Wondering what others would do in this situation

[farmergirl15]

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

Person A rang Person B shouting
Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.

Do they not sign some sort of code of conduct. Sorry but boot the kid out or Person A will forever be a pain in the arse.

I wish people would use names instead of A, B and C!

The parents don't have to sign a code of conduct I don't think. It's more common sense and common curtesy. Person A has always been a pain in the arse, late with payments etc.

Person B should probably have not got involved in the first place.

I'm person B, I don't want to use names as I don't want any further threats of complaints.

Person A is an arsehole. Person B shouldn't have made assumptions though.

Person b didn't want anyone else to get poorly on the trip. Person a didn't say that dc wasn't poorly until after the weekend was mentioned

Volunteers should not be threatened. Person A should be told that in future another adult will have to bring the child to the club and they are banned from the premises while the club is in session and from contacting any of the club officials and volunteers.

This.

I don’t understand why you’d call C and “inform them”.

Busybody behaviour.

I find it so hard to read when people use a, b, and c for naming, or 1, 2, 3. Does anyone else feel the same? So sorry, I couldn't follow your story, OP. I hope it ends well for you all, though 🌸

That's a good idea thanks. I was helping organise the trip and I didn't want nearly 40 people getting poorly

Person c was in charge

In my best Poirot voice

Why did person C decide that that Person As child could not attend ?
Why has person B put themselves in the middle of this ?

Maybe the kids weren’t sick, maybe they just fancied a couple of days off ??

Person B sounds like a shit-stirrer, who has written a post to deliberately paint Person A in a bad light .. in an attempt to deflect from their gossiping

I’m guessing you are person B

Personally if my child hadn't been at school before a trip then they wouldn't be going on the trip, if they are well enough for a treat then they are well enough to go to school.

Person B shouldn't have got involved

Person B is annoying

I think your problems started when you “assumed” someone else’s DC wouldn’t attend. If the DC had D&V on Thurs and was better but not in school on Fri, why shouldn’t they attend a club outing on Sat? In the other hand if they had just come out in chicken pox that would be another matter. But B should have said to A “oh what a shame you kid can’t attend” not “I’ve let C know on your behalf” or whatever it was you did.

I already said I was person b, I'm guessing you're the type of parent who would send their child away or to school poorly?

It wasn’t your call to make … and person C was fine with A child going, until you persuaded otherwise.

I think you’ve behaved badly here

So should we have let the child attend, even tho we had been told by their parent that they were poorly? Then risk 40 children and volunteers getting poorly just so we didn't seem like busybodies? Meaning we give up our personal time and risk having to be off work?

Person c actually spoke to person d and made the decision, I was the one who said the child could attend

The club needs to look out for its volunteers or they won't have any volunteers and the parents can deal with having to pay wages to professionals to run the club - or not have a club at all.

Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation Person A shouldn't be screaming down the phone at anyone.

…and I guessed you were Person B before you posted - it was clear from how it was written that you were trying to portray A in a bad light, and B as “just trying to do the right thing”

I think it wasn’t your place to say whether the child was well enough to attend or not.

Person A is rude and considerate.

Person B is out of order with assumptions and inserting themselves into things that don't involve them directly.

C needs to ditch A & B and gave a quiet life.

Doesn't matter whether OP should have said anything, the way person A reacted is worse and should at least mean they are no longer welcome, they can either find someone else to bring the child or move them elsewhere.