AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

You're an expert in how trauma presents in the moment and in the short to long term? Your point is also pointless if you have any real understanding of trauma. But none of that was my point.

My point wasn't actually about how distressed or not this individual was. My point was about the social structures that are in place that would make this many people feel like this is an OK thing to do.

What has influenced and created those structures?

Why are they not being challenged in any meaningful macro way and we choose to focus on the individual?

Why is the focus on one of the 101 participants?

You're probably right.

The internet makes the underbelly of society more visible - that's all. I think it's important to remember though that it isn't representative.
Young women/girls know this woman is an exception. At one time, when we were less mindful of terminology, she'd've been deemed a 'freak'.

I've been so so distressed by it. I can't get it out of my mind, it's made me so angry.

After this and the Pelicot case, I feel like internet pornography is causing terrible damage to men's sexuality and their attitudes to women. Something needs to be done, this is an emergency. It is ruining normal relationships as well, so many women posting on here are upset because of their partner's porn use.

I've had enough, had enough of women being treated like disposable objects and dehumanized.

Did you actually read and digest a single word I wrote?

I’m not talking about her as an individual.

I actually don’t care about the choices she makes as an adult woman.

I DO care about the pornsick, fucked up society that has produced girls like her, and normalised the concept of prostitution as a valid way to get rich quick.

A special shout-out must surely go to her 36K subscribers who are paying to watch this trainwreck.

How the hell can you compare a woman who was drugged and violated horrifically and has been incredibly brave in waiving her anonymity and speaking out with this absolute joke of a human being who monetises shagging 100 men and then is miffed that they don’t ejaculate the way she wants to? Seriously it’s infuriating and such an insult. This woman is trash and wouldn’t even thank you for sticking up for her.

Comparing this to what Gisele Pelicot has been through is entirely out of order.

I hope you're right. I guess I just don't like the fact that porn has been dragged from the back rooms of sex shops to the top of teens' TikTok feeds, and it's all because of this kind of bullshit.

She said no to ejaculations on her eyes. That was done without her consent. That is sexual assault.

this, i can disagree with sex work and her choices around having sex with multiple men and still feel sorry that some men crossed her very low bar

I'll admit that I don't know much about that area of the law

If just seems to me that she really is self harming by doing this. To me that video looked so genuine

Well yeah anyone would be a bit bruised and dazed if they’d done what she’d done. However she doesn’t seem to have learned from it in the slightest. She’s currently “in training” to fuck 1000 men in 24 hours, whatever the fuck that means.

This, they literally used her body to masturbate with 🥺

I think Lily is being paid by OF to groom young women into sex work.

Bingo. This is definitely happening.

I’ve lost count how many clickbait articles I’ve read about women making five or six figure sums per month on OF. There is no doubt in my mind that it’s a blatant attempt to normalise OF as a career choice.

Even celebrities like Lily Allen and (OK, not so much of a celebrity) Kate Nash talking recently about making money from supposedly tame things like photos of feet and photos of bums. Then the more tawdry celebs like Katie Price, Daniella Westbrook and Kerry Katona doing nudes and god knows what else.

It’s marketing.

I was young and in my early 20s I think when I herd of this wonderful thing we would all have access too .
I said then I don’t like it why do we need it. ?

Honestly I still hate it.

None of that means that people don't do them, or that they should not be allowed to choose to do them.

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Thera is a difference though in that this activity in question carries a risk of one or more "clients" deciding they wanted to deliberately hurt you during. Highly unlikely to have deliberate harm from another human doing those others.

That is the other one.

I think she is making choices that endanger her safety and current and future wellbeing

If a boxer wanted to fight someone 10x their size and strength, with there being no way they could win, because of the payday or because they had people around them who would profit off of it, wouldn't they be considered insane, and those around them considered evil?

Agree though that it would be difficult to section someone on this basis alone. But I wish she had people that loved her enough to fight for her to say that this behaviour is self damaging and a sign of mental illness

@MumOfOneAllAlone have you seen any other clips of her and Bonnie Blue? There are lots done after the event and she is just planning more and is certainly not coming across as traumatised.

So would you detain her indefinitely then? Because surely she’d start again as soon as she was let out?

@MumOfOneAllAlone boxers do do that. It literally happened the other week with Logan Paul and some old man.

It does seem as if only fans is being normalised as a career choice🙁
Surely the more women that do it the smaller the revenue will be for each of them?

Or will there be a few outliers who earn large sums whilst most make very little but the outliers and publicising thereof will be enough to draw in more people?

A long while back I read a story by Arthur C Clark which ended with the whole of humanity seized up in a shared mind, and this was seen as a consummation devoutly to be wished for. After a few minutes cogitation I came to the conclusion that in such circumstances I would rather be dead than having certain minds invading mine. The internet has proved my prediction right. Those minds are out there and shameless beyond anything I imagined, though in the same field. Are thse things human?

She has uploaded a video saying 1000 is her goal next and asking women for their husbands.

She clearly wants to shock as well as monetise her vagina. It's grim. The men are grim. OF is grim.

But I can't get too worked up about her or the other one, given their attention seeking exploits are ultimately about money and fame.

The wider issue of consent and misogyny is where my despair lies.

Okay so apologies I should clarify my earlier comment that they ejaculated in her eyes - according to some tweets, they ejaculated on her face and it went in her eyes

Also here's a second video where she says she disassociated. This for me isn't a woman who was well enough to consent to this, sorry

https://x.com/TonyL_01/status/1866781388503908544?t=LS9QqQQ_H3A61CFNOMyxHw&s=19