To not go to a wedding of a man I've never met?

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Adult niece (in-law). Never met fiance.
I'm more than happy for my husband and daughter to attend (and quite rightly so), but personally feel one shouldn't attend a wedding/invite someone to a wedding of someone whom they have never met.
AIBU?

Yes, you’ve just reminded me of a couple of very fun weddings I attended as a +1 where I’d never laid eyes on either of the couple.

Do you know of any of the in-laws?

This must be the first why was I invited to the wedding AIBU? If it is going to be a small wedding then sometimes only the partner who is connected to the B&G will be invited, or if slightly larger wedding and work colleagues have been invited then they might not get a plus one. But usually if you are close family (as in close on the family tree) you would invite spouses of family members. What world do you live in that doesn’t realise that?

Out of interest, how much does an average wedding guest cost?

But you have your niece! How difficult is it for you to understand that it is perfectly normal to attend the wedding of your niece by marriage who you don't know very well.

I'm starting to think you're on the wind up now.

😂😂😂😂.

Why did you start this thread when you are absolutely convinced you are right regardless of what you are being told???

It doesn't matter! It's your niece who matters here and your husband, it's his family! I've been to loads of weddings where I only knew half of the couple. It's completely normal.

me too

'Thanks for the invite. I won't be coming because I don't know the groom'

That's going to go down like a lead balloon.

Most people go to weddings where they only know the bride or groom. That's kind of how weddings work. One side has their list. The other side has theirs. You're invited as the brides uncles wife. It would be odd if you weren't invited

Ah well I suppose we are all different then, and want different things from our weddings.

It would be weird, if as a couple, you were invited to a wedding where neither of you knew the bride and groom!
But a family wedding where you don't know the person who the family member is marrying is really not that unusual.

Christ, I once went to a wedding where my DH was best man, (old friend from way back), but I'd never met either of them. I was not only invited but also on the top table. Was a fab wedding and met some lovely people. Didn't think it odd for a second; would have been far odder if they'd said 'we're not inviting your wife, as we don't know her'??

This will be a great opportunity for you to meet the in-laws and they won’t be strangers anymore!

I suppose she's doesn't feel like my niece in the typical sense. Like I imagine most people have known their nieces and nephews at birth and developed that connection/bond over the years? I've only known her from afar pretty recently.

What does your husband want you to do?

OP, if you are considering not going because you don’t know your niece very well, and have also only met your sister in law a couple of times, am I correct in deducing you didn’t let your husband invite any of his family to your wedding? How did that go down?

@sandyhappypeople He'd probably like me to go but will have lots of his immediate family there so will be fine.

Who cares how much it costs to invite you? They've chosen to invite you. You became her Aunty when you married her Uncle.

And please whatever you do, if you do turn down the invitation don't say it's because you don't know the groom. You'll come across as really weird and quite rude.

If not knowing him is such an issue why don't you invite them both around for dinner?

Not your call to make. It's your husbands family. You go. Also, weddings are great fun - what a brilliant time for you and your husband?!??

Did your DH not invite his sister to your wedding?

@Saschka We didn't invite anyone whom we'd both never met before. Only immediate family and close friends.

You aren't going to get to know his family if you skip events like this. If he would like you to go, can you not suck it up and just attend?

you sound a bundle of joy.. ive said there's a drip feed and i bet there is... you don't get on with his family, or they don't like you... im guessing you didn't invite any of them to your own wedding.

@thursdaymurderclub The 17 guests included both sets of immediate family.

This is reminding me a lot of the thread where the OP was fuming about being at one of the 'lesser' tables at a wedding while her husband was at the top table (for a good reason).
Answers from that OP were similarly obtuse. Turned out there was a massive back story about her not liking someone.