Am I old or has shite behaviour become normal behaviour?

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Ok. Fully prepared to be told I am unreasonable but I’m nearly choking from clutching my pearls here….

1. on a plane last week. Child with iPad on full volume. No attempt to reduce volume and no headphones in sight. No one except me seemed to be bothered so I quietly seethed.

2. in John Lewis today. Cafe. Quiet and calm except for parents entertaining toddler by playing baby shark over and over. I felt I had to leave. No one else seemed to even flinch.

3. the gym yesterday. Watching greys anatomy with my headphones on. Still had subtitles because the noise from spin was a LOT. Guy gets on the one next to me and sticks a programme on full volume. I went for pointed look but not up for confrontation tbh. He moved around the gym with his super loud programme following him.

IS THIS NORMAL. Or am I turning into cranky old bint. Am only 46. Didn’t see it coming.

I think that sensory overload is becoming the norm unfortunately. There seems to be no escaping it unless you are prepared to stay home and pretend it's still the 80s. (That's what I'm doing.)

I just tell people to turn it off. I fantasise that if they don’t I’ll play porn or ultra hammer horror at full volume, but I’d probably just scuttle off.

YANBU.
I was on the bus recently. 2 girls sat near me, both with videos/music playing on their phones. But chatting rather than listening.
2 people on speakerphone/video calls.
Plus other music/videos playing.

Totally unnecessary.

YANBU OP.
People are getting more and more inconsiderate and selfish.
Also, people are getting more entitled and don’t take responsibility for their own lives and choices.

I always ask them to turn it down etc, the only time i say nothing is if i think they could be dangerous

I do tend to think to myself that, when the places are public, it is somewhat inevitable they will be frequented by members of the public and, generally, the public are awful. And I can move away. But not so much on the plane.

Yanbu op, people seem more selfish than ever before

My dd sometimes has the tablet but the volume is as low as possible

Teenagers have been doing this forever, to be fair.

You're lucky that you've only just noticed that people can be really inconsiderate.

Yanbu

Have they? We didn't when I was a teenager as we didn't have anything to play music on in public. Unless we carried around a boombox.
And whilst I saw people with them in the park, no one played them on the bus.

I’ve played equally loud music before. Some trash metal. You only have to play it for a matter of seconds before the other person looks up and you can say “oh, I thought seeing as you were being rude and inconsiderate, I would too”. Followed by sweet smile.

Years ago I connected my Bluetooth to someone’s phone and played Barbie girl (I don’t think you can do this now)

i threw a mint at someone on the train once and stared him dead in the eye.

the trick in life is ALWAYS be the crazier person. Talk outloud to yourself if need be “anyone gonna turn that facking noise down”

it’ll be a funnier existance. And you let your inner seething out.

On the plane just ask the stewards to get the noise off. They will sort.

YANBU and it's extremely rude but yes it's becoming the norm.

And these adults are teaching their children to be equally rude.

When I was a teenager people had walkmen with loud irritating tinny music. Then the discman, then the iPod etc. The Walkman was around in the 80s.

I’m tempted to play some classical music at full volume on my phone when it happens! I choose the quiet coach on trains, and keep my fingers crossed. Even there it can be noisy. I am old!

Yanbu. This is exactly as I find life now. It’s a fucking shambles.

Sometimes I'm tired and can't be bothered to do anything but usually I ask people to turn it down or use their headphones.

I had to be asked myself once. I was using headphones but didn't realise that I hadn't pushed them into my tablet properly. I was mortified.

I never knew anyone to use them without headphones though. Nothing like music played a full volume from phone speakers.

I have my nails painted and I am shocked at the amount of people sat with EarPods on having a full conversation whilst ignoring the nail artist. I come to have my nails done and think of it as some time away from work or being with the toddlers.
Yet someone needs to be shouting across the salon whilst they use EarPods and can’t hear anything but we hear their stupid conversation. I want to say - please can you stop talking so loudly on the phone .

Or people who bring their children into the salon and give them a phone to watch on full
volume.

I am 35 but this enrages me . It’s so rude to think people want to be subjected to this noise pollution. It’s bloody rude but it seems to be how it is .

I have had exactly the same, child on plane and in cafe, it's considered normal now. I have said something about it and the noise has been turned down with lots of eye rolling

It's not just from individuals though, the noise output from shops, restaurants and bars is so loud, like a nightclub so you can't hear the person next to you. I was at the airport the other day and 3 eateries in a small, open plan space were all playing loud competing music, it was a cacophonie - painful! I couldn't sit there.

Yanbu, people are becoming dickheads. at cinema today watching Paddington and a parent allowing their child to talk the whole way through the movie. Not only that but started many of the conversations, my 9yo was livid. I should have known when she sat down she made a big deal of him identifying the number and the letter.
Absolute gobshite, everyone there had their kids there no one thinks yours is cute

I am the same age as you. Had my first child before iPads were a bloody thing. So for restaurants/planes sticking them in front of an iPad wasn’t a thing. Suffered a flight this summer listening to Alvin and the fecking chip monks. It is such an entitled thing to do in a public space. My husband bought me a really good pair of noise cancelling headphones as this crap behaviour really annoys me. You are not alone op. I would love to live on an island with only decent respectable people, with firm rules on acceptable behaviour. You could be my neighbour 🤣

We had portable 'boomboxes' and the music was coming out of the headphones. I remember idiots with really loud music coming out of those crap sponge headphones.