Wondering what others would do in this situation

[farmergirl15]

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

I was just asking opinions. Tbh I would do the same again, I'm not here to make lives easier for parents, I volunteer for the children. However person does have form for this sort of behaviour.

You didn’t even know what sort of “sick” it was … it might not even have been communicable - it could have been a toothache, earache or any one of a number of things.

Person B just needs to keep their beak out of it. Nothing to do with them. Person C should also not be cancelling A's attendance based on some gossip from B. Kick B out of the club for being a pain in the arse busyhead.

Person B should simply have told the club (person C) and left them to sort it out.

Far too much meddling and to-ing and fro-ing

If I leave then the club will fold, there isn't anyone else qualified to run it, but yeah let's kick me out, the other 29 children can suffer as a result!

I did tell person c straight away

Tbh you shouldn’t have assumed they couldn’t go. The organisers can ask, but you assumed and that wasn’t your place. There should be a policy in place for situations like that and I’d bet assuming isn’t on it

That said anyone shouting at any of my volunteers would be completely unwelcome back to our group.

So you run it? You’re in charge?

That’s a totally different scenario to how your OP reads.

Did you have the permission of Parent A to share details about her child’s health ?

Person A should not be shouting and threatening, obviously.
Person B is a shit stirrer.

There's two clubs that joined together for the trip, same activity different location

You can use
Alision
Barry and
Cathy

Much easier to read!!

You should have stayed out of it, you have no idea what the family emergency was and what person A is going through. Leave it to person C to sort.

Person A and Person B need to start behaving like adults.

We can mention health of members when it comes to trips etc, especially when it concerns a risk for other participants

Person A shouldn't be shouting at people but person B should not have got involved unless person had told them their children wasn't going to make the trip

I never thought of using different names. Thanks I ll consider that in the future.

I know exactly what the family emergency was, because she told me.

Tbh it’s impossible to say as your attempts at staying anonymous are, whilst understandable, making it impossible to work out if you overstepped.

Your messages imply both that the decision wasn’t yours, that you’re part of another group, but that the whole thing would collapse without you.

Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up

Why did person A ring person B shouting in the first place?

This had absolutely nothing to do woth person B and they should have butted out.

How do you know the child didn't throw up Wednesday night then parent A kept them off for 2 days as per policy.

I feel sorry for Person C, caught up in this pathetic shit-show

Just because you think a child shouldn't go on a trip if they havnt been in school not everyone does. I will often keep mine off for an extra day if have been poorly to make sure they are fully recovered.

Person B is a busy body, they also aren’t allowed to disclose medical information to anyone else without consent of the person/their guardian.

There are two groups who have joined together for a weekend away. The child goes to my group, the other group leader was the person in charge of the whole weekend.
The child was fine on Wednesday as was at the group.
I find it strange that others would keep their children off school but then still let them go on a trip.
Once it was ascertained what was actually the illness the child would then be able or not able to attend.
I just personally couldn't send my child away when they'd been off school

That's true