Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

[Hunkkp]

Or is it not that common and I need help?!

I don’t know how to explain it well, but I am basically quite often a mildly angry, frustrated and irritated woman. I can be perfectly pleasant and believe that’s how I come across most of the time as describe me as positive and upbeat and kind…. But inside I’m rarely these things!!!

Honestly, so many things make me angry inside. Bad service, traffic, the weather! I’m a miserable git. I didn’t used to be so pessimistic. Is this just life?

I didn't mean for it to be nasty, but it's what I took from your posts. You're being controversial and captious on purpose from what I can see, therefore if you do that in real life people will bite back.

Perhaps you have been unlucky in women being nasty to you but to say it was because they were angry their looks were fading is laughable.

Take a step back and read what the women are saying on this thread rather than trying to make your voice the loudest.

Take care.

You also need to appreciate that other people's lives are different to your own.

You seemed to assume that every women has children because you do.

A lot of women don't have or can't have children.

However I genuinely understand that your circumstances are hard, that you are caring for both children and parents.

I genuinely send you a hug and I hope you have a nice December. Do something nice for yourself.

"What the women on this thread are saying".

I'm also a woman on this thread.

We are all sharing our experiences.

It happened to me when i was younger in workplaces.

Now I'm older, I see bullying happen to the younger women in our office.

The prettiest girl in my current office is disliked by some of the older women.

They bitch about her. And her mistakes are not tolerated. Other people's mistakes are tolerated.

I genuinely think that some women being cruel to other women, is a big problem on society.

Haven’t read all the posts yet but I am surprised and strangely reassured that so many posters share this feeling. The rage I feel about things sometimes… despair that things can’t just be done properly… and no, the poster who mentioned being bitter about losing looks, it’s not that! If it was it would be a much easier fix!

I'm desperate to hear more about this. I had postpartum thyroiditis (twice) and exactly the symptoms you all describe. Episodes of completely overwhelming emotion that last for days at a time. Intense exhaustion coupled with a frantic need to move around. My tsh eventually normalised but these symptoms never went away.

Over time I came to discount my strong initial intuition that the mood issues were thyroid related. Firstly because I was told that I didn't have thyroid issues any more and second because whilst hyperthyroid I was told categorically that my mood issues couldn't be caused by hyperthyroidism. And also because I was an older mother (40s) and my symptoms overlapped a bit with perimenopause.

However I've been trying HRT for a few years now and I still feel the same, plus hearing more and more testimony from hyperthyroid women, and reading emerging research, I now know the NHS endo was completely wrong about thyroid and mood. So now I'm revisiting the idea and thinking it could be related, or at least something autoimmune (I do have blood markers of inflammation etc).

I'd be so grateful if any of you could tell me more about your experience, how your symptoms came on, whether they went away with treatment etc. Anything really. It's been years now and I'm basically non functional. X

Thats a standard bullying tactic

to call someone else strange and to tell other people to ignore them.

It's textbook.

Try to engage with a conversation, instead of insulting people.

I've reported you.

heady mix of grumpiness and anxiety here... 45.

Perhaps she's just irritated by the shallow and ageist nature of the post.

The thread title is about older women, so we are discussing older women.

Its not ageist to talk about different age groups.

If you encountered hostility in a range of settings the common factor might have been you. And I'm not at all sure that it will have been the way you looked.

@Farimatafa 😂

Meditation has make me calm.

I suspect women like that have very little imagination or the capacity to understand other people's circumstances or barriers.

I know exact how you feel! For me it's especially traffic .. driving it town is a nightmare. Pedestrians who think they can cross in front of you when traffic has just started moving after sitting in a queue and then they get annoyed when I don't stop! 😡

Absolutely ludicrous mindset isn't it? I have never been jealous of ANYone. I find it utterly laughable that anyone would suggest I am jealous of younger 'prettier' women. I'm still pretty ta, and very attractive. (Like MANY women my age - mid to late 50s.)

👏

I'm definitely much less optimistic and upbeat than I used to be in my 20s... (now late 30s) which makes me sad. Guess I'm just tired and stressed a lot of the time?! When you have much more time to dedicate to yourself and hobbies, passions etc, you're happier

sigh maybe it will return after the stresses of raising a family but I think a lot of people are like this!

Hahaha agree to the clothes catching in door handle thing- makes me full of irrational rage!!

Jars and screw top bottles that defy my attempts to open them receive a verbal tirade that would shame a pirate.

Christ.

You're not even reading what I'm saying!

Go back and read.

I never said that i encountered hostility from women in a load of different settings. Did i.

Try to follow what people are saying. You rushed to insult me without even reading what I said.

I said that Ive met women in lots of different settings, who said to me that they were upset about getting older and losing their looks. They weren't hostile to me. They were talking about themselves.

That's extremely ironic.

Seeing as the person you replied to, assumed that every woman everywherre has children. Because she has children.

And I had to point out to her that lots of women don't have children.

Meditation is great!

You mentioned work and social settings where older women were supposedly jealous of your looks. And now you do seem to be getting just a touch angry 🙄