Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

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Or is it not that common and I need help?!

I don’t know how to explain it well, but I am basically quite often a mildly angry, frustrated and irritated woman. I can be perfectly pleasant and believe that’s how I come across most of the time as describe me as positive and upbeat and kind…. But inside I’m rarely these things!!!

Honestly, so many things make me angry inside. Bad service, traffic, the weather! I’m a miserable git. I didn’t used to be so pessimistic. Is this just life?

Perimenopause for me. It greatly reduced with HRT.

Yup. I e just embraced it 🤣

Yep - grumpy old woman with a very thin veneer of being pleasant. Sick of everybody’s crap.

Absolutely describes me 😥😥. Drop something on the floor, rage! Someone too slow in the queue, red mist, dark mornings and evenings make me want to kill people…the list goes on 😡😡

I had a bit of this in my 30s but sat myself down & sorted out what was important to be upset by & the rest just let it go. Otherwise it would really only affect my happiness

that old saying, you can’t control others behaviour but you can control how you react to other behaviour

if I get bad service, I just say I found that an unpleasant interaction, they can take it or leave it.

just let it go

No.

Yeah I am like that (I’m 46) just mildly unhappy all the time

Nope. At 61 I've realised that getting upset about stuff achieves fuck all (apart from making me miserable) so I chose not to. You do have that option.

No I do not, so not everyone, no. I'm now in my 60s and have become less angry, calmer and more contented as the years have gone by.

However, I am surrounded by angry, miserable sods of all ages who can't stop complaining about everything under the sun. If this thread helps me to understand why, I'd be extremely interested!

I have this and it’s scaring me. I remember what I thought of middle aged dragons and swearing I wouldn’t become one. And yet, I think I have become one. It’s upsetting.

It seems to be common in perimenopause, due to hormone changes, and is one of the many reasons women take HRT.

Common doesn't mean inevitable though (eg, it's not something I've experienced).

Yes, I went through a phase of this but am out the other side now at 60.

I basically don’t give a fuck. Stoicism is very useful for this.

Get your thyroid checked. I’ve suffered from unexplained rages this year and found out I had hyperthyroidism which was causing me all kinds of health issues which I’d assumed were peri menopausal related.

Not yet, no. I’m pretty easy going.

only thing I’m finding is that life is a series of chores and a lot of work. And not a lot of joy / fun. But it doesn’t make me angry, just tired.

No - definitely not something that's inevitable with age/perimenopause

Perimenopause impacts me this way. I'm finding that daily meditation & exercise helps a bit

Same here, rage like you wouldn't believe along with the complete shatteredness which only made it worse. Hyperthyroidism is a bitch!

Stop drinking affiliated coffee. I found it makes me angsty.

But I also think it's the point when we wake up and see the sh1t for what it is having spent years just accepting it. Don't put up with it or moan, use it positively to influence change.

Quite often! As a PP said, sometimes I give myself a talking to and focus on what is actually important long term, rather than short term frustrations, but it can be hard! I do think that there has been a general lowering of standards across society in many ways, less politeness, selfishness on the rise, the end of good old fashioned good manners. I can’t imagine my GP behaving like some of the people you see described here - cartwheels at a funeral, anyone?

I think this is hormones/peri/menopause/thyroid/give yourself a good talking to.

The Karen videos on YouTube are just society taking the mick out of women getting to a certain age. Yes they behave awfully but I find it a worrying misogynistic trend for the general rage we get at our age.

This. Manners are terrible. No emotional resilience to behave stoically. It benefits yourselves and others to behave. By all means have a cry to a close few.

That sounds really hard.

I get like that when I’m really burnt out. It’s a sign that I have too much else on my plate and don’t have the resilience to deal with minor annoyances. It might be that you’re juggling too much and it’s chipping away at your reserves. That can very easily make you feel miserable and pessimistic about the world.

Word! That horrid tired-wired combo, and my mood... it was like steroids on steroids...

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Not at all. In fact a lot more even-tempered now I'm in the second half of my life.