the money he’s saving by you paying so much of his share.

I love dogs but nope nope nope.

Get your husband to be the bad guy not you

They are. It's illegal to own or sell them.

Pit Bulls are banned in the UK. Do you mean a Staffordshire Bull Terrier?

I have a dog love dogs. However he is "my dog" not our wider family. We don't take him to visit sil as her partner is not on keen on dogs. (Not frightened just not keen) I respect his wishes. If he comes yo my home I expect him to respect mine (to have a dog)

They haven’t got the dog yet but are willing to put a newly rescued young adult dog into a Christmas house full of people?
Is he an idiot??

Stick to your guns. If it’s a deal breaker for him then so be it.

Pitbulls are illegal in the U.K., if it’s a blue Staffordshire bull terrier, it’s most likely that would be fine, they are lovely dogs and were bred as nanny dogs.

As you have the fear though and as a dog lover I totally see where you are coming from.

what about if they brought its crate, gave him a very very long walk in the morning and agreed that unless they took him out he would stay in his crate?

The OP has organised this and is paying for most of it. She also has a young baby. Dogs don't trump everything.

Does the property even allow pets - many don't.

Did you not read the whole post, it clearly states I see where she is coming from.

Attempting to offer a compromise.

You’d put it in another room if someone was frightened though right?

Dog of unknown temperament and baby in rented house sounds like a stressful situation.
Not even taking into account the phobia.

As a dog lover and owner, if someone was petrified of my dog he would be going in his crate.

At the end of the day, a dog is a dog! and if people are scared of them they seem to know it. It’s not going to harm the dog to spend time in their crate!

Nope, not unreasonable.

I love dogs. I HAVE dogs. If someone invited me somewhere that my dog wasn't welcome, I'd get a dog sitter.

Stand your ground, are dogs even allowed in the villa? That would be an easy way out! (Or, if you've not booked anything yet, book somewhere that specifies no animals?).

I'm am a childfree dog owner and YANBU. It's an unknown rescue dog, that is going to have an unknown temperament and be barely settled into its new home before being uprooted and surrounded by noisy strangers. It's unfair to the dog as well as reckless. And given he is unreasonable enough to ask at all then I don't think he is sensible enough to trust to keep it separate or manage it safely.
If it was an older dog that lived with a family and they had had for years my answer would be different, but this is a stupid idea. (And the breed is irrelevant, I would say the same if it was labrador)

The nanny dog thing is a myth. Please stop spreading it, no dog should be trusted with children completely.

I wouldn't want a potentially dangerous breed around a baby. I have a small lovely trained fluffball and would be gutted to not be able to bring them but a young rescue from a larger, strong breed is a different matter. It's your call to make anyway especially as you are sponsoring the holiday.