AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

But they would have done something rather than standing by and doing nothing

Someone who loves you will stop at nothing to try and make you see sense. I know I would.

Didn't someone do this before? Annabelle something? What happened to her? I wonder if she regretted it.

She’s definitely got some serious fucking issues, no doubt about that, but ultimately it’s her choice I guess. I find the men involved absolutely repulsive and the act itself by her to be disgusting… but nonetheless can’t help myself from feeling sorry for her. She’ll regret this so much, at some point.
I read something recently on Facebook about a ‘porn star’, Riley something, who was known for her more extreme scenes (presumably gangbangs, extreme anal etc) who is now out of the business and married with a child and deeply regrets her time spent in the business. She’d love for the videos to be scrubbed from everywhere but of course, that’s not possible.

Ah, I didn't realise they were ejaculations on her face to begin with. I hope it wasn't a deliberate mistake, but can see that could happen.

Sorry but you sound insufferable. She’s an adult and she’s very far from vulnerable. Your solution is to literally lock her up until she changes her behaviour. You’ve made up a whole story about how she’s an abuse victim, nobody loves her, her parents are exploiting her, she has no agency. You also said at the outset that you could see that she realised what a mistake it was to sleep with 100 men yet she immediately said she wants to sleep with even more.
People have agency. She has enough money to stop this right now and she chooses not to. No self harm scars on her, nothing to suggest a mental illness. What does come across that she is quite cold and ruthless. Which doesn’t surprise me but it doesn’t make her a victim.

She very clearly doesn’t want to be saved by you or anyone else.

She wasn’t raped and she never said she was. Ejaculating on someone’s face is not rape.

I've read on X that each guy was allowed five minutes and lots of them just ignored this and carried on until they were finished. She also said no ejaculating on her face and that was ignored too.

That's rape and sexual assault.

I can comprehend that people make terrible decisions for many different reasons.

To be sectioned you have to be a risk to yourself and others , she is a risk to herself.

I don’t know anything about your primary care or the actual rarity of someone being sectioned however the idea that there should be an intervention of some sort it is not as far fetched as you seem to think.

It is self harm and she’s damaging herself and putting herself in even greater danger.

Apparently her dad's mates are also subscribers to her OF.

Just horrendous.

All of the above

I would've been between 14 and 18. One teenage boy (older than me) tried to force me to fellate him and the showed me one of these videos. I won't derail the thread with the worse things I've survived.

It was widely talked about. A couple of girls were confronted by groups of school boys and I've seen them have to laugh it off.

Rumours spread like wildfire and rumours of various girls having to leave etc because they found themselves in one of the situations were rife and, whilst not all, a not insignificant amount were unfortunately true.

I dunno, cognitive dissonance is powerful. Like men insisting they were 'trapped' by a pregnancy when they didn't use a condom - deep down they know, they just won't admit it to themselves.

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl?

She's a fame hungry idiot with no class. What she did was crass and attention seeking. There is no empowerment in sex work. That's a fallacy.

And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals??? Why? They didn't pay her, did they? They didn't solicit her. It was completely consensual. She invited them to take part.

I'm so angry. Why be angry? Why not be frustrated and digusted with the whole repugnant lot of them, including her?

You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised. At the point she realised it was a mistake she called have put a stop to it. Refused to carry on. Did she? No. She carried on because the fame was more important to her than her dignity and her physical and mental wellbeing.

my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

And who should have protected her? I presume you mean someone should have stepped in to stop it going ahead, or stop it half way through? Only she can do that. She's a grown woman with free will. If she can't see that what she did was not healthy on any level then there is nothing anyone else can do to talk sense into her. Stupid, stupid girl.

She's on camera crying and clearly distressed immediately after. Her pa is on camera saying they invited whoever and their mates. That is traumatising and distressing.

It is clear though that her father never loved her enough for her to feel the need to do this shit, if I said I’m going to drink 100 glasses of wine in one sitting and film it I’d end up in hospital one way or another. Just because she’s no scars doesn’t mean it’s not self harm. I personally think she’s vile for doing it but it clearly stems from lack of love / stability from the adults in her life

And I know this is far worse than 100 glasses of wine but if I told you I was going to do either one I’d probably end up sectioned under the mental health act for my own safety, that is the point I was trying to make about her mental health 😂 I think she reeeks of mental health issues

I think that they all do. I do wonder what people are getting out of her doing this. I wonder what criminal element there is in the world of only fans and what hand they have in these girls are being exploited

Yes I had a cry when I saw her in tears. It’s brutal.

@LookingForAHandHold I'm sorry but she consented to all of this. To try and pretend it's rape or sexual assault when she is fully consenting is just disgusting.

This. It's distributing that some of these posts read as though this girl is another Gisele Pelicot. Which would be utterly untrue and frankly disrespectful to an actual incredible woman.

@MumOfOneAllAlone she's making £100s of thousands. That's why she's doing it.

It’s can’t really be vile then, it’s more of a trauma response. It’s really upsetting. I’m gutted for her.

She now wants to sleep with 1000 men, yes very traumatised indeed.

I have no sympathy for her. At all. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

My father didn't love me and did and said hurtful things to me ever since I was born until his death. As did my mother until her death.
It didn't make me degrade myself the way this woman is doing to herself.

If she is truly traumatised why is she continuing to post with or without Bonnie Blue about what she is going to let men do to her going forward.

She even laughed and said her body didn't take that long to recover and she was planning to do a 1,000 in February.

They talk about having sex with women's partners.

People get emotional when they've run a marathon because it's exhausting.

This is someone's 23 year old daughter who's gotten herself into a foolish situation - surely there has to be some compassion for her?

Yes she should've been protected by the adults around her who knew more. By her parents who are still alive and around. Her family. Local community leaders if need be.

I would not stop until everyone knew that my beloved child was subjecting herself to something crazy.

I would be shaming those around her online day in day out in an effort to protect her. Those around her who profit from her naivety and warped belief that this is how to make money for herself.

And women definitely should be angry and disgusted by these 100 men. The way they've taken advantage of a vulnerable woman, when they know they wouldn't let their sisters/daughters do this, is abysmal.

Lily needs women to come out and offer her refuge and counselling. She deserves better than to be stuck listening to her mates and those around her who clearly don't care about her 🥺