New guy ignoring me

[YourTealMaker]

Hey, I have been talking with someone for around a month, he has been the sweetest person ever & made me so very happy! - however for the past week he has rarely popped up to my messages.
we got into a heated argument when he was drunk & he called me a slag & ugly & to look at the state of my self. Accused me of having a boyfriend ect … he didn’t speak to me the day after this & then he messaged me basically saying that the truth comes out when you’re drunk. I have tried to speak to him but he has been very blunt, I asked him if he wants to meet Friday to talk. He said he will pay for a hotel if I choose one but he isn’t inviting me to his because he said “ I am fragile” and I need something from him that he can’t give at the moment (not sure what this means) i really like him but I don’t think he feels the same way

Fair enough but if this is the OP I think it is, she constantly name changes, exactly the same writing style and exactly the same problem men every time

So? Maybe she doesn't have anywhere else to turn for advice, or even just to talk / think things through. You don't have to read / engage if it bothers you so much.

OP I can't say anything that hasn't already been said.

For the love of god please wise up. This man is not interested in you. He's barely interested in just having sex with you!
All the details and the messages are too much.
They are embarrassing. You don't love each.
You have only known him a month.
He is telling you he is a dickhead! Telling you!
I know it's not easy when you're young and you think a bad boy likes you.
You think you can change them. You can't!
Take it from someone who knows.
I'm 40 now but once I was a 19-26 woman mooning over pathetic men who treated me similar.
I couldn't sleep, could barely concentrate or work. I was obsessed with messaging them. I almost failed my degree and lost jobs over idiot men.
Eventually something got through to me.
You are worth more. You have to care about yourself more than this cunt! One day at a time, and it will get easier. Block! And get therapy X

OK, well crack on and give her some advice that she will ignore again 🤷‍♀️

And you are still bothering with this nasty, abusive user because……

A person is not 'great except when...', they are the sum of all their behaviour- sometimes he's really nice, sometimes he's abusive, that still equals an abusive person, not an amazing person. Think of it other way- would you want to be with someone who is abusive but occassionally nice? That's what he is. You've just got out of an abusive relationship- don't throw away all the strength it took to leave by jumping back into another abusive relationship. Take some time to be on your own, re-build yourself. When you've been in an abusive relationship you lose perspective on yourself and what's normal- this isn't normal, someone should add to your world and make you feel good, not make you feel shit about yourself... x

Block him and move on

Reading through this whole thread is liking watching a car crash in slow motion.

OP - you know that you are vulnerable and have a tendency to make bad decisions.
Please hand this decision over to the respondents to this post.
This man is VILE. Forget your ‘feelings’ for him. They are misplaced in the same way your feelings in the past have been misplaced. If you go ahead with this scum, you will end up feeling worse and your mental health will deteriorate further.
Cut off all contact with him. Block him on SM, and block his number on your phone. Go COMPLETELY no contact, and mean it.

Now, once that’s done, go to your GP and get referred to some proper mental health support. It may take some time, but get yourself on a pathway to help.
Whilst you’re waiting, stay away from any men at all.
Rekindle some of your old friendships. Try to target those friends who are doing a bit better in their lives and making decent decisions.

Good luck!

If this is a genuine thread (I have my doubts) I’m pretty sure you posted about his behaviour under a different name when this happened and everyone told you to block him and move on.
That advise still applies, at the start of a relationship people tend to be on their best behaviour, if this is his best, I’d hate to see how he’ll treat you further down the line if you insist on trying to keep a relationship going.

What a awful specimen of a so called man. He has zero respect for women op that's clear to see in his messages hes making a fool out of you.

You really like him after he called you names abs make false accusations about cheating ? Maybe you need a break from dating, because neither of you respect you.

Yes it seems very familiar.

He doesn’t like you at all. You need to work on yourself so you have the self respect to find someone who calls you names absolutely disgusting. You would be very silly to keep pursuing this.

The sweetest person you’ve met?

Sure about that?