To not go to a wedding of a man I've never met?

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Adult niece (in-law). Never met fiance.
I'm more than happy for my husband and daughter to attend (and quite rightly so), but personally feel one shouldn't attend a wedding/invite someone to a wedding of someone whom they have never met.
AIBU?

Have you met the niece though? OP unclear.

I'm assuming you've met your niece before?

Ok. So why don’t you explain why you don’t want to go?

I attended a wedding of a friend. I had never met the person she was marrying before. Great guy! They are now happily married, their wedding was lovely.

Presumably you have met the niece. Has your DH and DC met the groom? If not why is it ok for them but not you,?

I've attended lots of weddings where I only know one half of the couple - and one where I hadn't met either of them before the wedding. They've invited me after all!

You are going to the niece's wedding - I mean presumably she will be there? The future husband isn't just throwing himself a wedding?

If it turns out the OP has met her niece before, then this is a bizarre thread.

It's totally normal to attend the wedding of someone whose partner you've never met. I've done that several times.
It's not that unusual to attend a wedding where you've never met either of the couple, especially if it's in laws. That's happened to me a couple of times, both were second cousins of my partner.

@CryptoFascist I've met my husband's niece, yes. But personally I don't see the point in attending a wedding of someone whom I have never met. Seems a little awkward and a bit false tbh. When we married we literally just had immediate family and very close friends.

Weddings are so that people can meet and blend the families and friendship groups together surely!? And it's normal to invite spouses? But you don't have to go if you don't fancy it. Are you usually antisocial?

…but you have met the person who is getting married, your niece.

If you are that fussed about meeting the groom before the wedding, arrange to go see them.

She's not my niece - she's my husband's. I've only met her a handful of times since she was about the age of 19 (she's 22 now).

But you’ve met the bride! What an odd response to a wedding invitation. What is the real reason you don’t want to go?

You're only expected to attend as a guest.

You don't need to have sex with him.

That's a bit weird, you know your husband's niece, so you would be going for her. I expect there will be people on the groom's side who haven't met your niece.

So she's your niece then or did you not actually marry your 'husband'?

But what actually is the point of attending a stranger's big day? Groom wouldn't have a clue who I am (or care less!)

But you and your husband are her family??

You clearly don't want to go but think up a better excuse because this one is pretty rubbish tbh

@Halloweenharibo She's not a "typical" niece in that I didn't meet my husband until she was late teens. I didn't know her from birth.

But the bride has invited you! Why is this so difficult to understand?

Actually I'm beginning to think everyone will have a better time if you stay home.

YANBU, no-one needs you sponging the fun out of what should be a great day/night.

The bride obviously thinks enough of you to invite you. Obviously you don't think the same about her.

Gently, OP, do you struggle with life in general? Why do you imagine you need to have known her from birth to attend her wedding? I’ve attended the wedding of people I’ve only known for quite short periods.

@Rickrolypoly No I don't really want to go, especially as they would only be inviting me out of politeness. I don't see why you'd want a stranger at your wedding (not least one you'd have to pay for?) They'd be better saving the money and using it on a nice gift or honeymoon?