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I didn’t leave the left. The left, left me.

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GenerativeAIBot · 11/11/2024 14:09

Stop me if you have already heard this the last few days, I am trying to make sense of how I feel about Trump and other right leaning wins:

“Woke” issues being pushed to where they have been, has empowered the right by giving them something real and legitimate to campaign against. Something more than their usual transparently false bogeymen.

In general, Authoritarianism, compelled speech, no debate. Specifically men in women’s sports, in women’s changing rooms, unfettered immigration, being asked to ignore the evidence in front of our eyes.

This is happening across the world, Italy, France, Germany, USA, UK.

I remain entirely committed to progressive taxation, a social safety net, collective bargaining, workers rights, public schooling and health services as well as the rights of everyone to live contented, unmolested lives.

I reject identity politics in their entirety. For example, I consider terms like “Woman of colour” to be the epitome of divisive, racist, sexist thought patterns that seeks to infantilise people and move their locus of control from internal to external. Disempowering people and making them victims.

I didn’t leave the left. The left left me.

Reasonable?

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EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 06:16

How does the hate you refer to manifest itself?

Some examples please.

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 07:15

Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 00:17

Except for this post is about how folks have left the left over mainly one reason ut seems which as I say doesn't make sense

We get it. You think men’s feelings are more important than women’s safety. And you’re perfectly happy to flood the country with unlimited numbers of every type of immigrant because they are more important than British citizens.

you don’t think it makes sense to protect women and children and keep the nation running well.

loud and clear.

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Lovelyview · 12/11/2024 07:33

EasternStandard · 11/11/2024 23:00

There was divergence at the GE, changing the EqA which I assume Labour voters did not want

Also I notice pp saying they don't care / no one cares at the same time as pointing to shifts for politicians. It's due to women who HAVE actually created backlash that there is this shift at all. And no thanks to pp who have worked against that.

The thing is. I do want the Equality Act clarified but I voted Labour on other issues. You can't assume voters are a monolith who support everything a party stands for. I voted on what I saw as the least worst option. If Starmer hadn't backpedaled on on Labour's previously much more twaw stance I wouldn't have voted for them at all.

inamarina · 12/11/2024 07:44

Littlemissgobby · 11/11/2024 18:47

It's the shit that they say over and over can't define why prob because they don't wanna pay tax

Several posters on here have given examples of what it is they have issues with (authoritarian attitudes and unwillingness to listen to opposing views, conflict of interest between trans rights and women’s rights, just as an example), but go in, keep telling yourself it’s all about not wanting to pay tax.

EasternStandard · 12/11/2024 07:45

username7891 · 12/11/2024 00:06

This isn't some revelation. I'm perfectly aware of what's going on.

I've explained to you several times that's it's down to the organisation and in many cases, there's a misinterpretation of the law.

How do the organisations you mentioned, of which there are plenty, get around this?

If someone with a GRC enters a toilet, no one will know as it's illegal to ask for one.

What happens in reality so there are as you believe many single sex changing rooms and toilets. What do those organisations do if someone with a GRC enters?

AlpacaMittens · 12/11/2024 07:46

oakleaffy · 11/11/2024 16:33

It will be “interesting “ to see if Trump can get a handle on illegal immigration- Seems U.K. cannot, despite the disaster that is Brexit.
Brexit was entirely won on fears of illegal immigration- and now there are higher numbers than pre Brexit.

What will Trump do , exactly to stop it?

The “mass deportations “ will probably be like UK’s Rwanda idea- an expensive load of hot air.

If memory serves, the Brexit campaign focused quite heavily on the fears about legal, EU immigration. It was "Eastern Europeans" that was constantly thrown around whenever Nigel spoke, no?

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:47

inamarina · 12/11/2024 07:44

Several posters on here have given examples of what it is they have issues with (authoritarian attitudes and unwillingness to listen to opposing views, conflict of interest between trans rights and women’s rights, just as an example), but go in, keep telling yourself it’s all about not wanting to pay tax.

I rather suspect you are right. The other tell-tale is that they invariably bang on about the 14-year Tory rule, which indicates they are net beneficiaries of State largesse.

That’s fine of course, but let’s not pretend they don’t have a fiscal axe to grind.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:47

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 07:15

We get it. You think men’s feelings are more important than women’s safety. And you’re perfectly happy to flood the country with unlimited numbers of every type of immigrant because they are more important than British citizens.

you don’t think it makes sense to protect women and children and keep the nation running well.

loud and clear.

Edited

We get it. You don’t like foreign people or trans people . You don’t like them to the extent that you are prepared to vote for people like Trump.

Loud and clear.

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:48

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:47

We get it. You don’t like foreign people or trans people . You don’t like them to the extent that you are prepared to vote for people like Trump.

Loud and clear.

Edited

Foreign people?

Wow.

Errors · 12/11/2024 07:49

Haven’t RTFT, apologies but I agree with the OP.
I was only saying the other day how I’ve moved from the left to right of centre. The last time Trump was voted in, I was gutted. This time not so
much!
Its funny how people being too radical about their political view points just ends up pushing people further away

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:50

Thread poll.

YANBU 77%

Says it all really.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:50

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:48

Foreign people?

Wow.

yes- immigrants - foreign people. It’s called xenophobia. It’s very common. Because foreigners seem different. Like trans people. And people don’t like things that are different , it makes them feel uncomfortable.

Tangobag · 12/11/2024 07:53

ThisPerkySheep · 11/11/2024 23:34

YANBU OP.

I am Jewish, and have always identified as left-wing. However i have been horrified by the change to the left over the last few years.

The left has become an absolute cesspit of anti-semitism. Many prominent left wingers now parrot IRGC propaganda, and justify the beatings and murders of Jews in Israel and across Europe. Cornyn and all those who campaigned for him opened the floodgates to these vile anti-semite, and all who supported him should feel ashamed.

It has now reached the point where I feel far more uncomfortable in the company of left-wing people than I do in the company of Tory voters, as I know that the left-wingers are significantly more likely to hold anti-Semitic views that their centre-right counterparts are.

I would never vote for someone like Trump or Farage, but I do despair at the current state of the left.

You’re equating anti-Zionism to anti semitism

Seasmoke · 12/11/2024 07:54

Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 00:17

Except for this post is about how folks have left the left over mainly one reason ut seems which as I say doesn't make sense

Maybe it's because they have completely abandoned everything and anyone else on the altar of trans. Even the Greens were more concerned about this in Scotland than the environment.

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:56

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:50

yes- immigrants - foreign people. It’s called xenophobia. It’s very common. Because foreigners seem different. Like trans people. And people don’t like things that are different , it makes them feel uncomfortable.

Edited

LOL.

I have worked all round the world. I work in an international environment. My DC attend international school and speak three languages.
I am not the only one.

Behave yourself.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:58

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 07:56

LOL.

I have worked all round the world. I work in an international environment. My DC attend international school and speak three languages.
I am not the only one.

Behave yourself.

And yet here you are supporting trump because you don’t like immigrants 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:08

BunfightBetty · 12/11/2024 01:27

Of course it's a social problem, but it arises only because men are stronger and bigger. It's not a 'natural order' in a moral sense (quite the opposite, the patriarchy is inherently immoral - evil, even), but it is a reality that men have dominated because of biological differences between men and women. Nothing to do with how we conceive of ourselves in a gender sense, but instead a simple matter of strength. If males as a class weren't bigger and stronger than females, they wouldn't have been able to achieve dominance in the first place.

Yes, the solutions will likely be social/cultural one, but we need to not kid ourselves now that the sex-based differences between men and women don't matter. They do. History and crime stats make that patently obvious.

We haven't yet got to a point where all males will fucking behave themselves when they spot a woman in a vulnerable position, so we have interim social and cultural solutions, including segregating the sexes in some areas where biological females are made unsafe by the presence of biological males, such as toilets and changing rooms. It is idiotic to suggest these aren't currently needed because of some theory-woo and it helps nobody.

When females are 14 times more likely to be assaulted in a mixed sex space, it is highly immoral to argue for that.

I’m glad you have conceded at least that there are important social and cultural elements that drive sexual and gender based violence, and it’s not something that’s coded into one’s sec chromosomes.

these aren't currently needed because of some theory-woo

Can we please stop calling support for trans people names like “theory-woo”? It’s really unpleasant and gets us nowhere. Trans people are people. They are not a “theory”. This is not a superficial or trivial subject.

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 08:10

Tandora · 12/11/2024 07:58

And yet here you are supporting trump because you don’t like immigrants 🤷🏼‍♀️

There’s the left for you - belittling and telling people what they think. That’s just one reason Trump prevailed.

I support the right of Americans, and the electorate in any democracy to vote as they wish. What I don’t do is bang on about perceived electoral injustice.

Re your immigration strawman - rampant immigration has not worked in the west. Surely you can see that? As to the messaging - I don’t agree with the demonising of refugees, but I do believe people should assimilate and abide by the host nations laws and culture. I also believe in being a net contributor and providing for family etc.

Now tell me - do you have an issue with that?

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:15

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 08:10

There’s the left for you - belittling and telling people what they think. That’s just one reason Trump prevailed.

I support the right of Americans, and the electorate in any democracy to vote as they wish. What I don’t do is bang on about perceived electoral injustice.

Re your immigration strawman - rampant immigration has not worked in the west. Surely you can see that? As to the messaging - I don’t agree with the demonising of refugees, but I do believe people should assimilate and abide by the host nations laws and culture. I also believe in being a net contributor and providing for family etc.

Now tell me - do you have an issue with that?

I’m not telling people what they think. My summary was a response to the OP who made it clear that her two biggest issues are the left’s support for trans people and desire “to flood the country with unlimited numbers of every type of immigrant because they are more important than British citizens”.

”rampant immigration has not worked in the west. Surely you can see that?”

what do you mean by “rampant immigration” and how has it “not worked”?

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:17

EverythingAllatOnceAllTheTime · 12/11/2024 08:10

There’s the left for you - belittling and telling people what they think. That’s just one reason Trump prevailed.

I support the right of Americans, and the electorate in any democracy to vote as they wish. What I don’t do is bang on about perceived electoral injustice.

Re your immigration strawman - rampant immigration has not worked in the west. Surely you can see that? As to the messaging - I don’t agree with the demonising of refugees, but I do believe people should assimilate and abide by the host nations laws and culture. I also believe in being a net contributor and providing for family etc.

Now tell me - do you have an issue with that?

but I do believe people should assimilate and abide by the host nations laws and culture. I also believe in being a net contributor and providing for family etc.

Are you suggesting that immigrants are criminals who do not support their families? And what do you mean by “abide by the host culture”? Can you give an example of this?

EasternStandard · 12/11/2024 08:20

CraftyPlumViewer · 11/11/2024 23:39

https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/our-work/advising-parliament-and-governments/letter-minister-women-and-equalities-definition

The relevant part re. unlawfulness being the first paragraph of page 7, whre the EHRC explain that the more targeted a change to the EA is (e.g., if it establishes only specific spaces as sex-segregated)
the less likely it is to be a violation of the Convention (i.e. unlawful).

A wholesale change (sex = biological sex, throughout the Act) is precisely what the EHRC warned against.

That is why, when Truss (as a backbencher) tabled a bill to change sex to "biological sex" in thr Act, Badenoch (through an aide) said that while she was supportive of the aims of Truss's bill, it was unworkable in its current form.

So no, I don't think the Conservative Party were remotely serious when, after 14 years of inaction and in the face of polls showing a devastating election loss, they suddenly announced their new policy of changing sex to mean biological sex.

That letter ends in bold, and in support. Why not focus on that? Because it is in support?

There is no straightforward balance, but we have come to the view that if ‘sex’ is defined as biological sex for the purposes of EqA, this would bring greater legal clarity in eight areas.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 08:31

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:08

I’m glad you have conceded at least that there are important social and cultural elements that drive sexual and gender based violence, and it’s not something that’s coded into one’s sec chromosomes.

these aren't currently needed because of some theory-woo

Can we please stop calling support for trans people names like “theory-woo”? It’s really unpleasant and gets us nowhere. Trans people are people. They are not a “theory”. This is not a superficial or trivial subject.

Edited

Can we please stop saying the issue is trans people? It’s men being in women’s spaces and sports. It’s children being told they’re in the wrong body and potentially being put onto irreversible medical pathways. No one is speaking about transmen are they (females).

It’s not difficult.

Annabella92 · 12/11/2024 08:32

CraftyPlumViewer · 11/11/2024 22:17

And yet Trump was just voted in over economic concerns.

I also hate the notion that identity politics are a left wing thing. The American right is peddling a radical Christian Nationalist version of their country, which runs directly contrary to the founding principles of the country. Britain voted for Brexit, against its economic interests, but based on vague notions of patriotism and Britishness. Right wing economic theory has nothing to offer 95% of either countries' populace, all they do is wage cultural, identity-politics campaigns.

This is all true.

Brexit from where I was stood appeared to be primarily about wanting secure borders and national sovereignty.

Would you say then that voters perhaps care more about cultural security than economic security?

EuclidianGeometryFan · 12/11/2024 08:37

Tandora · 11/11/2024 22:59

so many questions …
Do you really think that life is that simple?
Is that how you explain all historical events? The biological attributes of different groups?
Do you apply that reasoning when analysing histories of colonisation?

you do realise that not all males are strong and not all females are weak feeble ? Are weak/ small men then part of the oppressed, and large, strong women part of the oppressors? why not?

Do you not see that it’s a problem to suggest that male violence against women, and women’s subjugation to men is coded in biology? As if it were a natural phenomenon rather than a social problem? do you not see that that type of reasoning is the entire basis of the patriarchy? That it’s the natural and order of things that men have power and women don’t?
Rape culture is also founded on that type of reasoning, child marriage, I could go on.

Anyways, I don’t think we are going to come to any understanding here, so should probably call it quits and rejoin the larger conversation.

Edited

Do you not see that it’s a problem to suggest that male violence against women, and women’s subjugation to men is coded in biology? As if it were a natural phenomenon rather than a social problem? do you not see that that type of reasoning is the entire basis of the patriarchy? That it’s the natural and order of things that men have power and women don’t?

The "natural order of things" is a concept that needs close examination.
Humans are primates. We are basically a type of animal. So to look at what is "natural" it is helpful to look at other primates.
Yes, their complex societies are built around sex differences. And the males dominate. The strong males also dominate weaker males.
And "top" females also dominate "lower" females.
Primate society is inherently hierarchical, and very frequently violent.

But just because human behaviour is "natural" do we think it is correct or moral or the right way to behave? Absolutely not. Humans are not merely animals.

It is "natural" for a tribe of primates to abandon a disabled baby, or fight against another tribe invading their territory, or ostracise an individual who looks different, etc. This does not mean that ableism, racism, xenophobia etc. are acceptable because they are "natural".

Just because the patriarchy is rooted in biology, doesn't mean we accept it. We fight it, just as we fight ableism and racism and ageism.
But to fight patriarchy, we fight the social manifestations of our biological heritage. We don't fight the facts of biology and pretend that humans can change sex.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:39

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 08:31

Can we please stop saying the issue is trans people? It’s men being in women’s spaces and sports. It’s children being told they’re in the wrong body and potentially being put onto irreversible medical pathways. No one is speaking about transmen are they (females).

It’s not difficult.

The issue is trans people, trans women specifically (because people are particularly upset by trans femininity particularly). Trans men are often ignored in the conversation, but people also get angry when trans masculine experiences are acknowledged (eg use of inclusive language like “pregnant people”) , and are trying to remove their right to access essential healthcare.

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