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AIBU?

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Wondering what others would do in this situation

211 replies

farmergirl15 · 08/12/2024 17:46

Person A told person B that their DC was poorly on a Thursday, their DC was off school for two days. There was a weekend away planned with a club.
Person B assumed person A's DC would not be attending as they hadn't been at school and said as much to person A. Person A rang Person B shouting so Person B hung up and informed person C who is in charge of said club. It was originally decided that person a's DC could attend as person a said that their dc wasn't poorly on the Friday, they were off for a family emergency. Then person C made the decision that person A's DC could not attend. Person B messaged person A to let them know and provided contact details for person c. Person A rang person C and shouted at them also.
Persons B and C feel that persons A DC should transfer to a different club, however Person B also feels that the DC shouldn't suffer because of Person A's behaviour.
So AIBU let the DC stay even tho person A has threatened volunteers of the club
Or AINBU transfer the DC out, nobody should be threatened especially when they're volunteering.
Person A and person B are acquaintances at school, person B and C are volunteers.

OP posts:
ForkHandlesNotFourCandles · 09/12/2024 23:10

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 09/12/2024 18:45

Oh gosh - I remember that question in an exam. I answered ‘Uncle Reg’ - no wonder I failed……..

@MrsMitford3
i think the answer to you question is
The trains travelling away from London 🥴

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 10/12/2024 00:27

Sorry, this reads like a GCSE maths question.

EmeraldA129 · 10/12/2024 02:06

farmergirl15 · 08/12/2024 17:56

Personally if my child hadn't been at school before a trip then they wouldn't be going on the trip, if they are well enough for a treat then they are well enough to go to school.

If my child was ill Thursday & starting to feel better Friday, I am stumped as to why I would punish them by not letting them go on a planned trip when they had got better.

your op is so confusing, but you sound like the person that has overstepped here is you.

FeetLikeFlippers · 10/12/2024 14:10

comedycentral · 08/12/2024 17:53

I find it so hard to read when people use a, b, and c for naming, or 1, 2, 3. Does anyone else feel the same? So sorry, I couldn't follow your story, OP. I hope it ends well for you all, though 🌸

Me too, except I only I got as far as “Person A told person B” before I gave up! Then I scanned the comments to see if it was just me.

sunshinemode · 10/12/2024 14:31

So OP says she doesn't know what the illness was but then decided that it was a contagious illness, that was still contagious on Sat morning. Surely the OP knows that there are some illness that stop being contagious or were never contagious in the first place.

And whether the OP would make her child stay home all weekend due to not being in school on Friday is irrelevant. We can't run groups on the basis of what we would do as parents.

The Mum shouting is also troubling to me. Of course that's not the way to do it but if this is the main thing we look at we are looking at the reaction not the cause ie someone making a very high handed decision about a child's illness and that seems unfair.

vivainsomnia · 10/12/2024 14:42

I haven't actually been told what the illness was or wasn't
You are joking? So you automatically decide that it was an illness and one that was contagious. Why?

It could have been an asthma flair up, a slight twisted ankle, a tooth ache, a migraine, but YOU decided to take matters in your own hands and prevent a child who might been very much looking forward to go, and prevent it for no good reason.

People like you are extremely unpleasant. Don't get involved in what you don't know.

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 14:44

farmergirl15 · 08/12/2024 17:52

I'm person B, I don't want to use names as I don't want any further threats of complaints.

They can be made up...

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 14:45

farmergirl15 · 08/12/2024 17:54

That's a good idea thanks. I was helping organise the trip and I didn't want nearly 40 people getting poorly

Was the child infectious?

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2024 14:47

WaylandNewt · 08/12/2024 19:03

but then what should the op have done, said nothing and then did the i told you so after the event and everyone became infected

No

The organiser should have spoken to the mother and made an informed decision

Whatifitallgoesright · 10/12/2024 15:12

I can't see Person A B and C. Please give them names or my head scrambles.

Pippyls67 · 10/12/2024 19:23

Op you are a real piece of work. You can’t even see how wrong you were. It’s astonishing the level of your denial!

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