Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

[Hunkkp]

Or is it not that common and I need help?!

I don’t know how to explain it well, but I am basically quite often a mildly angry, frustrated and irritated woman. I can be perfectly pleasant and believe that’s how I come across most of the time as describe me as positive and upbeat and kind…. But inside I’m rarely these things!!!

Honestly, so many things make me angry inside. Bad service, traffic, the weather! I’m a miserable git. I didn’t used to be so pessimistic. Is this just life?

Jesus same here, I'm literally raging all the time.

Then I get annoyed at myself for being annoyed at stuff I know really isn't worth being annoyed about.

I'm 46 if that's relevant.

I'm 61...I wish I were like you! I try so hard to be, but I'm noticing I'm getting much grumpier than I used to be though I try not to let it show! I was a bit of a people pleaser when I was younger so I may be rebelling now I'm older

This. ^

This just popped up on Pinterest....I'm guessing the algorithm gods have been listening lol

Well yeah, I am mid-late 50s, and I still feel 'the rage' with things (and people) some days, and like I just CBA with most people. As I said earlier in the thread, I used to be sociable, and enjoy socialising from teens to mid-late 40s. Just CBA now. Whilst some people are fine, and I'm not anti-human, as I said, too many people piss me off/get on my nerves/bug me, and/or they're spiteful and bitchy, and I've had enough of peoples shit. Seriously, fuck them all to fucking hell now. I don't need ANYone except my DH, and my 2 adult DD. I can't see myself 'mellowing' as I enter my 60s.

And yes I know I sound ANGRY, before someone comes on with the predicable tedious 'CALM DOWN' and 'you sound soooo angry' type comments.

Boils my piss that does. 'You sound angry' and 'calm down' is usually said to try to shut down women.

Don't tell me calm down. Who do you think you are?! 😆

If I wanna rant and rave I will!

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Yeah!

I think you will come out of this and feel more content. I am much older and am calm and quite happy.

@SENMUMwhatnext Do you mind me asking how old you are? I approached gp about peri menopause as I am so erratic with moods, gross night sweats, brain fog, painful back (usual things) she recommended I tried talking therapy and said it was quite early and being on hrt for a long time isn't recommended. I was surprised, and I'll probably go back, just wondered about your experiences/age. I'm desperate to be a normal human again. Thanks

My sister, yes. She is now 60 and has been expressing those feelings for several years. In her case she has raised 4 kids, works despite physical pains that can't be fixed and they are in debt. Recently she and her DH have decided to sell the house and clear their debt, and this seems to have given them both a focus. Personally at that age I'd not be wanting to live in a caravan again but apparently the debt has been weighing on them both (he's 65).
What are your life circumstances?

People make decisions and often the result of a series of smaller decisions puts them some place they don't want to be. Consider if you have some underlying worries that keep you in a state of perpetual anxiety.

Yes I guess it depends where you live too!

I am 62 and retired 3 years ago. My DH passed away 4 years ago and my grief was overwhelming. I went back to work for a few months but couldn't cope (there'd been changes in the 6 months I was on leave to care for him). I quit and coasted on savings until I could access my Super. My anxiety is now almost zero and I don't get angry much at all. I stay home a lot as I find crowds and noise agitating, though I do go out with friends to quiet locations.
I think it has a lot to do with years of work wearing you down/tiring you out, plus hormones, and aging making it harder all the time to keep going physically under those conditions.

😂

I’ve just left a horrible marriage of 40 years (well 4 years ago)and I’ve never felt so happy in my life. Every day is wonderful and nothing upsets me anymore. I’m finally living my best life.

I’m 49 and perimenopausal. I get grumpy at things. Quite recently roads that are closed and that should already be open. I don’t even use these roads and it pisses me off.
I left a trolley full of shopping last year as I was told to go through self service check out. I don’t work there, I used to work for said supermarket many moons ago and still have shares in them. My god that pissed me off.

Bloody good on you! I wish you more happy, amazing adventures in the future ❤️

I've embraced it and am lucky enough to have been able to do something about it ( interact with less people). I'm the happiest I've ever been because I don't have to deal with so much bullshit now.

No I'm pretty upbeat things don't get me down for long. Life is too short.

Are you a people pleaser but the resentment is building up? Pour into yourself the more self care you do the more happy hormones you have (I say as someone who has exercised once in the last month and currently has a stinker of a cold and a terrible
Sleep routine!)

In a nutshell...

Not really no, that is not normal at all.
It could be signs of an underlying mental issue.

Maybe your feeling depressed and/or anxiety maybe do you good explaining to your GP how you are feeling don't leave things to simmer go get some gp advice before things reach a point where you just don't even realise who you are anymore.......thinking of you hope you get to understand what your going through

I wish more would do this! It's great being alone isn't it, or at least not in a full relationship. I've spent my life listening to my mums generation in bad marriages but "I couldn't leave him as we just didn't do that" who then judge younger people who do. But secretly I think they wished they had been able to.
I feel sad for all the women living an unhappy life and feeling trapped. We only get one

I think it's a combination of things that combine to cause the anger/anxiety/grumpiness. In my case it is stress of dc going through 'stuff'; university, leaving home whilst they are dealing with a difficult medical condition. Worrying about/ caring for older relatives and losing some which brings into focus my own mortality and the feeling that I have more life behind me than ahead of me.
Looking longingly at pictures of my dc when they were little and longing to be there again.

• I sat myself down and decided to change things (that I could).
• I joined the gym
• started on HRT (I had asked for it years ago but my GP at the time refused telling me that it caused cancer & I should just get through what was a natural process).
• Handed in my notice at work to take early retirement an extended break. I finish at Christmas & have an overwhelming feeling of calm.