Wondering what others would do in this situation

[farmergirl15]

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

So it wasn’t about whether the child was ill …it was a pseudo-punishment, for the parent, for changing thier story. So despite you knowing that the child was not ill, and had no possibility of making other people ill, you decided to kick the child off the trip, to punish the parent.

You should not be anywhere near a children’s activity group.

You sound like you should be avoided. Why stir? You don't actually know what went on with person A.

Person a shouldn’t have shouted.
person b shouldn’t have got involved, nothing to do with them
Person c shouldn’t have stopped the child going

everyone was in the wrong

Wow no wonder A was cross, though could have handled it differently. You basically decided for her, as the child's parent, to stop the child doing the weekend activity. Though you say yourself you don't know what was wrong with her. Could have been a million things other than something contagious. So sad that the child is missing out now because it seems you don't really like her mother. Surely someone should have asked the mum what the illness was. It could even have been a her time of the month and she didn't want to let anyone know that as some girls can be quite shy about that.

Who are you, the school attendance officer ? You sound intolerable…

it was not your place to get involved here.

Person A shouldn't be shouting, person B is a busybody, person C shouldn't have stopped them going.

This.

Person B needs to get a life and allow Person A to parent their own children.

Person A should not have shouted, but we only have Person B's word that they did. Maybe Person A would view what they did as advocating or standing up for their DC in light of an interfering Person B who may not have know all the facts but still chose to get involved. Twice.

Perhaps an objective observer would have agreed with Person A. We will never know.

How irritating to read....

There are a lot of different illnesses. Some are contagious but a lot aren’t and once a child is feeling well enough to join in they are perfectly fine to be around others.

Same. Bloody confusing.

but then what should the op have done, said nothing and then did the i told you so after the event and everyone became infected

Person B really shouldn’t be sticking their noses into other peoples business
If Person As child can’t attend an event it’s up to Person A to report it, not some other random taking control.

Im not surprised Person A was angry tbh. ( although shouting at people isn’t how I would have dealt with it.)

Person B needs to stop the controlling behaviour and keep away from other peoples business. Had they done this there wouldn’t have been any issues at all.

No Person As children should not have to leave the club…..honestly how bizarre!

yes because covid didn't prove this type of information wrong

“Hi A, just wanted to check what Child B had been off school with”

Simply really.

(but i think OP already knew that it wasn’t an illness)

TBH taking 40 kids away at this time of year, there will probably be several infectious ones that showing symptoms yet.

Do the attendees pay for the activity and trip?

Would the first thing not be to find out if it was infectious?..
Oh better to wield the teeny bit of power you have.
B clearly has an issue with A!

I would love to hear A and C's sides of the story!

Person B shouldn't have made assumptions and started calling others to inform them. I don't understand why this action was taken.

You should have waited for Parent A to advise whether their DC was still ill on the day of the trip.

Person A was being unreasonable. Person B did do a bit of meddling - but that’s exactly what I would have done too! You don’t want sick kids at a weekend event. The problem is you’ll always get infectious kids at events like this. Some parents are more concerned by it than others.

You don't like person B and had an axe to grind. Highly doubt you were genuinely worried about health and safety.

then A should of been honest instead of changing their story

it would of been simple, if A had been honest

"Poorly" can mean any number of things, not all of them contagious. You presumably have no idea what is actually behind the school absence, quite rightly, because it was absolutely none of your business. You've caused a drama and spoiled the weekend for A's child by interfering. You owe A and C an apology.

Yes. I get utterly confused.

I wish people would use fake names