AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

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I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

She said a man (possibly more than one) ejaculated in her eyes when she asked them not to.

That is a sex act without consent. It IS sexual assault.

And no because I know what sexual assault is.

Play with fire, expect to be burned.

I remember years ago watching a documentary about a woman who was trying to set some sort of record for sleeping with the most men in a day or something similar. It was so disturbing. On paper, it was consensual but it was difficult to truly see it as consensual. I can’t explain it but it was very troubling.

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100%.

Why would I feel sorry for a girl who goes on podcasts bragging about sleeping with guys that have just turned 18. OP you talk as if she’s a victim but no one forced her to sell her soul for money. That’s her decision and she seems happy to brag about these sex experiences on the internet

You mean the men who willingly stood in a queue to pump and dump an Only Fans girl on camera didn’t behave like decent respectful gentlemen who really liked her and wanted to treat her like a princess? I for one am shocked.

She consented (nay, organised!) a free for all. There's nothing to be gained by presenting this circumstance as within the consensual norms.

@SassK Sorry I tagged the wrong person I meant @Msmoonpie .

Anyway I’m hiding this thread as it’s making me so depressed.

Tbh I’m a little in awe of her. I wish I’d done something similar when I was younger and made millions. I feel like I put myself an almost as bad situations anyway without the pay day!

A man I know commented "did the last one in stir the porridge"
which I think says it all.
WTF is wrong with the men signing up for this?
I think Lily is being paid by OF to groom young women into sex work.

I apologise, I mixed up two different women. This isn't the one. The filtered to fuck photos of each of them look basically identical.

This might have been the case that I am remembering of a young woman who had been kidnapped from the subway and raped by a group of men. She reacted to it by saying she would reclaim her power and organised the mass event and filmed it all. It was early on in the internet porn explosion I think. The initial sense of reclaiming power she got from this was soon replaced with extreme distress at what had actually happened. I don't know what happened to her eventually or where she is now. I hope she could get to a good place for her.

As for the men and the eyes. So many boys and men now who have grown up on a diet of interent porn seem to want to finish on the face and get the power kick from it. It sounds like this woman, similar to the last, has had a false sense of having power and control but actually is being horrible used and objectified and is at incredibly high risk of disease and infection with permanent physical as well as mental consequences from fluids entering via the eyes. All incredibly sad.

This woman is almost entirely unique in her endevour. She has 36,000 subscribers in a world of billions. It's not worth becoming depressed about.

No sympathy, no one has made her take the 'challenge' on. It is demeaning and degrading to women. Full stop.

True, but imo it's depressing for our young girls/women in the same way that the existence of Andrew Tate is depressing for our young boys/men. The entertainment industry runs on shock value.

Unpopular opinion - the distressing documentary videos of women crying after a bad experience in porn is a porn genre.

Really?
I was reading recently about the shelf life of porn actresses and the physical side effects of their job. And what happens to them after their short lived career at the high earning end of the industry finishes.
No money is worth it imo.

Some women will do anything for publicity

How sad

I don't think sex work can really be feminist or empowering for women as, in our society, it is mostly based on male consumption and female supply (I know I'm generalizing here, but I think it's a reasonable generalization).

Having said that, you could see something like OnlyFans as empowering for people who are already sex workers as they don't have to deal with being exploited by pimps (only by a faceless corporation) and they don't actually have to have sex with the clients.

That's not the point I made though is it.

I'm not disagreeing with your paragraph here, but that's a completely different line to perpetuating the notion that women who engage in consensual sexual acts, are allowing, or should expect, men to sexually assault them by performing non consensual acts, is absolutely not okay, and is a shameful take for a feminist.

I doubt it - most women would be horrified at something like this. There are lots of articles like this this one in local papers. I think these are viral marketing for OnlyFans.

She probably has enough that she never has to work again. You’d only have to work a year and get over five million if you were on six figures a week and if you invest that then you are set for life if you are sensible. Which she probably isn’t but that’s her problem.

But why are people getting so up in arms about her getting bodily fluids in her eyes when she’s filming herself shagging 100 men in 14 hours? So fucking what? Yeah you can tell them you don’t want them to finish on your face but shock horror some of them might do that anyway. I guess that’s the risk you take when you do these things. It’s not remotely on a par with people being raped and actually sexually assaulted.

No decent man is going to be up for doing these 24 hour shagathons, they are all going to be women hating arseholes that get involved.

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I agree to a degree but actually they are still probably "normal blokes" - someone's dad, brother, husband. Misogyny is often closer to home than we realise

Jesus - did you screw 99 blokes in a row?!?