How do I tell him?

[Shelvy123]

Hi!
My mother’s 70th birthday is in February and my sister has booked a house for my parents, our two siblings and our 5 kids. She done so as a surprise for us all, without telling us.

I've just recently had a little boy, which she has included in the head count but she hasn’t included my husband or our brothers wife.

how do I tell my husband he isn’t invited? I’m always invited to his family parties/vacations and I know he’ll be hurt if I say he isn’t able to come as he gets on so well with everyone…

She knows money is a little tight right now due to having the baby so I’m unable to contribute. I didn’t even know she was thinking of booking it otherwise I would’ve spoke to her about it.

i don’t want to not go and miss my moms birthday. On the other hand, I don’t want to go without my husband as I know he will really want to come.

I really don’t know what to do. Please help?

Personally I wouldn't be going without my DH but that's just me. We're a family and my sibling, parent (one has passed away) and his sibling and parents are all extended family now. I do go and do things on my own, as does he, but I would always expect him to be invited if myself AND our kids were going (it's not like a girls trip)

Are all the partners not going, including hers?

OP hasn’t clarified and won’t comment further, so there really isn’t enough information to go on here to provide a sensible solution. Bit of a waste of everyone’s time.

Most pointless update from the OP award!

Came back to tell us she won’t be coming back. Oh and she is capable of watching her own baby thanks (even though I don’t think anyone suggested she wasn’t, just that it would be easier and surely preferable with DH there also).

No practical questions actually answered and claimed if she had known about it they could have come up with the money….even though in the opening post it said they can’t even contribute financially. Riiiiight.

It’s a bit thoughtless of your sister but she is paying….

I would discuss with your husband and lay out the facts, you either don’t attend and do something else for your mother’s special birthday or your husband says he doesn’t mind. Honestly I’d be playing it by ear…..