New guy ignoring me

[YourTealMaker]

Hey, I have been talking with someone for around a month, he has been the sweetest person ever & made me so very happy! - however for the past week he has rarely popped up to my messages.
we got into a heated argument when he was drunk & he called me a slag & ugly & to look at the state of my self. Accused me of having a boyfriend ect … he didn’t speak to me the day after this & then he messaged me basically saying that the truth comes out when you’re drunk. I have tried to speak to him but he has been very blunt, I asked him if he wants to meet Friday to talk. He said he will pay for a hotel if I choose one but he isn’t inviting me to his because he said “ I am fragile” and I need something from him that he can’t give at the moment (not sure what this means) i really like him but I don’t think he feels the same way

Well he has shown you how little he thinks of you. I’d ask why you think so little of your self to be chasing after this loser?

You are right, he does not feel the same way that you do. He does not sound nice at all.

He sounds awful. Block him and move on.

There are red flags all over the shop here. Forget about him and move on. He's not very sweet and lovely if he starts calling you terrible names even if it is after a few drinks. Don't try to engage any further and move on.

Why would you “really like” someone who calls you a slag and ugly? None of the decent men I know would EVER use the word “slag”, it’s completely disgusting. I think you maybe need help for low self esteem. This man isn’t worth a second of your time and thoughts.

A month in honestly move on got drama and grief written all over it

This has got to be a wind up.

Ugly slag = sweet ? Wtf

So the "sweetest guy ever"(!!!) calls you a "slag" and "ugly" and you are still chasing after him? Why???

He doesn't like you he's literally telling you this and still agreeing to meet you at a hotel to treat you like a slag because you're allowing it to happen. He's almost verbatim saying "you are showing me how overly keen you are and ill use it for sex or because I feel too sorry for you to block you". Sorry but you'd be mad to meet him again.

Why are you still bothering? It's been a month and he's already gone an insulting tirade and is outright telling you he can't give toy what you want.

Listen to him and believe him.

Tell him you're not gonna bother talking, block him and never talk again. Seriously, a budding relationship doesn't have to look like this.

Oh dear name calling so early on. Tell him to get lost. Block and move on. You are worth way more

He told you how he feels when he was drunk. He later confirmed it as "the truth" that came out. I am not really sure what more do you want. Have some self-respect and stop chasing after him.

I mean this in the the kindest way but I think that you need to massively raise your bar. Why do you have such low self-esteem that you are chasing after a guy who was so rude and abusive about you? Learn to love yourself more. Block this abusive man. You are worth much better. X

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Why would you even put up with someone who’s called you ugly and a slag! Get a grip and have some self respect.

He says he’ll book a hotel as he’s after a shag, nowt else.

The only baffling thing here is why you’re continuing to engage with someone you barely know who called you an ugly slag when drunk, and has made it clear he will only meet you for sex if you pay for the hotel room.

He doesn't sound very sweet! Let him go and find a better one.

Sweet? He's sounds horrendous. Block and moved on.

I know it’s crazy but I do have strong feelings towards him, I have only met him once dont get me wrong but ever since meeting him I literally can not get him out of my head. I’m literally having dreams about him, we would speak for hours up on hours but now I get nothing. He has basically admitted that he’s a fuck boy and doesn’t want to commit but last week he was calling me his girl and telling me all about his feelings. I have recently left a very abusive 4 year relationship maybe I’m latching on because he’s the first thing in 4 years that has made me actually feel alive again but not he’s ignoring me or doesn’t want me anymore i can’t stop thinking about it and I am acting so desperate I know but I do really really like him besides the name calling when he’s not drinking he is the most loveliest kindest person ever we’ll he was

Please get therapy. This is totally fucked up.

This can't be real

YABU if you continue to pursue this man. He's made it very clear what kind of person he is, why would you chase a relationship like that? Bizarre to be upset that he's ignoring you. Count your blessings.

Make him go too the hotel and stand him up! He's pathetic seriously! How you can even consider seeing this vile so called man?

No he isn't. You only met him once. You don't know him. At all.
All you are doing here is projecting your past experiences and trauma. I know it's often a catch-all advice but, in your case, I am being absolutely serious when I say you must seek some therapy before launching into a new relationship.
You are walking into another abusive situation - willingly and with your eyes shut. If not with this guy, then with the next one.
Surely you can see that this level of obsession with someone whom you only met once and who mistreated you so badly after such a short period of time is not healthy.

No he is not lovely and kind. Do not meet him. And definitely do not go to a hotel with him.