Wondering what others would do in this situation

[farmergirl15]

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

I just want to know where Persons E F and G were when all this happened and if they had any input .

I wasn’t aware we had the morality police in this country.

The only people who need to know why a child is off school is the parent, and the school. If she lies to school that’s her beeswax. B didn’t need to jump in

How old are these kids?

You can use Mary, Jane, Bob, Jim instead of real names. Person A, B, C is hard to follow. Person B is clearly interfering - not actually in charge so should stay out of it.

@farmergirl15 so as a volunteer she told you in your official capacity her child was unwell - do you know with what

the NHS has strict guidelines on this chickenpox/norovirus yes you can virus no temp/hand foot mouth/tonsilities actually no you cant

do you have guidelines and a risk assessment set out? A charter and an overall person in charge and protocol to follow

Becuase if A does complain you may well be in trouble

Person B is a busybody who should learn not to get involved.
They're the one who caused this.

Person A = aggressive overreacter.

Person B - shit stirrer (and assumed)

Person. - indicisive. Can’t go around saying it’s fine then changing your mind.

Sounds like a club I wouldn’t want to be a part of. Is it Scouts? Surely you have to just accept parents version of events like anything. You can’t go around accusing them of lying, even when you heavily suspect they are.

It's like it's written in code, too tedious to read.

Being ill one day, doesn’t mean a child is ill the next.

So the child could have had toothache?

YABU

So basically you knew nothing but decided to get the child out out of the activity because you clearly don't like the parent and have the 'power' (and clearly like to use it) as a volunteer.

If the child had been off sick Monday and Tuesday and gone back on Wednesday would you also have lost your shit and phoned the head teacher and have the school evacuated as this would also clearly be a health and safety nightmare waiting to happen and the lives of over a hundred could have been at risk here, as after all you're all about the children!

Agree, person B has caused a problem where there didn’t need to be one.

You're person B? No shit

Or maybe they kept the children off for some other reason and illness was a white lie? They our story is hard to follow, but if you are involved in running this club (not clear?) and A is abusive ban them. If you’re not a volunteer of running club stop interfering

Yes, a refund has been made for the trip

It was the day of the trip, first thing I was told child was poorly, then they weren't

I am person b. And I usually get on with person a quite well. Not enough to go out for drinks or anything, but chatting was always fine

Whenever I see an ABC story I auto-change to Annie Becky Carrie or Andrew Bob Carl, its just too hard to follow otherwise.

Back to OPs post-B was nosy, pushy and meddling. The kids may have been out of school for reasons other than communicable illness and Annies changing explanation could’ve been her not wanting to share a private situation.

Theoretically Becky might have been concerned re the health of the entire group esp as its Dec and nobody wants illness in the house at the busy holiday.

However Becky didn’t know and pushed and prodded and imo the best thing to have done is flag it with Carrie and let her investigate if she felt necessary. OP sounds like she’s enjoying the whole mess she created.

Yes we have guidelines, she changed her story, which lead us to believe that mum wanted her child to attend even tho they were poorly. Children are age 7. The main reason is parents behaviour. Parent screaming and shouting, if parent doesn't trust the volunteers and their judgement calls then why would they send their child away with them?

How on earth did you figure that they would make the other 40 kids ill then?
Could have been a head ache!

You were an interfering busy body and have caused a huge fuss

No not scouts

This makes things a million times worse, on you.

She's perfectly at liberty to "change her story"! Who do you think you are? Special Branch? You used information about her that you gained from being a fellow school mum, nothing to do with your volunteering role. You shared information about her child's health with a third party. You massively overstepped and have caused this drama.

The problem here is you made assumptions.

The child's parent never told you they were too ill to attend or told you the reason they were off school.

You decided to take action on the basis of limited information.

This is your issue but you don't seem to realise that.

None of this would have happened if it wasn't for B. B (you) should have kept your nose out of it. Shit stirring and causing trouble to the extreme. Yes, A shouldn't have shouted and screamed, but she lost her cool, because of your intolerable behaviour

person B caused the whole drama.