Wondering what others would do in this situation

[farmergirl15]

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

Poor child of Person A.

Just think of the kid.

Almost every reply is telling you, that you were in the wrong. That really speaks volumes

you can’t police this situation and it’s ended badly because you’ve massively overstepped

as someone correctly said, if it was Monday & Tuesday off school and feeling better Wednesday they would be back in, no questions asked.

yet you’ve assumed this very bizarre position of making it your mission to stop this child coming.

i don’t believe your as friendly as you say and actually sound quite manipulative.

so child is off poorly thurs & Fri, but you actually learn they were off for an emergency, which you know to be true.
that’s where it ends. No calling C. And at a push if you were concerned about the other children getting ill, then you would have asked what was wrong with the child, you know, to do your thorough risk assessment. But you didn’t

that is why I feel you were manipulating the situation, for the child not To come. I probably would be shouting at you too if I’d been treated like this. You definitely should not be running this.
and definitely need to learn how to conduct risk assessments.
youve concluded that unknown ‘illness’ was highly contagious that it would knock 40 kids down.

bonkerrs this post, and pointless, as you’re not taking anything on board even though nearly everyone has said your in the wrong

They all sound as batty as each other. Poor kids.

Person B should not have got involved. Although Person B will not accept any criticism or comments that they were wrong.

Usually people aren’t ill for more than a couple of days, so nothing to suggest even if ill on thurs/fri, that the kid was fine for the weekend? Person B = massive busybody, and frankly none of their business. They weren’t ensuring everyone else didn’t get ill (which is such a bizarre thing people think they can “manage”), just annoying tbh.

Which is quite concerning given As high level of self importance!

So you didn't want the child to attend? But then you say you are the one who said the child could attend.
Which is it?

Person b was bu - they did not know that there was any risk to others on the trip imo - for example if it was d&v on Wednesday then the 48 hours has passed by Saturday- why should B get the dc kicked off the trip! They have overstepped boundaries imo

Too confusing.

Oh gosh - I remember that question in an exam. I answered ‘Uncle Reg’ - no wonder I failed……..

You really need to climb down on this one and stop using ‘the greater good’ as an excuse. There was absolutely no reason to think the child was contagious and absolutely nothing to do with you whether they went on to attend the weekend m. You interfered where you shouldn’t and you have caused problems. A parent and child with a family emergency really don’t need this additional layer of unnecessary drama - all caused entirely by you I’m afraid. Little wonder you pushed the parent over the edge a bit. If you have a shred of decency and you are in any way suited to volunteering with children you need to accept your error. The child deserves an apology or they’ll loose faith in adults to behave responsibility and magnanimously. It’s beholden on you to issue this apology. Please do it unreservedly and without blaming the child’s already stressed parent in the mix. I say this as someone who has volunteered with a childrens organisation for many many years.

I think you mean B - as in the Op tho don’t you. Don’t want to accidentally give them an impression A was in the wrong and they weren’t eh! They’re deaf enough 😆

What did Z think of all this?

Who are you to punish this kid. Horrible spiteful behaviour on your part.

You must retrain. You have become a liability I’m afraid.

Because the Op has behaved so spitefully towards As child.

It’s not your business how other parents deal with a child’s sickness, you have no information and you’re not entitled to have information on a family’s personal life, just because your a volunteer at a group activity.
you totally overstepped and shared personal information.
A overreacted but you caused the drama.

You’re still coming across as full of self importance just because you’re a volunteer. Many parents volunteer it doesn’t make you superior. You aren’t even taking any advice that you asked for.

I think we are getting person Bs bias opinion. Person B seems to have decided the child cannot attend a weekend activity and that seems to have somehow got communicated to person A. I'd like to know why person A shouted - was person B being a knob? Did person A feel that person B and C were talking about them and don't like them or their child?

I would like to know person As side of the story.

Okay I haven’t read all the posts so apologies if someone has already said this but I think it depends on whether the trip was within or beyond the school’s guidance on illness e.g my 6 year old’s school has a rule that children must be off for 48 hours from the last instance of vomiting/diarrhoea (I’m assuming all or most schools have the same rule) and must be off for 24 hours following the last fever reading.

If the trip was within those timeframes (which I guess you have no way of knowing) then the parent should have kept the child off but if the last day was genuinely a family emergency…

However no one should have been shouting at you (or anyone else).

Agree with this

Wait - your friends kid was sick, you said oh does that mean they miss their club? And your friend said they were poorly thursday but not friday and shouted at you. So you told on them to the club?

The leader of the club said your friends kid could come, then couldn't. But you decided to tell your friend her kid wasn't welcome and to take it up with the club leader? So they rang the club leader and shouted at them also?

I think this would have been avoided if you had stopped when they said oh they were a bit ill Thursday but Friday there was actually a family emergency. Not sure why you dragged the club into it?

So you knew it wasn't illness on Friday?

Too long didn't read

Person B is a stirrer and I suspect Person A is very aware of this which is why they got annoyed.